Am I the only one?

[Hutch79 15]

We have had swinging experience. 3sums with girls and guys and full swap couples. Never had any that we used alot or got completely comfortable with. I have always told my now husband that I dont enjoy him kissing other girls. But we have been with the same couple a few times now.... all within a couple of weeks. And he really likes them... or her. He kissed her, cuddled her after sex, and now she wants him to be her master. I'm not up for this. He has stopped using alot of toys with me and recently flogged me. I'm thinking he did it so that he can flog her next time shes here. I guess I can say I'm jealous and I hate it. I never wanted another woman to take my place at pleasuring my husband. What do I do?

[allsex 18]

Let him go for it :-))

[ViSexual 1,008]

If he's not on this site with you, and isn't reading what you just posted, I suggest you copy/paste it to an email and send it to him. The two of you need to discuss this issue now.

[padoc 1,703]

What does her husband have to say about this? Is he aware of her predeliction towards being dominated? If he doesn't know, he has a problem. If he does and he's OK with it, YOU have a communication problem with your husband. If his interaction with this woman is causing you discomfort and/or flat out jealousy, you should tell your husband and insist that he cool it. If he doesn't than you have a HUGE problem in your marriage that must be addressed immediately.

 

On another note: Unless sex is purely mechanical fucking, kissing is part of foreplay, and kissing and cuddling in the afterglow of sharing a pleasurable sexual experience is quite a normal experience. You two do it I would assume. When we play, Mrs Doc has seen me engage in foreplay and use the same sexual techniques that we share together. She enjoys watching and somehow sharing the feelings of arousal and pleasure the other woman is enjoying. Much like I completely enjoy watching her kiss and rub her boobs on a guy while throwing her leg across his thigh or sliding her head down his body to take his dick into her mouth. I KNOW how good that feels and the best part is that I KNOW she'll end the evening with me in our bed (sometimes after changing the sheets). You need to understand that swinging is about sharing erotic times with others. In the course of that and for a brief time, another woman WILL be taking your place in pleasuring your husband as will the guy with you. If that concept is a problem then maybe swinging isn't the hobby for you. My other point is that if you choose to continue swinging, you may want to consider that your rules about kissing and cuddling may be a bit too restrictive and could be modified. Of course, that should happen only after you and your husband address and fix the major issues you seem to be having. Good luck with that!

[PeterJ 950]

You need to understand that swinging is about sharing erotic times with others. In the course of that and for a brief time, another woman WILL be taking your place in pleasuring your husband as will the guy with you. If that concept is a problem then maybe swinging isn't the hobby for you.

 

Great advice from padoc. This gets to the heart of the matter.

[Numex 2,420]

We have had swinging experience. 3sums with girls and guys and full swap couples. Never had any that we used alot or got completely comfortable with. I have always told my now husband that I dont enjoy him kissing other girls. But we have been with the same couple a few times now.... all within a couple of weeks. And he really likes them... or her. He kissed her, cuddled her after sex, and now she wants him to be her master. I'm not up for this. He has stopped using alot of toys with me and recently flogged me. I'm thinking he did it so that he can flog her next time shes here. I guess I can say I'm jealous and I hate it. I never wanted another woman to take my place at pleasuring my husband. What do I do?

All this makes my head hurt. It makes me glad that we and the other couples we play with (sometimes alone) don't think about it, have the best time we can and hope that our spouses do too. Then go home. Any comparison of notes just seems to add to the fun, not make us jealous and hate it.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

What Padoc said.

 

If one of us says no, then both of us are saying no...no repercussions or reasons why expected. We are a team and play as a team. This is ESPECIALLY true if you are his sub...he doesn't have time for another sub and her husband should be her Master (or needs to step up). You two need to talk and depending on the outcome you may need to find another couple to play with. You need to be open and honest with him even, no, especially if he is your Master. A Dom HAS to be extra aware of this very thing went the two of you are swinging. His primary responsibility is and always should be you. Let us know how things go.