What was the best thing that's come from your swinging?

[ViSexual 1,008]

OK, I'll start this. The absolute best for me was the ability to really talk to my spouse. Before we indulged in swinging, it just seemed like some topics were taboo. After we'd both had sex with other people, we could finally share fun details of our experiences before we were married. And, even better, we could comment to each other about people we see. I loved her becoming my best buddy as well as my wife.

[Numex 2,420]

. Before we indulged in swinging, it just seemed like some topics were taboo. After we'd both had sex with other people, we could finally share fun details of our experiences before we were married..

 

For my wife and I, it was the other way around. We are each others best friends, so there weren't any taboo subjects for our conversations. Talking about our past loves, then more casual relationships generally, then getting into the details of what we did and enjoyed with them sexually turned us (me at least) on. We (at least I) weren't thinking about swinging, but our conversations led me to think, then tell my wife that if she wanted to fuck a guy she told me she really enjoyed from her past, it was more than OK with me. She did, it was fun for us, now we both have fun with like-minded couples.

 

As for the best thing to result from our actual swinging? The sex. The sex with other people and between us, and the feeling that we have reached our full sexual potential.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

The freedom of knowing if you meet someone and feel a sexual desire for them you know you can have that desire satisfied with your spouses blessing.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I have developed the confidence for social events to walk right up to any woman in a room and begin a conversation.

[Married63 21]

Meeting some of the nicest people that are now my close friends

[ViSexual 1,008]

The freedom of knowing if you meet someone and feel a sexual desire for them you know you can have that desire satisfied with your spouses blessing.

 

It certainly did change our outlook on life, huh? ~

[ViSexual 1,008]

Meeting some of the nicest people that are now my close friends

 

I agree wholeheartedly, there are no better friends than folks you feel comfortable with, and enjoy, whether your clothed or naked.

[Guest]

I have become much more confident in dealing with men whether in social, sexual or professional interactions. Also, for hubby and I, jealousy has seemingly been eliminated from relationship.

[PSULioness 857]

The best thing that happened was our marriage. I had my first threesome while living with someone and he wasn’t part of that first time. I had guilt and admitted to what happened. We had never discussed swinging or my bisexuality which I didn’t know I had that desire. It originally caused a bump in our relationship though it opened thoughts and conversation which led to a better understanding of our love for each other. It also led to our love being sealed with marriage.

[Shore2Please 612]

We have learned to not be jealous and that we can still enjoy other people while still keeping a strong marriage and love at home. We have also made some terrific friends

[TwoFunTexans 103]

Confidence. We both are drastically more confident in ourselves. This has spilled over into our vanilla life as well and I am glad for the personal growth.

 

Also, we can talk about anything now. Before the ls, we still hadn't talked about fantasies that were outside the norm in any way for fear of judgement. Now we talk about anything and everything.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Maybe this won't make sense to anybody else, but we've really come to appreciate having a small circle of friends we can actually be open about sex with. It's a big part of both of our personalities and it's just unbelievably relaxing to be able to hang out, have a drink, talk openly about getting off, and get undressed. That boundary can feel very cloying in vanilla friendships.

[SoORCouple 22]

We're new to the scene, and our only sexual encounter with another couple wasn't great, but it has had some amazing benefits thus far:

 

• Our communication has gone from good to great. We have to be very open and very accurate.
  
• Discussing possibilities, communicating with others, meet'n'greets, and a recent encounter has resulted in super charged sex between us.
  
• Naughty talk during sex, at times, draws inspiration from our fantasies in this area.
  
• We've met some cool people in the process, even if we couldn't get together for whatever reason.
  
• Some of the wackier moments in the research, discussions, etc., have provided laughs.
  

 

Thus far, shifting gears into this lifestyle has been a net positive, though our experiences with others is pretty limited now. Here's hoping our schedules are less crazy so we can explore more.

[couplers 4,649]

I agree with all of the above, but for me the best thing to come from our swinging is our poly family. First, it was the openness of my husband to letting me keep my old boyfriend. Then my eventual openness to allowing him to have sex with other women that led me to discover my Lesbian side. That made possible the three of us joining with two other women in a committed relationship that now includes five children.

[venusshaw 123]

All of the above and the fact that it makes me realize that I am still attractive to men and from age 21 to 100 they all want to sleep with me as if it is the most natural thing to do. When I was 30, I had the perception that I will be asexual by 60. Now I realize, that swinging keeps it alive for as long as you want it.