MWC newbies here seeking advice Looking for a longterm male friend

[MWC WandK 15]

Hello, from a happily MWC both educated and professionals.

 

My wife and I have tried to enter the world of swinging but due to a combination of both nerves and not truly skill how to go about this in a correct manner it has been slow to happen.

 

I am 6'4" and a muscular 225 pounds and my wife is an attractive blonde 5'6" 36C. We are in the very early stages of being empty nesters with our two children away at college.

 

It took way too many conversations to find out what my wife and I wanted which is a longterm male friend for both social activties together and sex as a threesome an occasionally one on one with my wife.

 

The first mistake in this process was by me in that I was the one trying to find a suitable man, whereas it is better for my wife find a man that she is naturally attracted first, then to see if there is chemistry between the three of us.

 

My wife had dated both white and black in college and her preference for our potential male friend is a black man.

 

After many numerous failed attempts my wife has met a tall, handsome, professional, well endowed black man who is ten years younger than us.

 

My wife is a swim partner with this man at the health club she attends, (due to my work location I attend a different gym).

 

My wife and him have had dinner alone with him on several occasions an also the three of us have socialized together and all is good.

 

In the next couple of weeks my wife will have sex with him one on one first, (her idea), followed by the first threesome after that.

 

So please we would like to hear constructive insights an advice....a huge thanks from Wesley and Kelly

[agreatguy 269]

Sounds like y'all found yourselves a male unicorn.

 

If he's all that why isn't he in a relationship(either monogamous or Non) with an equally hot and available female? Or why isn't he playing the field? Women must be falling all over him.

 

Sorry if that sounds a little heavy handed but to be honest I was in much the same situation with a few years ago. I'm not saying by any means that I'm all that but I didn't have any trouble getting dates and even GF's, they just weren't what I wanted. I'm a decent looking guy, educated, successful, in shape, witty etc, etc, etc. The couple I started seeing complained that everytime she found a really good guy she thought she would be able to have a LTR with he ended up meeting someone. Nothing lasted more than a few months and they were back on the hunt. Well, guess what? I saw them for a few months and I met my unicorn.

 

My gut tells me that either this guy has baggage that prevents him from having a LTR and that will come out in this one OR he will soon find himself in a LTR one because that's what he really wants. He probably doesn't want to be a long term third always on the outside looking in wishing he had your type of relationship. It actually gets old after a while. If I'm wrong you can consider him as much of a unicorn as any smoking hot 30 something female you might find for a ONS.

 

Have fun and enjoy him while you can.

[Jane1902 476]

It sounds like you are on the right track for what will work for you two. Personally I enjoy MFM best when everyone knows each other so I understand part of your process. What stands out is her desire to have sex alone with the other man first. I wonder if this is leading more towards an open marriage or cuckhold situation.

[Pete1442 16]

Been a while since you posted kindly fill us in

[TnA83 309]

My question would have been, "What does this man think of her idea?"