Does the wife have to be bi-sexual, to get a unicorn?

[pryvateeye 19]

Hi everyone,

 

So after perusing most of the threads about unicorns, we wanted to ask.......If my wife is only bi-comfortable, are we wasting our time trying to find a unicorn? Mrs. Pryvate loves playing with females to a certain degree, but isn't fully bi-sexual. She has never went down on a woman and doubts that she ever will. She loves kissing and caressing and playing and sucking on boobs, but thats about it. She has no problem with a woman going down on her but she has no desire to lick or touch another womans pussy. It may change with more experience, but thats up to her. We both want and fantasize about having a threesome with another woman, but are wondering if unicorns won't want to play with us, because the Mrs. isn't bi-sexual?

[Numex 2,416]

"Unicorn" is a broad, ambiguous term, just like "bisexual." So likely there are women who want to play the way you two want to play. Just not as many.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Good morning. I see a lot of questions asking if their particular style of swinging is acceptable. Your desires, like most, aren't odd or creepy but do pose a problem. When it comes to swinging, mfm is the easiest to set up and do, mfmf is difficult due to personalities, but there is a deeper pool of couples than single women. Finding a unicorn of any type is difficult. Finding one with specific desires to match yours, further shallows the pool. You can set out any goals you like, just be prepared to never pursue this past the looking stage. Honestly, even if your wife was fully into everything, it wouldn't help much. You would be hard pressed to find a unicorn who has been swinging for more than a year or so and they usually end up in an exclusive 3way relationship.

You can use swinging resources like SLS but most first fmf sex happens with a friend, drinking, unplanned.

Good luck!

[venusshaw 123]

Let's put it this way, it is easy to be a unicorn, difficult to find one. Unicorn comes from the word unique or one unit, someone who is different from all others. Trying to fond a unicorn is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Good luck with that.

[agreatguy 269]

OP, my wife feels the same way as yours. We've had it happen once where another wife made out with mine and she even went down on her. My wife enjoyed the kissing and touching but wasn't interested in reciprocating fully. The other woman knew my wife was inexperienced. My wife even told me later that she told the woman she didn't know what to do. She told my wife to just do whatever felt good and she was comfortable with. She had really nice breasts which my wife enjoyed and commented on afterwards. The guys just watched. I think she would certainly do it again if the opportunity presented itself. It does happen but it's rare.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

It's entirely up to the unicorn. That she is bi-comfortable helps but I'm sure that there is a unicorn out there just waiting for you...just not sure where it is hiding...and they seem to blend into the scenery rather well, but if you don't look you won't ever have a chance of finding.

[Judy39 145]

I would be wondering why the wife wants to participate at all and what's in it for her.

[Naughtyvanessa 49]

i love to Play with couples and i think it is hot to Play with her and kiss her and step by step i make it happen... it takes time and she has to be comfortable but when it happen it is so hot

[Numex 2,416]

Why not let your wife BE the unicorn for a while. Starting with a couple is probably the safest way all around. Uou would have the thrill of having her come home to give you details and sloppy seconds.

[cplnluv1 872]

Finding a unicorn is hard enough. We could never find one ourselves. We always believed that all mystical unicorns would be Bi.

[Numex 2,416]

On 10/17/2018 at 4:46 AM, pryvateeye said:

... She has never went down on a woman and doubts that she ever will. She loves kissing and caressing and playing and sucking on boobs, but thats about it. She has no problem with a woman going down on her but she has no desire to lick or touch another womans pussy...

Such a woman is called a "pillow queen."  It is a disparaging term, implying that she takes but doesn't give back.  There is one in our group, but guess what?  All the other women love her and compete for her attention to see who gets to take care of her that way.  (The guys hardly ever get a chance.)

 

Long ago I had a girlfriend who loved getting oral but wouldn't suck dick.  That was ok, I still liked eating her.  Nothing says everything has to be symmetric between everyone. 

[JessicaJamison 861]

On 10/17/2018 at 6:46 AM, pryvateeye said:

She loves kissing and caressing and playing and sucking on boobs, but thats about it. 

 

I'd want a definition of what "playing" means to you in this situation.  Would that include intimate touching like maybe rubbing her clit, something that might get the other woman off?  I can tell you if I hear play I think I'm getting fingered, which is cool, but if thats not your definition you should be clear on that.  

 

 

On 10/17/2018 at 6:46 AM, pryvateeye said:

She has no problem with a woman going down on her but she has no desire to lick or touch another womans pussy. We both want and fantasize about having a threesome with another woman, but are wondering if unicorns won't want to play with us, because the Mrs. isn't bi-sexual?

I can tell you I've played with couples where the female was a pillow princess, and took my lovin' but didn't reciprocate said lovin'.  I was fine cause I am bi which means I fuck guys too lol.  I will say, if you are bringing in another woman to service you and your wife, and your wife isn't planning to take care of her back, you need to be up to the job of two people worth of satisfaction otherwise she won't be coming back.  

[shy_couple 459]

Agree with Jessica...

 

Don’t want to take this too far off topic but what’s in it for the wife of the original poster? Will she be okay if the unicorn gives up on FF play and goes 1:1 with hubby? Will she feel left out? Jealous? 
 

Only reason I pose this question is for us, we have done MFM. She loves the attention. He loves sexy hotwifing aspect. Win for both. 
 

Not tried FMF, 1 because they don’t call them

unicorns for nothing. Really tough to find. 2 Mrs. Shy has the exact same bi-comfort level but can be a little jealous if MR. Shy shows too much attention to the other girl or if she feels ignored or like a third wheel. Bad scene and hurt feelings if that happens. 

[adamgunn 1,460]

Something in Shy’s post got me thinking . . . yeah, I know how dangerous that is.

 

One of our preferred methods of play is a threesome. The usual pattern is that Mary starts with the other guy, I watch or minimally involve myself through their first round. Then I have a round with Mary, and often she and the other guy will have yet another round;  if that happens I’m more involved. Even if the other guy leaves after the first round, Mary and I will play after he’s gone. There’s no bi-sexual component at all - the other guy and I don’t play together.

 

Why does that work for us? First, I enjoy watching and taking photos and videos. Second, I know that whatever happens, I’ll be taken care of sexually by Mary, sooner or later.

 

Why wouldn’t that dynamic work for a threesome where two of the participants are women, with neither of them bi-sexual? The husband interacts with the unicorn while the wife watches and helps them have fun. If the wife was into watching, sure, it could.

 

This would possibly work well when the husband is young and has no problem getting it up a second time. But as he matures, after he satisfies the unicorn he’d have little to offer for his wife (other than tongue and fingers.) Unless the wife was *really* into watching or having her husband pleasured, there would be little for her. While couples might try this once or even a few times, I doubt that most couples would be really interested in this.