Why do we sometimes Fake It?

[PSULioness 857]

We were with friends the other night after sitting outside at a cold football game. Of the five couples only one other couple is married. After things really warmed up somebody brought up the subject of orgasms. A question was asked and everyone agreed to be truthful, what makes you orgasm and have you faked it. The guys were quick to say they never fake it. Of course we would know if you were faking it, no ejaculting. I learned a guy can cum and not cum. I always figured it it didn’t squirt it didn’t cum. Google to the rescue. I learned something new. I said I can enjoy sex with having an orgasm. I think some men think I always orgasmed when I didn’t. I won’t say I faked it. I know I make noises but it’s not always an orgasm. The guys were upset when my friends starting agreeing with me. Google again. Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. Guys orgasm sometimes from very little stimulation, most women don’t.

Do I like sex from behind? Sure, but don’t expect me to orgasm unless something else is also happening. If I am on top and have clitoral stimulation...Wow. I love all positions, some more than others. I was the first one there to claim that the best way to make me orgasm is orally. I of course love to fuck too. Don’t stop doing that. There is more to enjoying sex. If I just want to orgasm I could just use a vibrator, I always orgasm from one by myself. Good? Yes. Not as good as sex though.

[jnrswinger 62]

You wouldn't be The Lionesse would you? It was the "PSU" that made me wonder. Just curious - met her once - no intention to let anyone know anything about you.

[PSULioness 857]

You wouldn't be The Lionesse would you? It was the "PSU" that made me wonder. Just curious - met her once - no intention to let anyone know anything about you.

 

Not THE Lioness.

[TricianMike 777]

We fake it because the men like it when they think they hit a home run. As you get older you may fake it less. I like your thinking that sex is the goal. Orgasms are great, sex is great too.

How do you feel when making someone orgasm. Don’t you enjoy giving oral? Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy great sex and an orgasm. I can orgasm just from penetration, if not all the time, at least many times.

Don’t feel you failed by faking, you are not alone.

[ViSexual 1,008]

I've often looked back and wondered how many of the girls/women I've been with were just faking it for my benefit. I wish, if they did, they hadn't. I hate being patronized.

 

In a sort of similar way, when I was GM at a car dealership, I could tell when I was being buttered up. Those that did, never gained from it.

 

Heck folks, if we're doing something wrong or just not quite right, let us know!

[Guest]

This is all new to me, I’ve never faked it. As someone said and most guys know, women don’t typically have an orgasm from just penetration. But even without orgasm, penetration is exciting and most often, the longer he lasts the more exciting it becomes, thus why we ladies enjoy MFM or other multiple sequential partners. My thought is that if the guy wants experience me having an orgasm, I am confident that it is much for exciting experience for the I do, they will work to get me off, most often by going down on me. But, if they just want to experience the excitement of intercourse, I’m good with that too. The enjoyment is still there, just not as much, not as intense for them or me.

[TricianMike 777]

I think I should clarify my take on faking it by saying I don’t fake it, it is just some men think I am having an orgasm and I don’t take away the thought by telling them I didn’t. Any man with half a brain will know I am not having an orgasm if I am giving him a blow job. Unlike a movie I don’t have a clit in my throat. The thing is I do enjoy giving a blow job and have been told I I give a very vocal blow job. I can get very sexually excited and not have an orgasm. I’ve even been told by someone who came in my mouth that he thought we both orgasmed at the same time. I enjoy kissing, having my nipples played with, having my back rubbed and many other sensual things, that make me move and moan, don’t take those moans as an orgasm. On the other hand I can have a quiet orgasm and I think any smart partner can tell when I am having a full orgasm. Gentlemen don’t stop doing things that may not make me cum. Penetration is fine without orgasm, better with. I agree with the original poster with some of the best ways to make me have a Big O.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Trician, you said, "Any man with half a brain will know I am not having an orgasm if I am giving him a blow job."

 

Any guy who's being given a blow job isn't thinking . . .

[findinganswers 369]

Trician, you said, "Any man with half a brain will know I am not having an orgasm if I am giving him a blow job."

 

Any guy who's being given a blow job isn't thinking . . .

 

Adam that reminded me of a saying, the only time a guy thinks about coming a second time is before he comes the first time.

 

I once asked my wife if she actually enjoyed sucking my cock and she answered by asking me if I enjoyed eating her pussy. Touché!

[jnrswinger 62]

Adam that reminded me of a saying, the only time a guy thinks about coming a second time is before he comes the first time.

 

I once asked my wife if she actually enjoyed sucking my cock and she answered by asking me if I enjoyed eating her pussy. Touché!

 

So apparently she loves it!

[JessicaJamison 862]

On 11/13/2018 at 12:30 PM, PSULioness said:

Do I like sex from behind? Sure, but don’t expect me to orgasm unless something else is also happening. 

I do not understand this, I'm a clit gal too, so if I am bent over and taking it from behind, my right hand is definitely on my clit working it, everytime, because I know I'm not coming without clitoral stimulation.  But thats also the reason I like Doggy, I am in control of my climax.  Sorry tangent.  I have absolutely faked it, and everytime it was for the same reason, I wanted to end it.  Not all sex is good, some is actually bad.  

 

And too the guys in the room.  If a woman wants to rub her clit, do not try and stop her, she is trying to make it good for her too.  I've had guys grab my hand and pull it away from my pussy like only they can do it right, fuck you.  I know my body better than any of you ever will.  Every guy that's ever done it to me has never got a second shot at my pussy.