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I have been wanting to ask this for awhile. Guys are obsessed with their size. Too big or too small. Guys like to brag how many inches or question if they are smaller. I wonder if I worry too much about my size. I have never had a guy complain I am too big there. I don’t think a guy having sex will really ever complain lol. I look in the mirror and I see myself. Small breasts. Growing up I used to be envious of my friends developing more than me. My nose is big. My butt is flat. My hips wide. I am thin, maybe too thin. Then there was Down There. I just thought mine was ugly. Was I too big? Too long? Too loose? My clitoris too sticking out? I researched and read vaginas are about 4-5 inches inside. I found a toy my mother had that was 8 inches and after school I would play with it and it would go all the way in. Was my mother big too? I couldn’t ask her. I felt better when I read that like men I could get bigger too. I still obsessed with the visible size. Again no guy ever complained. It wasn’t until I played with other friends that I got to see up close others. I feel mine is looser on the outside and I hate what it looks like.

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There is nothing in the way that you describe yourself that would 'put me off'.

 

I assume that by your vagina being looser on the outside you means you have a prominent labia? Nothing wrong with that, yes is feels different from someone with a small labia but variety is the spice etc. Inside, again every woman is different inside & give a different 'feel' again it's all about variety. You worry too much.

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Doesn't matter to me at all.

This is about variety. If every pussy was the same what would the fun be in that?

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Guys are obsessed with their size

 

...and so are women. I don't seem to recall any posts where the woman said a guy was too big or too small (ok, too big may have happened). I don't think you will find many men criticizing a woman for much either (especially if they are already naked). A large protruding labia or a small labia...don't care and it doesn't matter. It's just how you are. I don't know of any guy not being interested in a girl because he didn't like her vagina...too deep, not deep enough, labia size, clitoris size, etc. It's only women who spend time with this.

 

All I do know about Lioness is from what I've read, and that is damn sexy. The rest doesn't really matter.

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Well, my young fellow board member, there are a lot of us men who prefer small breasts. And I, personally, love a large, wet, vagina. You know, in double penetration, it's so much better if both of us guys are in it together.

 

And, from getting to know you a bit from your posts here, I'm betting that you're one of the first picked by the guys at parties you attend.

 

Now I've always been a bit larger than average but I loved an old joke about a guy who wasn't;

 

The joke was about a man who, when dropping his underwear in front of a new partner, was asked, "who do you plan on pleasing with that"?

The man didn't hesitate to smile and reply, "me"!

 

If you're having fun in the lifestyle, that's all that really matters, huh?

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Thanks for the nice words. No I’m not the first one picked at parties. I am far from the prettiest one there. I know there are guys that like small breasts. My husband says he rather be with a small breasted woman. Do you ever hear guys saying Wow look at those small tits? No, guys gawk at big breasts. Even my husband has said look at the fuckin tits. I’m going to let you in on girl talk. We do notice a guy who has a big one. Even before I got introduced to parties with naked guys my friends and I noticed guy friends with a bulge in their pants. I think it’s just a thing that a guy is big. More of a fascination and a curiosity. I can’t remember anyone saying a guy is too small. I do notice guys who are smaller but would never say anything nasty or hurtful. I do worry that I’m too big and someone won’t feel me. I just always figured if I’m on top it would be good for both of us.

 

Sorry I’m not interested in two in me like that at once. Also don’t want one in my butt and one in the puss.

 

Oh, I am not interested in guys who are more interested in pleasing himself more than pleasing me.

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For the record: Even though the Ms. has large breasts, I'm more of a nipple fan. Doesn't matter what size breast they are on.

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Lifestyle sex is free sex. It is like being in Paradise. When in Paradise, you do not distinguish between size, shape, color, ethnicity. It is about two or a group of people having the fun of their life. If you want to enjoy the Lifestyle, trash all morality, comparisons, distinctions and spring forth to enjoy life in Paradise, while still on Earth.

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... I wonder if I worry too much about my size. I have never had a guy complain I am too big there. I don’t think a guy having sex will really ever complain lol. I look in the mirror and I see myself. Small breasts. .. I am thin, maybe too thin. Then there was Down There. I just thought mine was ugly. Was I too big? Too long? Too loose? My clitoris too sticking out? ... I still obsessed with the visible size. Again no guy ever complained. It wasn’t until I played with other friends that I got to see up close others. I feel mine is looser on the outside and I hate what it looks like.

Hi Lioness, Petra here. I am about 10 years older than you and used to think the same thing. I am thin, athletic is a polite way of putting it; my tits are small, my inner and outer labia are larger and my clit is big. And I still look like a girl. But as you said, guys and women who are feeling, playing with, fucking any of it don't complain.

 

Guys who I'm not sexual with (and a few women as well) will start talking after they had a few drinks (when especially with underlings and superiors at work over-the-top sexual comments are met the next day with "It was really great talking with you last evening." Even outright propositions are declined graciously and accepted as compliments. I want to know what people are thinking and keep them talking.) They express interest in things because of what they don't see: no curvy fat, does she have muscles? I do. Small breasts that aren't popping out, what is there? Tits that aren't sagging with unexpectedly large nipples for my breasts. And what's between those hard butt cheeks and runner's legs? They'll never know.

 

Growing up my older sister told me that I was a freak because of what is Down There. It frightened me for years. Now I'm proud of it all. I have great orgasms and the men and women that I have had sex with find it, ah, refreshingly different. They have no problem finding where and what to lick. And while I never worried about being loose until after I had a baby, if it's of concern, clamping on a guy's dick is something you can develop.

 

I don't how developed your Lesbian side is, but when I started playing with women it greatly increased my appreciation for women's sexual parts and increased confidence in myself. Not because I was the same, but because it was all different and all perfect. (I'd rather be like me than the women that have very little down there.)

 

I am far from the prettiest one there.
By whose standards? No one who matters. Fuck that, girl.

 

Do you ever hear guys saying Wow look at those small tits?
As a matter of fact, yes; about me and other women.

 

... We do notice a guy who has a big one. Even before I got introduced to parties with naked guys my friends and I noticed guy friends with a bulge in their pants. I think it’s just a thing that a guy is big. More of a fascination and a curiosity. I can’t remember anyone saying a guy is too small.
Yeah, big dicks are like big tits - a fascination, even for men, and curiosity about what it would feel like. It's not a value judgment. (Although freak that I am, I look at a guy's testicles more, their size, how they hang in the sack, how distinct they are. As a young girl it always enthralled me when people would say something like "he's got balls." In my mind testicles were the source of all masculinity.

 

...I do worry that I’m too big and someone won’t feel me. I just always figured if I’m on top it would be good for both of us.
I can't believe that you're worried about that. If you're feeling it, he's feeling it. And as you said, no guy has ever complained.

 

Sorry I’m not interested in two in me like that at once. Also don’t want one in my butt and one in the puss.
I've never had two dicks in my vagina either. Not that I have anything fundamentally against it, I just don't think it would be easy to do or feel that good. I do have one in my bum and one in my vagina on occasion. It's good for me because I can't orgasm from anal by itself, although I'll do just anal if I've already been totally satisfied and he wants to. Obviously, in-the-bum is the last act of the day and earns a trip to the shower with antibacterial soap. Have you tried anal?

 

Oh, I am not interested in guys who are more interested in pleasing himself more than pleasing me.
My feeling is that a guy should earn his fun with my body by pleasing me. That's what my husband does without me asking. I expect no less from any other guy. Women understand this with each other.

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... no guy ever complained....

I think that is your answer right there.

 

BTW... A nice "meaty" puss, and/or a large clit, is a big turn-on for me (but it is not a requirement either).

 

My favorite expression for this topic is that: "What matters most is not the size of the prize, but the motion of the ocean."

 

What matters to me more than anything is how my lover responds to me.

 

There is absolutely no way to tell how two people are going to respond to each other just by looking at them. You have to try it. Swinging allows you some variety in that respect. Hey! That sounds great!

 

For me it is mostly about the feeling. And when I'm feeling it, size has absolutely nothing to do with it at all.

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Everyone is concerned about their various sizes. My member is average. I lost a lot of weight two years ago, but I wish I could lose more. I am quiet, a little introverted and shy till I warm up. I can’t compete with the alpha male-predators who we often meet at lifestyle events.

 

But my wife “gets me” and I have met many women who have appreciated my efforts and I have had a lot of fun.

 

Lioness, you sound very nice from your posts and that will shine through as you meet people in the lifestyle.The people that you want to meet are not weighing, measuring or timing their partners, they are just trying to have fun.

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I post on here thoughts I can't post anywhere else. I am sorry if I am too personal. I found this board in a very strange way and I have found so many of you open to helping so many others. I know you aren't all sex addicts. I was afraid to post on here at first thinking who would be on this site. I found out that you are normal, for the most part. Business people, lawyers, doctors and just everyday people looking to help others with their doubts and curiosities. It looks like many of us have had the same experiences. I have shared some really private thoughts, being bisexual being the most scary I thought. I found it easy by being anonymous to share my experiences.

 

My body is something I seem to have always had my doubts about. I know it is silly. I grew up with those who were all shapes. The friends who I thought were very pretty had doubts about their own bodies. I have a friend who to me has a perfect body and she she has always said to me that she wishes she had my body. When i was younger others developed before me. I wear glasses, my butt is flat, my hips wide. I was awkward. I was able to talk about looks with certain friends. I couldn't talk about what I looked like down there. For the most part this board is the first time I could really open up about it and only because it's anonymous. I have joked with my husband about it and he says that I am crazy. I have now in the last year or more seen other friends parts. Of course we are all different, maybe mine is just more different.

 

I think I know how a guy with a small penis may feel. I think it is ridiculous for anyone to hide their body. I know that I have had good sex with someone who was on the small size. I think I had to prove to myself that I wasn't too big for him. He even said that it was great.

 

So much for my Hump Day post

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I have joked with my husband about it and he says that I am crazy.

 

He's right (I know, you can't actually tell him that though). As the old saying goes, beauty is only skin deep...but sexy is something that comes from inside and has nothing to do with the skin.

 

I have a friend who to me has a perfect body and she she has always said to me that she wishes she had my body.

 

You are a VERY sexy woman and that is something that your friend can see and wishes she had. We all see the 'flaws' in ourselves but they are usually only seen by us. Trust what others tell you: your husband, your friends, us...your opinion is distorted due to your proximity.

 

I found out that you are normal, for the most part.

 

Careful, after saying nice things about everyone on the board, you have to go out and call us 'normal'...some of us might be insulted by this :lol: Thank you for sharing with us.

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When it comes to having sex with you men have already made up their minds long before any clothes come off.

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I post on here thoughts I can't post anywhere else...

 

Please excuse me posting my thoughts, something that haunted me when I was in my early and midteens, and now my family thinks my past imagined horrors are so silly they just dismiss it. I know that it is an unreal ghost, but for me it was once so real.

 

As I went through puberty, both sets of my labia and especially my clitoris became so large I believed that I was intersexed, or an hermaphrodite (although being associated with a god seemed not so bad). My older sister calling me a freak certainly reinforced the idea. I was scared that my clit would keep growing (it did) and turn into a penis (it didn't). I was afraid that I would just need to hide it forever, that no one would ever want to love me in a physical way. It sometimes kept me awake at night and gave me stomach aches at school.

 

Long story short, although my breasts are small and I appear muscular (only because I have low body fat), I never developed any other male characteristics. My voice is high, my nipples large, I have sparse body hair, and even now over thirty, I look like a girl. The first person to go Down There was Red; he was eager, I was horny and to my surprise he loved it, just loved it. (Red knew that I was a virgin, and it helped that he started by doing oral on me and that I had been opening my vagina up for years by using tampons and inserting my fingers when masturbating.) Now fourteen years, four more guys and numerous women later, they all have liked it, enjoyed it (as have I) and I am proud of whatever it is, is Down There. For a while, however, it was a personal hidden nightmare.

 

...no guy ever complained.
Or woman has ever complained. Amazing how important that is to making us feel good about it.
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Mike and I always discuss things after a night of fun. Physical attributes will be part of our talk. Good body, chubby, nice ass, nice tits, nipples. I will comment on the guys too about his equipment. We all know about size and shape. I will joke about things and comment on great things. Mike will say how a woman tasted of how sexed up she was. He will make comments on her vagina only if something was strange. A huge clitoris he will call a penis. He has said that he know knows what it's like for me after he gave a blow job to a clit. He has told me about tight ones. I can't say he ever told me that someone was too loose.

 

We notice plenty about the people we spend time with and he has never been turned off by a woman's genital size.

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Please excuse me posting my thoughts, something that haunted me when I was in my early and midteens, and now my family thinks my past imagined horrors are so silly they just dismiss it. I know that it is an unreal ghost, but for me it was once so real.

 

As I went through puberty, both sets of my labia and especially my clitoris became so large I believed that I was intersexed, or an hermaphrodite (although being associated with a god seemed not so bad). My older sister calling me a freak certainly reinforced the idea. I was scared that my clit would keep growing (it did) and turn into a penis (it didn't). I was afraid that I would just need to hide it forever, that no one would ever want to love me in a physical way. It sometimes kept me awake at night and gave me stomach aches at school.

 

Long story short, although my breasts are small and I appear muscular (only because I have low body fat), I never developed any other male characteristics. My voice is high, my nipples large, I have sparse body hair, and even now over thirty, I look like a girl. The first person to go Down There was Red; he was eager, I was horny and to my surprise he loved it, just loved it. (Red knew that I was a virgin, and it helped that he started by doing oral on me and that I had been opening my vagina up for years by using tampons and inserting my fingers when masturbating.) Now fourteen years, four more guys and numerous women later, they all have liked it, enjoyed it (as have I) and I am proud of whatever it is, is Down There. For a while, however, it was a personal hidden nightmare.

 

Or woman has ever complained. Amazing how important that is to making us feel good about it.

 

Reading your comments helps me realize that women come in all shapes and sizes.

 

I too have what I think is a larger than normal clitoris. My husband loves it, and I like the feeling when it gets enlarged and erect. I was embarrassed by it for years, but have learned to embrace and appreciate that difference.

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I too have what I think is a larger than normal clitoris. My husband loves it... I was embarrassed by it for years, but have learned to embrace and appreciate that difference.

After all my worry and fears that men would be repelled by my genitals, I have found that both men and women who have seen or touched it, like it. Mostly because they don't need to go looking, it is right there sticking out. You mention your husband; any other sex partners make any comments?

 

 

I like the feeling when it gets enlarged and erect..
Since we all only get one of our bodies, I can't say how it compares to smaller women, but Clair has a very small clit and she has some pretty intense orgasms. Clair, Lora and I can all orgasm pretty easily both vaginally and by stimulating (mostly by licking) our clits. Some women I or hubby have been intimate with can only cum with oral, and one for whom oral did nothing but could be vaginally satisfied. OTH, both Clair and Lora can cum from anal by itself, but I can't. It can feel really good, but I need DP or a licking to go with it.
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The HuffPost is not my go-to source for information on human sexuality, but this article by Pamela Madsen comports with my understanding of female genital anatomy. Bottom line is that whatever the size of the external part of the clitoris, it’s like an iceberg in that most of it not visible to the naked eye.

 

Here’s the part of the article that’s relevant to this thread:

 

“The clitoris is actually close to four inches in length (kinda like the average non-erect penis), but three-fourths of it is hidden from view within a female’s body. It’s buried treasure...Besides the clitoris being made up the clitoral head, the hood and the clitoral shaft, it is also composed of the urethral sponge, erectile tissue, glands, vestibular bulbs and the clitoral legs. Only the clitoral head and the hood are located outside the body. Some sex experts believe that the G Spot is actually a part of the clitoris.”

 

And here’s the link to the entire article:

 

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/12-crazy-amazing-facts-about-the-clitoris_b_7501188

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Since a lot of this seems to address the preferences of guys, I will address them from my point of view as a guy.

 

Small breasts.

I've preferred small breasts all of my life. Almost every gf I've had has been an A or B cup. That's what appeals to me. Didn't see a D cup up close and personal until I was about 40 and it was mostly, meh. No big deal.

 

I am thin, maybe too thin.

Well, that is one reason that I seem to prefer women with small breasts. Although some women with large breasts can be thin, (especially if the breasts are bolt ons), that doesn't seem to be the rule, at least from what I've observed. So, I can't see that being an issue.

 

My clitoris too sticking out?

That seems to be the case when a women is aroused and if you are comparing that to women in photos, my guess is that models in photos are anything but aroused when posing for a photographer and crew.

 

I researched and read vaginas are about 4-5 inches inside. I found a toy my mother had that was 8 inches and after school I would play with it and it would go all the way in.

You stopped short on your research. That 4-5 inches of the average vaginal canal refers to the length when a woman is not aroused. Arousal can cause it to double in length as needed.

 

I feel mine is looser on the outside and I hate what it looks like.

Not quite sure what you are referring to here when you say loose on the outside. As for the labia (which I assume is what you meant by size, earlier), I think that's a personal preference. I actulaay find longer labia minora that protude out to be a turn on, and to be quite honest, in all of my years, I have never heard a guy say much of anything either way about labia size. I'm really not sure how this notion of labiaplasty ever got started, but trust me, guys in general are not going to pay that much attention. As for being loose throughout, yes, that's possible, but my personal experience has been that tight has a lot to do with physically fit, so exercise would be helpful if you really thought there was a problem. Most likely, you are not unlike the rest of us who would like to be greek gods and goddesses, but are stuck with being normal people with normal bodies.

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After all my worry and fears that men would be repelled by my genitals, I have found that both men and women who have seen or touched it, like it. Mostly because they don't need to go looking, it is right there sticking out. You mention your husband; any other sex partners make any comments?

 

 

Since we all only get one of our bodies, I can't say how it compares to smaller women, but Clair has a very small clit and she has some pretty intense orgasms. Clair, Lora and I can all orgasm pretty easily both vaginally and by stimulating (mostly by licking) our clits. Some women I or hubby have been intimate with can only cum with oral, and one for whom oral did nothing but could be vaginally satisfied. OTH, both Clair and Lora can cum from anal by itself, but I can't. It can feel really good, but I need DP or a licking to go with it.

 

I have only been with two other guys other than my husband. One in my teens and the other when I was 20. Neither talked about it, so I don't know if they liked it or not. This was back in the 80s, and before waxing down there was popular, so they may not have noticed. I really do not know.

 

I am a bit bi-curious, and wonder how another woman would react if/when the opportunity presents itself. I suspect that it would fun to find out. :blush:

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The only thing that would turn a man off is a stanky pussy and even then some wouldn’t care. You said you are bi, have you ever stopped because you did like what a pussy looked like?

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My experience has been that as women get older, have more and harder sex, and have babies, their pussies have more variation. Some are loose first entering but can clamp with their muscles, others stay loose the whole time and make you work to cum, some are tight. The bigger difference is between women who take charge by moving and those who want the guy to do the stimulating. It's all good.

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It's all good.

 

It really is all good. Stop wasting time even thinking about this. Your fine (and beautiful) just the way you are.

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Thank you all. I think I just became obsessed with a non-problem. I did build up the nerve to ask a guy friend and he told me he never gave it a thought of how I looked down there. When I asked what may have been too many questions he did say my larger clitoris is a turn on not a turn off.

My husband had said the same thing but a spouse can’t always be believed when it comes to those things.

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a spouse can’t always be believed when it comes to those things.

 

:lol: Well, certainly not a spouse who wants to be able to continue to have sex with you...

 

Seriously, I’m quite confident your husband is just fine with how you clit (and the rest of your female anatomy) looks and functions, as are the rest of your partners, mal & female.

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:lol: Well, certainly not a spouse who wants to be able to continue to have sex with you....

 

Lol. You are correct.

The person I really believe is our friend who is my husband’s best friend. I told him he better be truthful or he could go home. I had to be truthful about what I said about his “junk”.

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Attitude and demeanor are so much more sexy than physical attributes. Ever look at a guy and think he's hot until he opened his mouth? Some of the sexiest women we know are sexy because of the way they carry themselves, it's not a popularity contest, it goes far beyond physical beauty.

 

Stop worrying about everyone else, work on you. You ARE the belle of the ball, just go for it.

 

And as for breast size - smaller is preferred here too, for many reasons. Enjoy what you have, and use each and every attribute to maximize your pleasure! DSCF4827ed1.JPG

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... I had to be truthful about what I said about his “junk”.

Don't leave us like that. What did you say?

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One of the joys of having a bigger than average clit is that even an inept guy will be able to find it with his tongue. Kinda of like a blind squirrel only better! And, what DID you say?

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I told him his junk was fine. His scrotum is pretty big and though I find it as a plus he claims he doesn’t like it. I think he does and he’s proud of it but he claims it’s not comfortable.

My sex with this friend is totally different than the sex I have with others. He’s a real close friend of ours and the only male I am with alone. I talk to him as if he was a girlfriend. Make no mistake, he is all man.

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Hi to everyone. I really love all the answers. I don’t think size matters to most men. The majority just want to have sex.

 

For me size doesn’t matter. I personally think a woman’s attitude has a lot to do with it. If she just lays there it’s boring no matter what her size is. She could be a “10”. If she’s not involved it’s just boring. If she less than a”10”, but is wild and aggressive it make my cock harder. I prefer a woman who is eager and knows what she wants. A woman that can take control and tell you what your not doing correctly. A woman super involved, not just laying there like a cold fish.

 

All women are different and enjoy different things that make them orgasm. If I’m not doing it right, tell me. I’m not a mind reader. I don’t know where I learned this,but my main job during the whole thing is to pleasure and make sure she is pleasured. Any man who doesn’t care if his partner is enjoying herself is just a selfish bastard. If I can’t make her orgasm I have not done my job correctly. As they say “ the customer always comes first”.

 

If I just wanted to get my nuts off, I could just jack off myself. I don’t really enjoy myself if I don’t make her orgasm. I’ve been married twice. The first was tall and slender with smaller tits. I could really get her motor purring by tweaking and sucking on them. She was always self conscious and embarrassed by their lesser size. She grew up thinking you had to have huge tits to be attractive. I always went for her tits first to get her wet. They worked great.

 

My present wife is a little shorter but has huge tits. They’re nice, but not as sensitive as the firsts. I still enjoy them, but she gets hotter from kissing. The first wasn’t aggressive where the second takes charge. I would never not want to fuck a woman due to her size. Talking to her first gives me an idea about how she feels sexually.

 

In conclusion, I think majority of men don’t worry about size, mainly what the woman acts like once both participants are naked. We want an angel on the street and a wild cat in the sheets.

 

Everyone have a great day.

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I would not be concerned about it all. My ex-wife had the same lady features as described. and too was self conscious of this, however after several years of playing we never heard anyone say they didn't like it.

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Even if the other guy has a 12inch cock listen to the women here they love you and are going home with you, us guys are the ones who are hung up on dick size no matter how much they talk we worry, I'm not big but I never had a complaint i just give all i got.

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... My sex with this friend is totally different than the sex I have with others. He’s a real close friend of ours and the only male I am with alone. I talk to him as if he was a girlfriend. Make no mistake, he is all man.
I am assuming that he is currently unattached, and from what you have said that the relationship that you, your husband, and his friend/your boyfriend is fulfilling for all of you. May I make a bold suggestion? You should discuss now how he will approach a relationship with another woman. It doesn't mean that it has to end what you collectively already have.

 

There are two core possibilities: 1) If he dates another woman he is honest from early on and that your current arrangement continuing is non-negotiable. Most women will not accept it, but there will be some women who see the beauty and will actually want it to continue. 2) Your boyfriend finds his life within your current arrangement. Is that something you can imagine? But you will need to discuss matters such as children (would you bear his?) and legal and financial arrangements.

 

For my husband, my boyfriend and me (we didn't do other swinging at first), we started our lives living option 1, just the three of us, me having children for both men. And although I did end up having a child with each of the men, we moved into option 2 by having Clair, then Lora, join our poly family. Lora and Clair also have had children by "my guys."

 

I'm not saying what is best, other than think about it before love and life overtakes you.

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Our friend dates, he has even dated my best friend. Our relationship is simple and complicated. He is my husband’s best friend and I wasn’t on board when he suggested bringing him into our bed. My preference was bringing my friends to play with. Being with two men was not something I looked for. My sex with this friend is more fun sex than romantic sex. I love him as a great friend, way different than the way I love my husband. I have had sex with him and his dates, including my girlfriend. He is there to keep me company while my husband travels. We are very comfortable in front of one another. He tells me things about his life including his dates.

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On 10/8/2018 at 9:53 AM, PSULioness said:

I just thought mine was ugly. Was I too big? Too long? Too loose? My clitoris too sticking out? ... I feel mine is looser on the outside and I hate what it looks like.

Be nice to yourself babe, we all get mental about our hoo hoo.  When I was a teen and in my twenties my pussy was so pretty, and fucking tight.  But then I had two kids.   Now I think my pussy looks a damn train wreck, and guys tell me I'm tight all the time, but I'm not twenty year old drunky girl tight cause that pussy would break a dick.  I don't feel as tight, and I don't think its pretty.  But I've never had a guy slide off my panties and go ew thats gross and I'm not crossing that line.  Your pussy is fine babe, be nice to her you only got one.  

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I've never heard this before. Women really criticize what their vaginas look like?

 

I've written this before, I'll write it again...yes, there are probably people who judge. Who cares. The vast majority of people in this lifestyle are here to have a good time. If your breasts are too large (what's that?), too small (Uh?), vagina looks, well, I have no idea how one could look bad, whatever....if you have a good attitude, are willing to have fun, no one cares whether your nipples are too big (huh?) or your butt is flat (??). 

 

Again, I've encountered women who were stunning...absolutely stunning...like absurdly gorgeous...but were so horrible to be around. They were bitchy, they were prissy, they were so high maintenance I made excuses to NOT get naked with them. On the flip side, I worked with a woman who was average looking, probably 15 pounds heavier than "normal", just your average everyday woman...but she was the sweetest, nicest, just such an amazing person...she was a 10+. That's selling her short...she was just amazing. She was very open sexually (we were great friends, talked about all kinds of things). If she wasn't already married I would have fallen over myself to be with her. I should look her up. Anyway...

 

When people in this lifestyle meet others, listening to someone rant about politics, complain about themselves or others, etc it is a turnoff. It isn't about looks as much as it is about a good time. Don't worry about your nipples, they'll get tugged, sucked, bit (if that's your thing), etc. Don't worry about your vagina...it'll get attention, and look a mess when the night is over anyway. Bring a smile, be open, have fun!

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Hold on, some women are really self conscious about what their vagina looks like??  Any woman who thinks their vagina looks bad, send me a photo of it and I'll confirm it doesn't!

 

As a few have said, it is about attitude. It is about having naked fun. I would gamble that if anyone is judgmental about physical qualities, it would be a woman talking about a guy's size. I've never heard any man complain about a woman's vagina. What kind of lunatic man would complain or make a negative comment?? That's the quickest way to never see it again.

 

My recommendation, hit the gym, go for a run, eat a little better. Not because you need to, but because it'll give you confidence. I learned a long time ago that your body shape is driven by genetics. My father is rather thin but the extra weight he carries is 100% on his stomach. His is ripped in his arms and legs, but 20 pounds on the stomach. Back when I was playing college ball, working about like a crazy person...I never had a 6 pack. I had a flat stomach but never the torn up abs women love. I had a friend that never worked out and he had magazine cover abs. It took awhile to understand that his genetics drove his physique.

 

Make the best body from what you have, don't compare yourself to everyone else. It's like the neighbor who drives the BMW...everyone wants to be like them. Then you find out it is leased and they're broke. It isn't about the outside appearance. 

 

And yes, my offer to all women, send me pictures and I'll tell you how sexy your vagina is...the offer stands!  ?

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5 hours ago, discreetplay said:

I've written this before, I'll write it again...yes, there are probably people who judge. Who cares. The vast majority of people in this lifestyle are here to have a good time. If your breasts are too large (what's that?), too small (Uh?), vagina looks, well, I have no idea how one could look bad, whatever....if you have a good attitude, are willing to have fun, no one cares whether your nipples are too big (huh?) or your butt is flat (??). 

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When people in this lifestyle meet others, listening to someone rant about politics, complain about themselves or others, etc it is a turnoff. It isn't about looks as much as it is about a good time. Don't worry about your nipples, they'll get tugged, sucked, bit (if that's your thing), etc. Don't worry about your vagina...it'll get attention, and look a mess when the night is over anyway. Bring a smile, be open, have fun!

 

This is so true!!! Attitude is the most important thing in life, and that's especially true in swinging! There is nothing more unattractive, male or female, than a moaning groaning griping bitching about this or that negative Debbie/Doug Downer.

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4 hours ago, MrMrsswinger said:

Hold on, some women are really self conscious about what their vagina looks like??  

Absolutely!  The current standard of beauty for woman is so unattainable with the airbrushed super models in their size zeros and fake boobs and butt implants.  There is an entire plastic surgery practice devoted to rejuvenating the vagina.  Its a fucking face lift for your pussy.  Like we are constantly trying to hide our cellulite, fretting about whether our boobs look saggy, I worry about how my nipples look cause they are different after breastfeeding.  Tummy isn't tight enough, c section scars, varicose veins, and I freak about my pussy lips cause they used to barely show and now they hang.  Having kids is tough on our body.  We are on display so we stress, cause if I get naked the guys are staring at my boobs and my vagina.  Its stressful.  

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17 hours ago, JessicaJamison said:

There is an entire plastic surgery practice devoted to rejuvenating the vagina

Don’t laugh I saw an advertisement for vaginal rejuvenation and I did research. I thought it was for women older than me, women who have lost tightness but there are other things that can be done. You can get your labia cut back, the thing I was thinking of but I read it can make you dry and also accentuate the clitoris, something I didn’t want. You can also have the skin or hood over the clit reduced. I didn’t want my clitoris to always stick out. 

My husband thinks I’m crazy but I needed other opinions. I mentioned we have a friend, my husband’s friend, who I can talk openly with. Other than my husband he has spent more time down there than any other person, especially in the last year. He said the extra skin is sexy and a large clitoris is a big plus. 

A girl from school who I had been with a few times, who I think has a beautiful one, I know I sound like a guy now, said mine was fine. Yes I asked her. She asked me why I would want a smaller clit and asked if it hurt during sex, because she loves rubbing hers and I said it actually feels great during sex. 

So no rejuvenation and I have what I have. 

Happy Thanksgiving everyone and stay safe. 

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2 hours ago, PSULioness said:

Don’t laugh I saw an advertisement for vaginal rejuvenation and I did research. 

Believe me babe I did too, lol.  I took a very serious look at reducing my labia and hood also.  I just want her too look all pretty like she did before I had the babies.  My pussy was pretty damn it.  

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46 minutes ago, JessicaJamison said:

Believe me babe I did too, lol.  I took a very serious look at reducing my labia and hood also.  I just want her too look all pretty like she did before I had the babies.  My pussy was pretty damn it.  

 

I may have to research this. I have no concept of what this procedure is. 

 

And I find all pussies to be be pretty. I've seen a variety and they all look different. Yet, they were all incredibly beautiful.

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On 11/24/2020 at 7:43 AM, JessicaJamison said:

guys tell me I'm tight all the time, but I'm not twenty year old drunky girl tight cause that pussy would break a dick.  I don't feel as tight, and I don't think its pretty.

That doesn't matter, what's important is that guys can get you off.  If everything down there is working that way, it's good.

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