Afterglow and Cuddling

[PSULioness 857]

When having sex with my husband there is a feeling after orgasm where I just want to stay in his arms and enjoy the moment. This Afterglow gives us time to enjoy the moment, and a time to get our breathing and heart rate to return to normal. A time to really connect, a time to cuddle and snuggle. A time of quiet and a time to giggle. So many mornings we just don’t have the time. It’s a rush to shower, dress and rush to work. The afterglow feeling stays with me during the day.

 

How do you handle Afterglow when you are with another partner? Do you cuddle with others? Is snuggling and basking in the afterglow to intimate to share with a LS partner?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Well, it depends.

 

For just a quick hook up at a club or party, while there might be post-orgasm play, I wouldn't characterize it as 'cuddling.' It's just a continuation of the sex.

 

On the other hand, I/we/she have gotten very connected to regular partners. In that case, there has been 'cuddling' after sex. I don't think it's wrong, as long as all remember when it's over that our SO is more important than the temporary partner.

[Alura 2,774]

After making love with Laura, the afterglow was wonderful and prolonged. We usually fell asleep in each other's arms. I don't remember any such feeling after "fucking for fun" with a swing partner. We were usually still giggling.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Owing to the fact that swing situations are for me nowadays in relaxed, casual venues, cuddling happens with most play partners. A short nap often ensues. In the old days with club visits and such, it was wham, bam, thank you, ma’am.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

Curiously (or not) our after sex reflections tend to be more than afterglow cuddling. Conversation wanders. It is not an emotional tie as much as it is a sharing of our stages in life.

 

There is an old saw to the effect that the partners within a particular couple begin to resemble each other after a time. We observe that the journeys of older LS couples lead to a relatively common perspective on life, and there is something quite calming and reassuring about exchanging bits of those tales.

[padoc 1,703]

WE agree with the above. Our play time is way less frenetic than it was 15-20 years ago and generally our playmates have equally mellowed. Consequently, sex with others seems a bit more intimate and relaxed for us which leads to a gentle afterglow and often times a group cuddle. If we've played separately, we often find that we cuddle with our partners far more often than we did when we started this hobby. This happens without any kind of jealousy with either of us. Sometimes being all grown up has its benefits!

[Guest]

There can be afterglow in swinging. Sometimes its simple cuddling or it may involve a bit of playing with his dick or massaging his balls, even a bit of gentle licking or sucking to express your appreciation.

[Wornsilver 219]

"Being all grown up has its benefits." "...a relatively common perspective on life." I would submit that these are rare phrases on the combative internet of today. And the descriptions of monogamy, particularly as it refers to celebrities, are filled with conflict and disgust. To all of you--Thanks.

[agreatguy 269]

There can be afterglow in swinging. Sometimes its simple cuddling or it may involve a bit of playing with his dick or massaging his balls, even a bit of gentle licking or sucking to express your appreciation.

 

To me, this would be more like afterplay. Parsing words? Maybe, but what you describe here would be fine with me for a short period of time if it worked out that way. I like having my balls massaged or my cock kissed and licked a little.

 

More intimacy than that really isn't what we're looking for though. In swinging situations we're usually up and done fairly quickly once the final orgasm has happened. Of course, that's pretty typical for club hook ups. Someone is usually waiting for the bed.LOL Then again, club hook ups are what we prefer so that we don't get all caught up in too much intimacy with the other couple anyway. We may go back out and sit and talk some more but it's nothing intimate.

 

We usually cuddle in the afterglow of our own sex for half an hour or more occasionally just falling asleep like that.

 

Isn't it funny how we all consider these things differently? We really have no desire to cuddle as that may be too intimate but for us, swinger sex without kissing would be too dull. Other's find kissing too intimate. Go figure!

[Shore2Please 612]

I see no problem with cuddling and enjoying the person you have just been with intimately. I think I would feel used if after his orgasm he got up and left. Then again I enjoy spending the night with a swap rather than a group sex party. My enjoyment is the whole night and not a wham bam screw. I realize everyone has their own rules. Our rules are "have fun". Kissing to me is a must. The afterplay is as important as the foreplay. Cuddling on my partners chest, even falling asleep in his arms and waking for more intimacy makes for a wonderful night. For me a night with a man is not much different than a night with my husband. The rule my husband and I have is that we don't forget who we are going home with. We both know it is sex and intimacy, not love, but making love is fine.

Just so people don't jump on my response negatively, our marriage is as strong as it has ever been and we have been doing this now for a few years. We do discuss our nights in detail after. I only hope that my husband treats the other wife as well as he treats me and that she can enjoy the sex as much as I do the other 364 nights, or so, of the year.

[couplers 4,649]

When having sex with my husband there is a feeling after orgasm where I just want to stay in his arms and enjoy the moment.. So many mornings we just don’t have the time. It’s a rush to shower, dress and rush to work.

 

An excellent point you make. For me, the post-orgasm cuddling and joy can be with either of the two guys or other two women in our poly family, especially falling asleep in his or her or their arms. But morning sex usually energizes, making me more manic; a mid-day quickie even more so.

 

How do you handle Afterglow when you are with another partner? Do you cuddle with others? Is snuggling and basking in the afterglow to intimate to share with a LS partner?

The women in our poly family play with two other guys: a regular boyfriend nearby who we share (as we've entered out thirties, two guys in our family can't provide enough sex for three women), and Walter Lora's ex, just several times a year. With both of those guys our sexual activity tends to be in group situations, but the Afterglow is definitely there and I enjoy it, cuddling and sleeping with one of them if he's spending the night.

 

Reminds me, however, of a song by Melody Gardot, If I Tell You I Love You, where she sings:

 

But I say 'fore we go

To the land down below,

If I tell you

I love you --

I'm lying

 

But usually the sex with Frank or Walter is frantically intense before a second, concluding orgasm with someone in the family with whom I will cuddle into sleep.

[Norcalswing 24]

We love cuddling each other and swap partners. If we get to a comfort level where we can all snuggle together then there's nothing better. We look at the whole swinging thing as a gift to each other not to deprive ourselves of that schoolboy crush that is so much like a drug. To say you can only feel that once doesn't seem fair in life. If we snuggle another person even for hours, it's still that gift to let each other enjoy this feeling.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

This Afterglow gives us time to enjoy the moment,a time to get our breathing and heart rate to return to normal. A time to really connect, a time to cuddle and snuggle.

 

This is how my wife fell in love with her favorite. I was happy for her. I was happy that she enjoyed herself. I wasn't expecting her to fall in love.

 

Great sex causes great emotions.

[VegasNudeCouple 167]

Cuddling to me as a woman is very important after Making Love, not Fucking. Whether it is with my hubby, friend, or multiple friends. The warm, human flesh together is so important, no matter who is in the Afterglow. I find that I enjoy a short Afterglow at times as I can go again and usually want to. My favorite is to be in the Afterglow outside in the sun which we do often

Laura

Dave and Laura

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[venusshaw 123]

I always cuddle in the afterglow with my sex partners, until they are ready to get up and go, or I get bored. If the guy just leaves after his ejaculation, I will feel used - because this hasn't happened yet..

[couplers 4,649]

Cuddling to me as a woman is very important after Making Love, not Fucking. Whether it is with my hubby, friend,..

Same here, it doesn't matter who or whether it is a guy or woman, it matters what mood I'm in.

 

I find that I enjoy a short Afterglow at times as I can go again and usually want to.

If I'm in a really sexually manic mood, there is no Afterglow the first, or even the second time. After I've had my fill and am sexually exhausted, then I get to cuddling.

 

... If the guy just leaves after his ejaculation, I will feel used...

There are times after we've both orgasmed I will just get up and leave (or more likely move on to the next partner). The only time I would feel used is if he ejaculated and left, and I hadn't yet orgasmed.

[VegasNudeCouple 167]

I used to hate guys that ejaculated and leave. I want to explore more of others' bodies. Now if we are in a public group setting, yea, we both like to move onto other lovers, even if we are both still dripping cum. My favorite is when we get our lovers to join us in a warm shower.

Laura

Dave and Laura

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