No drama? Why say it?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I see no good purpose in using the two-word combination "no drama" in an on-line profile.

 

* A drama couple typically do not see themselves as a drama couple. Consequently, you are liable to see the words "no drama" in a high-drama couple's profile.

* To say in you profile that you want to avoid drama couples, the high-drama couples who do not realized that they are actually drama couple are still going to try to get in touch with you.

* It is a generally good strategy to avoid anything in your profile that sounds negative.

[agreatguy 269]

I see no good purpose in using the two-word combination "no drama" in an on-line profile.

 

* A drama couple typically do not see themselves as a drama couple. Consequently, you are liable to see the words "no drama" in a high-drama couple's profile.

* To say in you profile that you want to avoid drama couples, the high-drama couples who do not realized that they are actually drama couple are still going to try to get in touch with you.

* It is a generally good strategy to avoid anything in your profile that sounds negative.

 

I've often wondered how others saw this. I feel the same way. One person's drama is another's entertainment or simply their normal.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

We love it when others put this in their profile. It tells us that avoiding them is probably the prudent move.

[lcmim 1,082]

two4youinswva said:

We love it when others put this in their profile. It tells us that avoiding them is probably the prudent move.

 

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Yes. I agree. What does no drama mean? I would pass over that post and move on to the next.

[venusshaw 123]

Dramas are played in triangles in inauthentic relationships or in temporarily inauthentic relationships. It is a method to control the other person. In the drama triangle the same individual - one who is trying to control the other - three different roles depending on the circumstances. The persecutor - you do not do what I expected, or you broke our rules, and therefore you must be punished. The objective is to make the other person feel ashamed, inadequate or incompetent. The rescuer - okay, you did wrong (the persecutors initial jab), but i will forgive you this one time. The objective is to confirm the violation and be kind, even if the victim did not think they were wrong. And the victim. If the above two failed, then play the role of a victim - you did me wrong, I am helpless to avoid your victimization - retract and feel helpless, to evoke some empathy/sympathy from the other person. Does anyone recollect any such roles they played during the enactment of a so called Drama?