Just started talking about it

[the Nomads 78]

My wife and I have recently started talking about this lifestyle. Its quite early on and I'm more receptive than she is. Any thoughts on how to introduce her to people in the lifestyle that she can talk to and break a lot of the stereotypes that are in her head. Are window shoppers welcome in the clubs or is that poor etiquette? We are DINKS (Dual Income No Kids) so we tend to look for adult only adventures anyway and this seems to interest us. We also travel a lot hence the username.

 

Thanks

 

Mr. Nomad

[njbm 2,881]

You could go to a lifestyle club with the agreement that you will only watch or have sex with each other. It’s hard to know if you would like it unless you are in that situation.

 

My other idea is to join SLS or SDC, meet a couple for a vanilla (pre-agreed no sex) drinks or dinner, see how you feel. No risk in either scenario.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . .Are window shoppers welcome in the clubs or is that poor etiquette? . . .

Nobody at a club party will become upset. In all probability other people will be at the club who just want to see what goes on and to ask questions.

 

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[tbone1 79]

Since you seem interested in traveling, I recommend that you check out Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica. Although it is "lifestyle friendly", there will be no pressure to do anything you don't want to do. Lots of great people go there from all over, all shapes and sizes, young and old, etc. Hedo is an all-inclusive resort, all food, activities, water sports, diving, alcohol, etc. is included. There is a clothing optional beach and a nude beach. We have met wonderful people there, some nudists, some not, some in the lifestyle, some not. As you may know, the lifestyle includes those interested in lots of different things. Some like to watch, some like to be watched, some want to have a threesome, or an orgy, some are soft swap of full swap. Whatever you want you can find at Hedo. Besides the sexual vibe, there are pools, hot tubs, great food, friendly staff, excellent entertainment, things to do all day, or just go to the beach and catch some rays. On the Hedo 2 website, you can see which groups are going when. See which ones interest you, check them out, and go with a group to get better rates and automatic friends. There is lot of info about Hedo on Adult Travel Forum, or check out the latest edition of Chris Santilli's book, "The Naked Truth About Hedonism II". Good luck!

[agreatguy 269]

A club is a good way to break a lot of those stereotypes she probably has conjured up. Unless it's a different club than we're used to it's not a big orgy and many of the people will be newbies just like you. Get there early and just watch things progress. As people get comfortable in the surroundings some clothes will start to come off, the dancing will get a little raunchier and people will get even more friendly. Kind of like a vanilla bar only everyone knows the rules!

There won't be any expectations and you can leave when you want. From hard learned experience I advise you to be particularly attuned to her and how she's taking everything in. If she wants to leave, leave, no questions no push back. Even though it's not a full on orgy going on there it can be a lot to take in and can get overwhelming the first couple of times. Don't let her get overwhelmed. You can debrief on the ride home. She is going to need to have confidence in your ability to walk away when she says she's ready or going back the next time is going to be much more difficult for her.

The hardest part really is walking though the door.

Good luck.