Experienced opinions wanted

[IDK 15]

So when my fiance and I started dating we'd have the usual risque conversation. The topic of threesomes came up while we were at a bar. She said that she explored the idea of it before by first trying to get together with a girl so she knew she wouldn't like that. But that she thought the idea of two men was hot. Shortly before that we were at a concert with a lounge. She sat on my lap on a couch and started making out with me. A guy came over and sat next to her and started giving us shit. She was laughing and said that he was jealous and wanted to join in. She honestly believed that (I think she's right) and you could tell she was turned on by it. She's talked about it several times and whenever she has she gets excited about it.

 

I had told her that is something I would never be interested in. Especially if she wouldn't want a fmf, I thought. Not that she had approached me, but just in case.

 

That was a little over 3 years ago. I've thought about it several times since then and I THINK my feelings are changing about it. My sexual appetite seems to change depending on who I'm with. I mean the thought of fulfilling a fantasy of hers with her is a huge turn on. I guess I realized that rather recently. We were having sex and she was on top. I was having one of those times where you just can't cum and you're fucking really hard to. She was loving it and I wondered if that's something she'd really want. I wondered if she'd ever get into taking at once and looked at her face wondering how much erotic pleasure I'd see in her face. Just as I did that she started cumming. Which was a massive turn on for and I had a MASSIVE orgasm. I mean they're always bigger when you have to work for them, but damn I came much harder than I would have expected to.

 

So then over the course of the next couple of days I was thinking about and if there was any scenario that I would be ok with. I know there's plenty that I wouldn't be ok with. So as I was thinking of scenarios that I would be ok with I was finding myself getting hard thinking about it. And I'm not someone who gets hard when the wind blows. So I was jerking off, getting laid, and trying to get laid some more lol.

 

Oh I'm 40 and she's a hot 46. She was specifically looking for a younger man because, in her words, "I'm looking for someone who can keep up with me."

 

My questions are for the ladies:

Do you think it's more likely that she really gets turned on by the thought of it or that she was being playful?

How likely is it that she would want to take it from fantasy to experience if I was ok with it?

How much of a turn on is it for you to do this with your partner? Was it really exhilarating the first time?

 

My questions for the guys:

How nervous were you the first time it happened?

How do you feel about it now?

[lcmim 1,082]

My questions for the guys:

How nervous were you the first time it happened?

How do you feel about it now?

 

My idea the first time. Excited more than nervous.

Several repeat times with different gentlemen.

We would and probably will repeat with the first ones also. The opportunity just has not presented itself.

 

BTW No MM action it is all about her

[IDK 15]

Did it make you jealous watching another guy fuck her? Like part of me thinks that looking into her face while she's bent over taking another cock for the first time would be a hot turn on. But then I wonder if it would actually be a mood killer.

[IDK 15]

I asked her about it last night. She said she doesn't have that fantasy and she only said it to stifle fmf talk.

Well I'm glad I didn't dump her lol. I was repulsed by the thought of it. 3.5 years later I can come around to talk about it and I'm actually turned on by the thought of fulfilling a fantasy for her and watching her enjoy herself and that was her response. I wish I hadn't ever had to think about it because it was a lot of back and forth in my head over the years. Feeling bad when it finally did turn me on. Or when I thought I couldn't, I'd feel bad about how I wouldn't be able to fulfill her fantasy

[EastInWest 1,524]

My questions are for the ladies:

Do you think it's more likely that she really gets turned on by the thought of it or that she was being playful?

How likely is it that she would want to take it from fantasy to experience if I was ok with it?

How much of a turn on is it for you to do this with your partner? Was it really exhilarating the first time?

 

My questions for the guys:

How nervous were you the first time it happened?

How do you feel about it now?

 

I thought I'd respond to this one since we're kind of a similar couple. Not to over-explain, but she's a little older and I was the more experienced partner when we met, she was excited to find somebody who was open about sex and interested in it. We started out with casual sex, which was fairly intimidating to her, then ended up stuck together like glue. So, to your questions...

 

I was nervous the day of and on the drive to their house, but not once we got there. We'd been back and forth over the topic for a couple of years, had settled on soft swap only that first time - if anything - and were just going to see how it played out. When it happened, it was overwhelming and positive, and my biggest problem was trying not to cum when she went down on me after she finished with the other husband.

 

The next night we met back up with that couple and did full swap, MF/MF on opposite sides of the bed. Nerves were off the table at that point, it was a lot of fun. Have repeated with that couple several times.

 

Mrs. E would tell you that it was a huge turn-on and a confidence builder. She was nervous from the drive up through getting her top off until he was in her mouth, then she had her bearings that she wasn't doing anything wrong and was fully into it.

 

We consider every MFM experience a positive one, even the one that was kind of a confused mess, and talk about all of it in bed.