Our first Club experience. I got caught unprepared

[HotEllie 89]

Hubby and I went to a Halloween party at a local club. It was fun dressing up and meeting people, but I was not prepared, and may have inadvertently offended a nice, attractive young lady.

 

We arrived at the club, and met some nice folks. It was going to be a busy night, and one of the regulars offered a tour, which we gratefully accepted. During the course of the tour, he introduced us to the owner of the club, who was also very gracious and welcoming. After the tour, we decided to reserve one of the remaining tables, in view of the growing crowd and minimal open seating near the dance floor.

 

After an hour or so, an attractive woman in her mid-30s came to our table and introduced herself. She said right off that she was a unicorn, and had accompanied another couple to the party (they were all cutely dressed in a matching theme). She said that she had noticed me and my husband, and wanted to get to know us better. We chatted for a while, and told her that we were newbies, and we're just here to check out the vibe and get a feel for the place. She told us about her history in the lifestyle, and commented that she knew how we felt as first timers. After visiting for a while, we thanked her for the meeting and she headed back to her friends.

 

10-15 minutes later, she came back and asked me to dance. I was admittedly a bit surprised, and looked at my husband. He smiled and said "why not?" I then joined her for a dance. It was fun, but was the first time that I had ever danced with a woman, especially with both of us dressed provocatively. I enjoyed it, and admittedly encountered some new to me sexual excitement.

 

After the dance, she joined us again at our table. We chatted further, and she shared some more about herself with us, and her experiences with other couples. She asked me if I would like to join her in one of the activity rooms just to talk and get to know each other better. I appreciated her candor, and told her again that we were enjoying ourselves at the party, but wanted to just watch and take things slowly for now. After a bit more conversation, she excused herself to return to her friends.

 

She came by a bit later with another nice lady in tow, and asked me to join them on the dance floor. I politely declined.

 

After that dance, she came back to our table again, this time sitting across from my husband. We chatted again for a while, and she asked him if we would like her phone number. My husband politely declined, telling her that we hoped to see her again at a future party to get to know her better, but we were not yet ready to exchange contact information. She then said that she loved his Scottish Highlander costume (kilt and all) and asked him if she could sit in his lap. We had as a couple agreed that tonight was "look and talk only", so he politely declined. She then asked for and received hugs from us before saying that she looked forward to seeing us again soon.

 

I told my husband that I had never been approached by a woman before, and frankly was not prepared for it. It was very flattering, though. It gives me a lot to think about.

 

When hubby and I were talking about things on the way home, he asked me how it felt to be approached by someone of the same sex. I told him that it was interesting, and although I am somewhat bi-curious, I wasn't ready to do anything about it yet. I guess that time will tell.

[adamgunn 1,461]

Sounds like you had a nice time, you got acclimated to the Club, which is just what you wanted.

 

I wouldn't worry about the young lady; although it seems she was a little more persistent that I would expect, she should have been ready for your desire not to play, particularly since you were newbies. If I were you and your husband, I'd simply feel complimented.

[HotEllie 89]

Thank you for the reply.

 

It was definitely viewed as a compliment. My takeaway for other newbies like us is that no matter how thorough we thought we were in our planning, something will still surprise you. I do hope that she was not offended.

 

My husband paraphrased a military saying that he likes: No battle plan survives first contact. :-)

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

No one can be prepared for every eventuality; boundaries are helpful when used as you used them.

 

Now that you have experienced first hand that sexuality has more dimensions than you anticipated, and further experienced that "no" really does work, you may want to begin distinguishing between "not right now" and "never". In between lies the space of possibility and of fantasies that could be fulfilled.