New and curious interracial couple

[bs0326 16]

Hello, my husband and I are new, we’re still in the discussion phase of what we want to try. We’ve been together for over 18 yrs and our sex life hasn’t always been vanilla. I’m white and my husband is black, recently my husband was approached by a coworker after several of them were having a discussion and was asking if my husband had ever been with a white woman and that he and his wife liked to have that experience of him watching her with a black man. He did end up telling him that as a matter of fact my wife is white. What I’m curious about is how are interracial couples viewed in general? I know there are a lot factors to consider but I think while it’s one woman’s fantasy, it’s how I live my life.

[agreatguy 269]

You'll be fine. I don't think most people in the lifestyle will think much of it. It's really kind of how we roll. There are some women who have the fantasy. My wife being one of them but it is more about a single guy. I think if we were to meet and get to know one another as couples and we found you sexy and confident it would be more about just one couple with another rather than it having anything to do with the fact that your are an IR couple.

[bs0326 16]

Thank you, that helps!!

[TwoFunTexans 103]

We're both white and we have several couple friends who fit your description. They don't have any issues finding playmates. Both couples live in OK, not that it matters but to give you a geographical perspective that it is a non issue.

 

On a side note, the wife of one of them told me last time that I'm one of the few white guys she likes and plays with. lol

[bs0326 16]

That’s awesome! The other thing, I’m 47 yo and I’ve never been with a white man. Kissing but that’s as far as it went. I think we would like to try a club first but we’re not going to know what’s out there if we don’t take that step. Thanks for the help!

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Keep in mind its ok to go to a sex club and not have sex with the other members, particularly the first time. While its great if it happens I've heard from a lot of couples how they 'just observed the first or second time they went. & had sex with each other. By the third time they felt comfortable enough to engage with other couples. I've done the same with two women who were having their first club experience. We watched, chatted, and flirted a bit with the other folks. On later soirees my lady friends felt a lot more comfortable & were happy having sex with people they had just met in a group setting.

[bs0326 16]

Thanks for the advice, my husband hasn’t been in the lifestyle but has had threesomes before we were together, me on the other hand haven’t had any experience like that yet but want to try.

[BobGann 40]

I've always found people mix and match pretty readily in the lifestyle. You'll run into a lot of things in the lifestyle that might make you shake your head from time to time, but being an interracial couple won't be one of them. And if you do happen to cross paths with someone who has an issue, it's their problem, not yours.

[bs0326 16]

That’s how I think all the time anyway but thought I’d throw it out there to get feedback. I really appreciate everyone’s responses. My husband is a big flirt anyway so he has no problem being the extrovert! I’ve recently had a significant weight loss so I do feel way more confident in my own skin!

[njbm 2,901]

Best wishes in your adventures. We find most people are seeking appealing partners. Those who may balk at a person’s race or ethnicity? Their loss! Have fun, you will meet some really great people.

[bs0326 16]

Thank you! I hope we do!

[couplers 4,718]

Lora in our poly family is black as is her ex-husband, Walter. We played with them prior to and during their marriage and even now post-divorce he occasionally joins us for sex. The racial thing doesn't seem to make much difference to any of us, except that Walter hadn't been with a white woman before and I was his first (followed closely by Clair) and that was an initial kick for him. He got a bigger thrill out of me and Clair letting him put it in our bum.

 

He was the first black man for me and Clair, but for me at least it was a new man thrill, not a black man thrill. What does get to me though is watching Lora fuck my husband and Red. I do see race in that, the contrast with them, the contrast with me. When Lora and I have sex, which I must say is the freakiest with hard verbal BDSM and light physical BDSM, I get turned on by her hair, the coarse hair on her head, her pussy, under her arms when she lets it grow for me. It's hard for me to say how much I love her, especially since she and hubby are so in love. A lovely mess.

[jnrswinger 62]

I don't care what te color of your skin is. It's what's inside that matters. Though I (white) do admit to being envious of that dark silky smooth skin.

[couplers 4,718]

Though I (white) do admit to being envious of that dark silky smooth skin.

Lora looks at me from time to time and says, "Pet, you've got to work on your tan."

[toodamtall 20]

When my wife and I first started swinging, she was initially hesitant about being with a black person, male or female. She was raised in a very narrow minded family... Another story for another day. We went to Hedonism one year and spent our time on the nude side, pretty much the whole time. There is always a wide mix of race, ethnicity etc. there. One of the things that happened immediately was that we were super comfortable with everyone and immediately made friends with all types of people. Imagine my surprise, however, when I turned around to wade back from the pool bar with a fresh set of drinks and found her enjoying being the center of attention of a black couple that we had been making friends with! I kinda just slid into the mix after dropping the drinks on the table. Afterward I asked her about it. She said that she hadn't even been thinking about the race thing at all, everything just kind of happened naturally with some fun people.

 

I think that this is the attitude you will find most prevalent in the overall swinging community.

[PSULioness 859]

Without knowing for sure I am thinking race becomes more of thing with older people and I think geography. To say we don’t notice different races would be a lie. For the group of friends we have it’s not an issue. I will say we are younger and liberal. I did grow up in a very diverse area and race was not an issue.