Springs719 22 Posted December 19, 2018 We have been swinging for 4 years and love it. I have found it's always been more about me watching than doing. When we go out I would rather watch my wife with a couple (m or f) or solo with a m or f. I also enjoy her sexting and sending pics to others. We have found success and happiness with his all because of communication- both between us and when meeting others. I hate the term 'cuck' because I'm not into humiliation. Anyone else like me? 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
ViSexual 1,008 Posted December 20, 2018 Absolutely! I always had the fear that I wasn't being fair to the other wife because I was enjoying watching my wife and the other husband so much. And, when we were cybering with others, I loved it when my wife was enjoying herself with the other men. Cuckolding is when the husband is being humiliated. Enjoying watching your wife having pleasure with other men isn't cuckolding at all! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,460 Posted December 20, 2018 I also loved watching my wife as she engaged with a man. She wasn't bi, so there wasn't any point in an FMF threesome, or me sitting out while the other three had fun. I did enjoy being with the other wife when we had a foursome. As a result we sometimes had foursomes or moresomes, and my wife and I had MFM threesomes where I would watch for awhile and then join in or not at my and her option. It worked for us. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted December 20, 2018 Completely common and totally normal. I wouldn't say I'd "rather" watch, but the Mrs giving or receiving oral is definitely a turnon. Terms that might be more relevant than "cuckold" play are hotwifing and stag/vixen. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted December 20, 2018 There's no reason that you can't do both and enjoy both. That's what I like and it's sensory overload, in a good way. Watching my wife banging another man and being in another pussy either at the same time or afterwards is heaven. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post
agreatguy 269 Posted December 20, 2018 When we first started there was some expectation on my wife's part that I be completely in tune with what was going on with her at all times. She needed that security. The first time we swapped I ended up apologizing to the other couple because I knew I had not been as attentive to my swap partner as I could/should have been. However, I found that I really enjoyed watching/listening to my wife even more than I anticipated. In fact I told her that night that watching her was better than any porn I have ever seen. I still feel that way but because she is more relaxed I don't feel the pressure to be 100% in tune with her 100% of the time. That allows me to enjoy even more. Now I can process and enjoy what's going on with her peripherally while giving my swap partner the attention she deserves and receive it as well. Less tunnel vision I guess you'd say. We can be physically separated but in close proximity for soft swap activities so that we can watch each other(it turns us on) but when the condoms come out I'll get myself into position where we are close enough to touch and if the positioning allows it, to have eye contact. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post
Springs719 22 Posted December 20, 2018 Thank you east! Those are the terms I was looking for. Quote Share this post Link to post
Springs719 22 Posted December 20, 2018 I have found myself thinking I need to apologize to another couple as well! Honestly it is fun to swap, but we are moving more towards single guys or a couple just looking for a woman to join them. Regardless the only agreement is I get to watch. And when you discuss the rules and expectations it avoids issues and things can really work out! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
agreatguy 269 Posted December 20, 2018 I have found myself thinking I need to apologize to another couple as well! Honestly it is fun to swap, but we are moving more towards single guys or a couple just looking for a woman to join them. Regardless the only agreement is I get to watch. And when you discuss the rules and expectations it avoids issues and things can really work out! There is no one right way to do this. Whatever works for the two of you is great. Things evolve as we progress. I guess I was just relating my progression #1 to let you know it's not unusual and #2 by relating my experience it illustrates how fluid the lifestyle can be. I still love watching my wife and really enjoy MFM when I can just sit back and watch her turn a guy to putty. Have fun with it. It's all good as long as you are both enjoying it. Quote Share this post Link to post
Norcalswing 24 Posted December 21, 2018 Found this kinda by accident, now we can't stop talking about it. We were at a large swingers event flirting and dancing with many different couples with no real sights on one particular. Then my wife sort of magnetically connected with a guy. It could instantly see the attraction by them both. We started talking as they were with a large group. They invited us back to their room and said it was an after hours party. We showed up and there was a good 20 people there. All clothed at the time. Things progressed quickly and people started undressing and playing all around us. This was not our normal scene but here we are. The guy my wife had connected with had came over and started kissing here. He started to undress her as I kinda sat back in a chair and watched. I now started to undress as my intention was to join in. He ate her pussy thru her panties. Then he pulled them off and got on top of here. I was just sitting in the chair alone watching this unfold. I couldn't believe this was really happening. I was right behind them and could see it all. He slid inside her and began to fuck her really fast and hard. I was literally just kinda playing with my dick in preparation of my turn. After a few minutes of him fucking her I could feel that she had fully checked out and was completely engaged in her moment. It was a surprising experience as we never lost track of one another ever before. I was so turned on that my presence wasn't aknowlege by her or him. Her eyes were locked on his as he pounded her. She spread her legs wider than she would when I fuck her. To me it showed that she wanted him deeper and it really turned me on. Next thing I know, I cum. I wasn't really jacking off but lightly stroking while watching. I couldn't believe that it was so intense that I just came. He fucked here for several minutes and she would say to him that she wanted him to cum as she stared in his eyes. This was the most erotic, intense thing we have ever done to date. We didn't plan it or seek it out. It just happened...perfectly. now we can't wait to try it again. We literally talk about it every time we have sex. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,460 Posted December 21, 2018 NorCal, that's the fun of an orgy - you can do what you want. In your case, it was to watch your wife have a stupendous time with this other man. If you wanted, I'm sure in that kind of a scene you could have found another lady to have fun with, but instead chose this route. How fun! To follow it up, when you two talked about it, was she surprised that she got so wrapped up in the moment? And I do hope you got the other guy's contact information, so that she (and you) can have fun with him again. Quote Share this post Link to post
Erik13 157 Posted December 21, 2018 I also enjoy just watching when my wife's male friend is over. Iv'e tried the MFM thing, and just don't like being so close to the other, guy, so I'd rather just watch her having fun. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Eddiem 139 Posted December 22, 2018 We have been swinging for 4 years and love it. I have found it's always been more about me watching than doing. When we go out I would rather watch my wife with a couple (m or f) or solo with a m or f. I also enjoy her sexting and sending pics to others. We have found success and happiness with his all because of communication- both between us and when meeting others. I hate the term 'cuck' because I'm not into humiliation. Anyone else like me? Same here... it is the visual stimulation that I enjoy most. Seeing her being pleased. Very very erotic and hot. I enjoy the seconds when his cock enters her and when he orgasms. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Norcalswing 24 Posted December 23, 2018 NorCal, that's the fun of an orgy - you can do what you want. In your case, it was to watch your wife have a stupendous time with this other man. If you wanted, I'm sure in that kind of a scene you could have found another lady to have fun with, but instead chose this route. How fun! To follow it up, when you two talked about it, was she surprised that she got so wrapped up in the moment? And I do hope you got the other guy's contact information, so that she (and you) can have fun with him again. She was surprised. She and him had a connection earlier on the dance floor so I knew the were both attracted. But we were both surprised how quickly it all happened. We did have his info but we both thought that this was an in the moment kind of experience. She has no interest in something further with him in particular. It has, however opened up new options and scenarios for our play. Super hot! I highly recommend it if it is at all on one's radar. Quote Share this post Link to post
Milehiclubcpl 18 Posted December 31, 2018 My 2 cents..... Also for us older guys, my E.D. Has a mind of it’s own, and if I don’t get hard enough, then my guy friend can give her as much as she needs, while I ravish her breasts and massage her clit......both which she loves!! And just maybe eventually I will get up the nerve to suck on her clit while he is in her. I’m fortunate that her clit is huge and beautiful! It’s probably 7/16” in diameter and maybe an inch long when fully erect! And I love to watch her have multiple orgasms while I coach them both when to change positions and go from oral to penetration and back again. When I think she has had enough orgasms, I will ask him to cum in her vaginally which is the Grand Finale. Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted January 8, 2019 Do you fellows here who enjoy watching so much jump in for sloppy seconds? When my wife and I are in a situation where I'm not with another woman I just got to get in there afterwards. Fortunately, my wife is always accommodating. Quote Share this post Link to post
KnkyCoupl4Coupl 24 Posted January 10, 2019 I am totally onboard with this concept. Although we have looked for couples,l and that I would participate, I tell my wife that my biggest turn on is watching her being pleasured and giving pleasure to another man. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Eddiem 139 Posted January 11, 2019 I am totally onboard with this concept. Although we have looked for couples,l and that I would participate, I tell my wife that my biggest turn on is watching her being pleasured and giving pleasure to another man. Agreed. Nothing is more erotic than watching another man mount her and the second his cock enters her, all barriers are down and it is like watching a great art work unfold. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
agreatguy 269 Posted January 11, 2019 I am totally onboard with this concept. Although we have looked for couples,l and that I would participate, I tell my wife that my biggest turn on is watching her being pleasured and giving pleasure to another man. Agreed. Nothing is more erotic than watching another man mount her and the second his cock enters her, all barriers are down and it is like watching a great art work unfold. And it's not just watching the penetration. I love watching her flirt, seduce, be seduced, see who is going to move in for the kiss first, who is going to make the first sensual touch. I like anticipating her putting her hand on his leg and slowly sliding it up waiting for him to get hard so she can feel the fruits of her seduction. I like hearing him ask her permission to touch her breasts. I like seeing her go through all the other mental and physical foreplay preliminaries of her getting herself and the other guy turned on and worked up. Watching the culmination of all that is the icing on a very erotic cake. At a very basic level it also reinforces, for both of us, what I tell her all the time. That she is an attractive, sexy, passionate woman that any guy would be lucky to spend that kind of time with. She's just too damn good not to share! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
M1F2KTJ 473 Posted January 12, 2019 I love watching also. I like taking my turn but not always. She has played alone at his place with my acceptance. We started out with everyone on the bed. It was fun at first. I've held my wife's hand as he fucked her. I've kissed her as he was fucking her. I decided to give them room to play and let her focus on him. Watching them from across the room became an obsession. When she is away with him knowing they are enjoying each other without me being there drives me crazy. Quote Share this post Link to post
Bluespruce1 706 Posted January 13, 2019 I love to be in the same room and watch him. I like seeing how he behaves with other women and how different women respond. Eventually I masturbate once he begins to penetrate. Seeing his erect penis inside a strange pussy makes me cum every time. I know he loves to watch me as well especially if the guy has a large penis or is younger. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
luv2was 117 Posted January 14, 2019 "I like to watch...." - "Chance" a.k.a. Chauncey Gardiner (Peter Sellers) in: Being There (1979) Quote Share this post Link to post
Sisterbecky2019 16 Posted January 15, 2019 I loved reading all of these! What I wouldnt do to have any of the husbands on this thread. Oh to be so lucky.... Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted January 16, 2019 . I've held my wife's hand as he fucked her. I've kissed her as he was fucking her.. As I said above we sometimes play alone, but I also love holding her and kissing her as she is enjoying another man. Quote Share this post Link to post
gaga2018 27 Posted January 16, 2019 As I said above we sometimes play alone, but I also love holding her and kissing her as she is enjoying another man. Me too! What an experience! Quote Share this post Link to post
Aaron911 45 Posted January 22, 2019 We have been swinging for 4 years and love it. I have found it's always been more about me watching than doing. When we go out I would rather watch my wife with a couple (m or f) or solo with a m or f. I also enjoy her sexting and sending pics to others. We have found success and happiness with his all because of communication- both between us and when meeting others. I hate the term 'cuck' because I'm not into humiliation. Anyone else like me? There is nothing wrong with that and it seems to be normal from what I read but I also enjoy just watching my wife because she is extremely sexy to me and loves monster dicks... she screams and moans so loudly and I just love seeing that side of her. Quote Share this post Link to post