Is this the answer?

[Saffron39 21]

Hi, I'm on here having had one recent swinging experience. I've always been somewhat unconventional in my lifestyle and that includes attitudes towards relationships, e.g. I've never been married or wanted to get married, I've lived alone most of my life and not had any long term relationships that have been successful.. but I am always happy being single. All my friends are married, & I've always wondered if people must be so bored after years & years of sleeping with the same person. . I've never been in love so I'm maybe biased, but I do think it's an unspoken thing in our society & people think it's a taboo subject that people do get bored of each other sexually in long term relationships but no-one really talks about what might be a solution to this.. & now I'm thinking non monogamy is perhaps a way never to get bored ! ? ?

[njbm 2,873]

It can get boring having sex with other people, especially if they are not as attractive or proficient as one’s own wife. But generally, it’s a charge to play with other women.

[lcmim 1,082]

Hi, I'm on here having had one recent swinging experience. I've always been somewhat unconventional in my lifestyle and that includes attitudes towards relationships, e.g. I've never been married or wanted to get married, I've lived alone most of my life and not had any long term relationships that have been successful.. but I am always happy being single. All my friends are married, & I've always wondered if people must be so bored after years & years of sleeping with the same person. . I've never been in love so I'm maybe biased, but I do think it's an unspoken thing in our society & people think it's a taboo subject that people do get bored of each other sexually in long term relationships but no-one really talks about what might be a solution to this.. & now I'm thinking non monogamy is perhaps a way never to get bored ! ? ?

 

Nearly 40 years and still waiting to get bored.

[Alura 2,774]

I'm not convinced that swinging is the answer to marital boredom. People, married, swinging or single, have to put forth effort to keep sex exciting.

 

I remember an evening when Laura and I were driving home after separate-room swapping with our playmates.

 

"How was sex with Mr. Playmate this evening, Sweetheart?" I asked.

 

"Just like Ol' Married Folks, Darling."

 

It occurred to me that it had been like that with Mrs. Playmate, too. During our next meeting, we discussed our feelings with Mr. and Mrs. Playmate and had our first same-bed foursome.

[padoc 1,703]

I've never been bored with Mrs Doc in any area. She's beautiful, sexy, funny and very bright. Even before we started to swing, sex was a lot of fun with her. She wasn't afraid to try new positions or new places like the parking lot of our local Giant. She would often not wear a bra and was not above flashing me a boob in Lowes or the mall. She loved to try on clothing and leave the dressing room curtain or door partially open. There were times when I was not the only guy getting a show and she didn't seem to mind. Once we started swinging, she has continued to surprise me with her capacity for fun and orgasms. I don't think we'll ever get bored with each other.

 

Each year around Christmas we get dressed up and go out to an upscale place for our own holiday dinner for 2. Its a splurge, top shelf all the way. The last several years our place of choice is Capital Grille. This year, she wore a thin white blouse with a few buttons undone, no bra and a short skirt, (the panties were still in the drawer with her bra). We had the wait staffs full attention through out dinner. As we left, I opened the car door for her and she flashed me and the parking lot with an upskirt shot. We were chatting a bit as I got us to I-75, about a 10 minute drive. As I entered the ramp she said sweetly, "Honey, over here". I looked over and she had one boob out and her skirt hiked up. Once I got into traffic I looked over at her again and she had the seat partially reclined and I discovered that she had put her favorite vibrator in the car before we left home. Try to maintain concentration on the highway with a semi naked woman riding a vibrator in the seat next to you. I think its more distracting than texting. My only suggestion was for her NOT to squirt on my leather seats. She didn't and our boring 40 minute drive home wasn't.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Swinging will never save a boring or bad relationship. Instead it is the sprinkles on top of the sundae of a great relationship. It will magnify the faults of a weak relationship just like it magnifies the strength of a great one. If you are looking to save a relationship by swinging, you are looking in the wrong place. Swinging is entirely built upon love trust and communication. If any of those three are weak or lacking, then jealousy, lies and deception is given the change to undermine the foundation. Swinging isn't a cure all. Sure, it may seem like a way to jump start an old relationship but this usually doesn't fix any of the other problems and just quickens the end.

[luv2was 117]

On the topic of boredom: It's not the person who can have sex with a thousand people, it's the person who can have sex with the same person a thousand different ways.

Reminds me of the Timbuk 3 tune... A 100 Lovers

[adamgunn 1,460]

Well, yes, sex with one person can get hum-drum, and swinging spices it up. By being excited about being with other people, you then get excited about being with each other. New people bring new techniques, you then carry those to the marital bed.

 

Having said that, a swinger who isn't happy with their own partner probably won't be happy in a swinging relationship.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Sex with the same person year after years gets boring and predictable. That's why people "swing" !

 

Accepting this reality can keep a marriage together. There are advantages to being married but sex isn't one of them.

[shy_couple 459]

Say never married and no LTR but your status identifies you as a couple?