New and going to our first party

[Langtowncup 18]

Hi all, we are fairly new to the lifestyle and are going to our first party NYE. We have some questions though. What if only one of us is ready for a full swap and one of us is only ok with soft. What I mean is my wife has no issues with me having sex with other women as we have had MFF's and I have had girlfriends before but she is not really comfortable having sex with another man. She is fine doing everything else but sex. How do we express this to interested couples and is this an issue that will be frowned upon by other swingers? Any advice would be great.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Well, starting out on NYE is definitely going to be an interesting time. Most places are very crowded, and it can get a little weird. Not typical at all, as NYE in a vanilla place is not typical either. You may have a lot of fun, you may just get a very strange vibe. But good luck.

 

As far as you, the male, playing while she does not, it's not impossible, particularly if there's an orgy in progress. But there are many people who fell that you're not gonna play with the wife if he can't play with yours. Just be upfront about that, and don't be disappointed if they say no, thanks.

[padoc 1,703]

Simple rule of thumb: play ONLY to the level of the least comfortable partner.