Clubs open so late, Why?

[agreatguy 269]

I don't know that it's so much the club. I think they open when the people want them open.

 

So why do swingers hang out so late? Our club doesn't fill up until just before midnight then that's when things really get going. If we haven't met anyone by then it's another hour to get started if we do at all. Couple of hours of playing and we're getting in our bed at home around 4am. It ends up taking up the whole weekend.

 

We usually head out about 9 and get there around 10 so we can get a decent seat. Sure wish one of the clubs in our town would have an early opening every now and then just to see if anyone would come out. Might be the same crowd that hits the early meal at the local cafeteria though. LOL

 

On the other hand we could try the online route again but that has proven to be such a waste of time for us.

 

Swinging ain't easy!

 

Sorry, don't know that I'm looking for advice just a bit of a rant.

[Allyandhubby 39]

We've had the same experience normally leave around 11 or so maybe thats why we are not not meeting anyone. We go back at a later date see the same people and they will say y'all left to early party got started around 12:30 or so!! Well we have kid at home we can't come home at 2 or 3 in the morning LOL

[agreatguy 269]

We've had the same experience normally leave around 11 or so maybe thats why we are not not meeting anyone. We go back at a later date see the same people and they will say y'all left to early party got started around 12:30 or so!! Well we have kid at home we can't come home at 2 or 3 in the morning LOL

 

Exactly,

We love the club atmosphere, the spontaneity and to some degree the anonymity of it. We're not heavy drinkers so that's not an issue the next morning. It's just that getting up at 10am and functioning on 6 hours of sleep after hopefully a night filled with some exuberant sexual activities can make for a short weekend otherwise. Oh well, I guess it's the price we pay.

 

I guess what I'm really wondering is: When the club opens at 9 where are all these sexy people that don't show up til midnight? What are they doing elsewhere that's so awesome it's keeping them from getting there when the doors open? What are we missing out on? LOL

[padoc 1,703]

If swinging was easy, everybody would do it. We agree, there are plenty of evenings when we just run out of gas on Saturday night and go back to the hotel. When we lived in Pa, our favorite club was about an hour from home, even at that, we often got back after 3:00 am which made Sunday a true day of rest, particularly if we got to play the night before. Here in FL, its a weekend for us since we have to travel across Alligator Alley to Ft Lauderdale. The other thing to consider is that as you get older, the crowd gets younger and as I recall, when we were in our 30's we didn't even leave the house till 10:00 and partying till 4:00 was what we did. Even so, a club night is always better than dinner and a movie or netflix and popcorn.

[agreatguy 269]

If swinging was easy, everybody would do it. We agree, there are plenty of evenings when we just run out of gas on Saturday night and go back to the hotel. When we lived in Pa, our favorite club was about an hour from home, even at that, we often got back after 3:00 am which made Sunday a true day of rest, particularly if we got to play the night before. Here in FL, its a weekend for us since we have to travel across Alligator Alley to Ft Lauderdale. The other thing to consider is that as you get older, the crowd gets younger and as I recall, when we were in our 30's we didn't even leave the house till 10:00 and partying till 4:00 was what we did. Even so, a club night is always better than dinner and a movie or netflix and popcorn.

 

Couldn't agree more. The first and last sentences are especially spot on!

[Allyandhubby 39]

Sounds like we need to meet have lot in common!! LOL Frustrating to us new to the LS thought maybe we were missing something LOL

[njbm 2,874]

We do our best work in the morning and afternoon. We get tired late at night. If we go out to eat, we often have wine and beer. Food sloshing around and alcohol do not help sex. We like the early shift!

[divenaked 325]

We used to help run a local club. Had complaints all the time about starting late, so......we tried starting earlier. No one showed until the time we normally would start. After two attempts, we went back to our regular time.

[adamgunn 1,460]

What we did was prearrange a meet with a couple on SLS. That way, if we got into each other, we'd have a fun night before midnight. If not, well, we'd stay as long as we cared to.

[introvertswingr 55]

YES! We are early risers (generally by 5am most days). I require more sleep than most people, so we are usually in bed by 8pm. If I am out and about, I have a better chance at staying awake, but the clubs here don't open until 9pm. No one arrives or starts playing until after midnight. Even on the nights when the club opens at 7:30pm. It is so frustrating. Even outside the clubs, couples we meet want to do things late. I would much prefer to get the ball rolling earlier in the day. On weekends, mid day sex? Why not? Staying up that late really throws me off for a few days. I disagree about it being better than Netflix and popcorn. I am a homebody at heart. I'd rather just stay at home and do our own thing.

 

We don't have much luck at local clubs anyways, but the husband likes the environment and atmosphere. I like the music (when they play good music) part of the atmosphere. And pretending that, (as long as I don't look around too much and spoil the illusion) there are people there that find me desirable.

[agreatguy 269]

YES! We are early risers (generally by 5am most days). I require more sleep than most people, so we are usually in bed by 8pm. If I am out and about, I have a better chance at staying awake, but the clubs here don't open until 9pm. No one arrives or starts playing until after midnight. Even on the nights when the club opens at 7:30pm. It is so frustrating. Even outside the clubs, couples we meet want to do things late. I would much prefer to get the ball rolling earlier in the day. On weekends, mid day sex? Why not? Staying up that late really throws me off for a few days. I disagree about it being better than Netflix and popcorn. I am a homebody at heart. I'd rather just stay at home and do our own thing.

 

We don't have much luck at local clubs anyways, but the husband likes the environment and atmosphere. I like the music (when they play good music) part of the atmosphere. And pretending that, (as long as I don't look around too much and spoil the illusion) there are people there that find me desirable.

I wish our club would have a early open and close even if it was just a couple times a year. Say open at 7p, no one in after 10p and a hard close at 1a. Are there any other couples that would go for that. I know single guys will. If there is pussy they will show up.

 

We've had pretty good luck at the clubs. It doesn't happen every time and we don't expect it. We enjoy the sexy atmosphere. Our club encourages nudity and good deal of playing in the main area of the club so you are likely to see quite a bit going on without having to go to the private areas. The vibe always seems to be different and sometimes it takes some PDS to get things moving. We like that and don't mind starting it ourselves. We've also just gone an met one or more other couples, had nice conversations with them but then decided to just play alone or where we can be watched.

 

So several people have voiced an opinion in agreement but the question still remains. What are all these sexy people doing til midnight that is keeping them from getting to the club earlier and getting things started. Is it just that swingers don't swing until then. I really kind of find that hard to believe.

[agreatguy 269]

What we did was prearrange a meet with a couple on SLS. That way, if we got into each other, we'd have a fun night before midnight. If not, well, we'd stay as long as we cared to.

 

My wife is kind of leery of being on the sites just because of the bad experience we had early on. I'm considering just joining a site without telling her just to see if there is any interest in meeting at clubs but I don't like the not telling her part. Then I'd have to tell the couples or singles that are interested not to say anything about it. Just seems too dishonest. I guess I'll just bring it up to her and see if we can open a profile, not for dating, but to see who might be out at our club or might want to meet there.

[introvertswingr 55]

Well, if the "sexy people" for you are the younger ones, perhaps it is dealing with children/babysitters/etc. If they are even younger, many people in their early twenties keep the teenager schedule. Party all night and sleep in until the morning. Anything here would just be conjecture (unless one of the late partiers answers). Poll the people at the club . I'm a nerd, I'd be interested. I might be able to make myself stay up late to conduct a little study. It could be as simple as they came to the club one night, realized nothing got started until midnight, so from then on just came at that time. They might be sitting at home anxiously looking at the clock waiting for the magic hour.

[agreatguy 269]

Well, if the "sexy people" for you are the younger ones, perhaps it is dealing with children/babysitters/etc. If they are even younger, many people in their early twenties keep the teenager schedule. Party all night and sleep in until the morning. Anything here would just be conjecture (unless one of the late partiers answers). Poll the people at the club . I'm a nerd, I'd be interested. I might be able to make myself stay up late to conduct a little study. It could be as simple as they came to the club one night, realized nothing got started until midnight, so from then on just came at that time. They might be sitting at home anxiously looking at the clock waiting for the magic hour.

 

Sexy people for me are those who are there to play, doesn't have as much to do with age or looks as it does attitude.

 

I would think that finding a babysitter would be easier for normal hours(say til midnight) than someone planning on coming home at 4am. Now that you bring that up we did meet one couple who was looking for FF only. She and my wife played briefly mostly kissing and breast play then they said they had to go home because the baby sitter had to be home at a certain time.

 

I guess the last explanation is the most logical. Things just don't get started because there are so few there. I think maybe that there's a "the girls all get prettier at closing time" effect going on where people don't decide who they want to pursue until they feel like all options have showed up and/or time is running out.

 

I do appreciate everyone's reply.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

We kind of stay away from the clubs for this very reason. We WANT to go more often, but the closest club to us is 2 hours away and we are also morning people. We live on a ranch and I can't remember the last time we weren't awake by 7am (usually earlier) and really ready for bed by 10. Going to a club then means most likely staying overnight in a hotel (not a big deal but it does require a bit more prep and planning), but when we are already fading at 10pm (and the club only opened at 9)...well, by midnight we are DONE. If a club opened earlier...say 7pm, we would be there! Problem with that is most people have it programmed into their heads that the party doesn't start until late (midnight or later) and so they just don't go until late.

 

We actually enjoy playing in the afternoon. This way there's no rush or time crunch. Laying around the pool relaxing, BBQ some dinner, just having a good time and good conversation without any pressure is the way to do 'it' (plus it's much easier to see what is going on ). Once you've tried this, most will find that this is a great way to play.

 

Until our 'local' club starts having an 'early bird' opening, we will continue to not attend as often as we would like. We wish we could attend more, but our bodies say otherwise (I feel like we're asking for a Dennys senior early bird menu here...ugh!). Getting old does have some drawbacks (although neither of us would be swingers if we were any younger)...

[introvertswingr 55]

Haha Gold-- yes, my entire life is filled with people making fun of me for eating early and going to bed earlier than my father. Oh well. I do what works for me I'm in my 30's if that makes you feel any better. You can always say that someone in their 30's has the same preference for time as you.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

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I hope the analogy is not too strained. I suspect that too many people "shop" for the "just right" playmates using the same logic used when shopping for a major purchase like an automobile. They are aware of a model has all of the features they want but it's really expensive and decide to go to a different car dealer to look for others. They find one that has most of the features they want but it's the showroom model and when it's gone, there will be no other available. They see a pre-owned, reconditioned model. It works great but they wonder what their friends will think when it is discovered that they acquired an older model.

 

It's 1:00 am and they realize that the somebody else snatched up the showroom model and they continue to fear what friends will think if they are seen with a used car.

 

I have observed that people of my age find play partners early in the evening and are more likely to take a chance on a test drive.

[shy_couple 459]

We heard of a local group that was called “Down and dirty by 9:30.” There motto was Home In bed by 2:30. Not sure if it’s an urban legend or what but never got any info.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I group we know in a DC suburb is called "Saturday Afternoon Play". The door is open at noon and everybody is out by 8:00 pm.