Big House Parties vs Small. What's the Difference?

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Have been swinging off & on for several decades, Couples swaps, threesomes, small house parties, & recently clubs. For New Years my FWB & I have been invited too a large house party. 40 persons on the guest list. This is way above the small house/hotel parties I've been to in the past. Anyone with experience in the larger parties have any advice? I hope to avoid doing anything particularly silly

 

I've played with two of the couples on the guest list & chatted several hours with another couple attending. So, we won't be complete strangers there. Also only bi swingers are on the guest list.

 

thanks for any suggestions.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

No replies so maybe something most here don't have experience with either, so now that you do, how did it go?

 

The thing that has always concerned me about those types of parties is how well managed they would be. Seems like the size of the crowd could easily overwhelm the hosts ability to keep up with everything.

[adamgunn 1,460]

We went to our share of 'big' house parties. 20 people up to more than 50. Personally, we loved them.

 

The biggest difference from a club is there are more people who are ready to play. It got wild rather quickly. And instead fo being two couples in a room, it tended to be much more open.

 

Having said that, I don't remember there ever being a problem with 'no means no,' and my wife never had an encounter she didn't enjoy. So . . .

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

No replies so maybe something most here don't have experience with either, so now that you do, how did it go?

 

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I did not even try to keep up with everything. Joined some folks at the massage table & a lady I'd played with in November swapped massage with me, then oral. Another man I'd chatted with joined her sucking my cock for a while. Eventually she rejoined her husband and I circulated and eventually rejoined my weekend companion for some sex & chatting with & watching other have sex.

 

Oddly most folks went off to the bedrooms for sex. I'd for some reason expected a lot more in the main basement party room. A few of us around the massage table enjoyed assorted sex acts in the main rooms, but most used the bedrooms.

 

The most interesting couple were a m>f transgender & her wife of 27 years. They'd been married in their early twenties, raised three kids, and converted from a hetro marriage to a "sister wives" marriage as they put it.

 

My FWB has organized a birthday party for herself this weekend. A guest list of 18, mostly bi, men and women. I'm interested in seeing how many actually show up.

[adamgunn 1,460]

I see I didn't really answer your question. You already have my answer about big, here's how it differs from small.

 

When you get a smaller group of people together, four to six, there seems to be a lot more 'negotiation' before play. People are sometimes almost reluctant to commit themselves sometimes, even if everyone knows they are there to have fun. The sex seems to take a little longer, is more sensual sometimes.

 

In a bigger group there's a Margaritaville atmosphere.