mncurious 20 Posted November 16, 2018 Hi everyone! We’re back and hope all of you have a great Thanksgiving holiday. We recovered from our first swinging experience and even had another one last summer. We did go to marriage counseling which helped greatly. It wasn’t great due to some communication issues but my wife did manage to have fun with an old boyfriend. The only issues which came from this second experience was around oral sex. My wife has always been ambivalent at best about receiving oral sex from me. She told me every time it was her and not me or my technique. I even used the suggestions from several of the great members here on SB.Not only did my wife stop me almost every time from going down on her but also told me she let her old boyfriend give her oral and liked it from him. She even partially waxed for him. My wife hasn’t asked or wanted me to go down on her since meeting her old boyfriend but does get excited when talking about him eating her pussy. What should we do to either get my wife into oral with me or just accept it may not be part of our sexual life for awhile? Thanks for the advice. Quote Share this post Link to post
agreatguy 269 Posted November 16, 2018 Maybe pay attention to what it is the old boyfriend it doing. Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted November 16, 2018 . My wife hasn’t asked or wanted me to go down on her since meeting her old boyfriend but does get excited when talking about him eating her pussy.When just the two of us having sex together my wife and I, not often but sometimes, will pretend it's someone else who we're with. Have your wife close her eyes, talk about him, say his name (I like that) while your tongue is on/in her pussy. Quote Share this post Link to post
venusshaw 123 Posted November 16, 2018 I think you need professional help. both of you. Does she enjoy oral, or does she enjoy her boyfriend and would do anything for him but not for you. Until you crack that question, there is not much point in speculating. Quote Share this post Link to post
PSULioness 857 Posted November 16, 2018 Have you given others oral and how did they respond? Quote Share this post Link to post
agreatguy 269 Posted November 16, 2018 After reading this again and your "swinging solo wife" under your handle I realize you may not be in a position of watching what the BF does. I find it strange that she is telling you how much she enjoys it from him but doesn't want you to even go there. As with most questions people ask on here about what they need to do to get their spouse to xxxxxxx the question is probably better asked of the spouse than us. If you can't ask it or she can't answer it then perhaps you need more counseling. Quote Share this post Link to post
Jane1902 476 Posted November 17, 2018 I read many of your old threads: nearly divorcing, ED issues, wife’s first inter racial overseas in which a condom broke (someone else had a very similiar story) and long delay in reconnecting. Now she has a lover that is way better at oral than you. Sounds like a nasty case of plagiarism. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
padoc 1,703 Posted November 17, 2018 Is this the same guy who claimed his wife went to Africa, stayed awhile and then came back and wouldn't have sex with him? If so, I think the OP has a fertile but very weird imagination. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
agreatguy 269 Posted November 19, 2018 I read many of your old threads: nearly divorcing, ED issues, wife’s first inter racial overseas in which a condom broke (someone else had a very similiar story) and long delay in reconnecting. Now she has a lover that is way better at oral than you. Sounds like a nasty case of plagiarism. Good catch Jane Is this the same guy who claimed his wife went to Africa, stayed awhile and then came back and wouldn't have sex with him? If so, I think the OP has a fertile but very weird imagination. It would appear so. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post