Does anyone get a little jealous??

[Aaron911 45]

My wife was swinging with my bestfriend who was extremely hung and she said he was the best because of his size and did things that I couldn't. Now I'm not small either, I'd say alittle above average but it still stings alittle but at the end of the day I want her to have the best experience right?? Any other guys going through this same scenario? Thoughts??

[Kade oj 63]

Yep

[Guest]

After our first MFM, hubby (then bf) said he found my seducing behavior at the bar quite exciting, no problem with my kissing the guy in the elevator on the way up to the room, was fine with me stripping as soon as I got into the room and no problem with me going down on the guy. However, he did say that when I moaned with the guy first began to have intercourse with me, he did feel jealousy. Apparently it was short lived because he joined right in and had no problem with having our 2nd, 3rd and so on, MFM. Now, interestingly enough, our 5th or so MFM, the other guy had a huge, 8 or 9 inches and I went quite crazy with it, first orally and then asking to fuck it and totally getting off on it. After it was all over, I thought that I head been too expressive and there would probably be some type of jealousy but there wasn’t any at all, I just had to listen to “oh yea, size doesn’t matter” a thousand times since then.

[gaga2018 27]

It's normal. The beginning of it is always kinda difficult to handle it. But when I saw my gf going crazy with him, I didn't feel any jealosy at all. Watching her enjoying that moment was amazing.

[Aaron911 45]

'Jealousy' is a nice little annoyance that you first acknowledge and pat on the head and shoo away. Then you're happy for the great fuck your wife got, yet know full well that she 'makes love' to you.

 

So true lol. I couldn't have said it better myself.

[Aaron911 45]

It's normal. The beginning of it is always kinda difficult to handle it. But when I saw my gf going crazy with him, I didn't feel any jealosy at all. Watching her enjoying that moment was amazing.

 

Yeah it was alittle crazy watching her scream and moan with such pleasure like that but at the same time I was so happy for her.

[dazanconfsd 84]

I was a little jealous at first. But I got over it quickly once she started to moan, I LOVE seeing her enjoy herself, and she LOVES watching me enjoy myself. I still have some anxiety build up before we meet and before it goes to the bedroom, then it just dissapears. I just equate it to the feeling before you step off a rappelling wall, or getting on that scary carnival ride you have never been on.

[Numex 2,420]

The reason for swinging is variety and to enjoy things that you don't have at home. Both my wife and I get jealous because we're having sex with other people. But we actually like that feeling now and just end up loving one another more and fucking each other's brains out afterwards.

[couplers 4,647]

I used to get extremely jealous. I still get strong feelings when I know/watch other people in my poly family have sex with each other, but it's a feeling that I now crave.

[machiavel55 81]

'Jealousy' is a nice little annoyance that you first acknowledge and pat on the head and shoo away. Then you're happy for the great fuck your wife got, yet know full well that she 'makes love' to you.

 

Sure...and her/his love will last forever and a spouse having amazing sex with someone else will never hurt a marriage....sure, keep on rationalizing and ignoring the intricacies of human nature, the complexities of the human mind and the fact that we are constantly changing and that experiences like great sex with a stranger can trigger powerful unexpected emotions and change a spouse's perception of their SO.

[Aaron911 45]

Sure...and her/his love will last forever and a spouse having amazing sex with someone else will never hurt a marriage....sure, keep on rationalizing and ignoring the intricacies of human nature, the complexities of the human mind and the fact that we are constantly changing and that experiences like great sex with a stranger can trigger powerful unexpected emotions and change a spouse's perception of their SO.

 

That's exactly what I was thinking... she clearly is very influenced by him and he has her wrapped around his finger because of his ability to destroy her with his huge dick so its alittle concerning in that aspect of it. He's always fucking her while I'm at work and always keeping her busy.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I'll admit that I have felt jealous more than a few times. I'm happy that she decided to try having sex with another man in front of me. I'm happy and I'm happy for her that she tried it and liked it and wanted to do it again. And again

 

It was my purpose to give her experiences that she might not enjoy by being married. I didn't want her to feel restricted.

 

I have felt jealous when she is having sex with another man who has a much larger cock than mine. I know she is feeling sensations that she won't get from me.

[Aaron911 45]

I'll admit that I have felt jealous more than a few times. I'm happy that she decided to try having sex with another man in front of me. I'm happy and I'm happy for her that she tried it and liked it and wanted to do it again. And again

 

It was my purpose to give her experiences that she might not enjoy by being married. I didn't want her to feel restricted.

 

I have felt jealous when she is having sex with another man who has a much larger cock than mine. I know she is feeling sensations that she won't get from me.

 

That's exactly right.... to hear her screaming and begging for him is alittle much but as long as she's happy right lol but no seriously I want her to have the best.

[EastInWest 1,524]

That's exactly right.... to hear her screaming and begging for him is alittle much but as long as she's happy right lol but no seriously I want her to have the best.

 

Her being happy is important, but so is you being happpy.

 

I'm not trying to say you're on the wrong track or anything, but you seem very concerned about how this is going and how she's conducting it. Are you enjoying it?

[Aaron911 45]

Yes i enjoy it...

 

Her being happy is important, but so is you being happpy.

 

I'm not trying to say you're on the wrong track or anything, but you seem very concerned about how this is going and how she's conducting it. Are you enjoying it?

[CandDinCo 69]

A lot of the jealousy and other emotions can be controlled and dealt with if you and your spouse remember to reconnect with each other afterwards. Talk about those feelings openly. Reassure each other. MAKE LOVE.

 

That reconnection is really the best part of swinging.

[eruditesdw 29]

Holding my sweet wife as she got it good was awesome but I do wish I could be younger so I could make her moan the way he made her moan last night. But it was all just fine. And she loves me for allowing her to be with our special friend. Wow!! It took some time to get to this point in our lives. ( We had to train him if that is the correct way to put it )

Yeah it was alittle crazy watching her scream and moan with such pleasure like that but at the same time I was so happy for her.

[eruditesdw 29]

Yea sometimes I get that funny feeling when I see my wife enjoying herself with our friend but it goes away fast when she starts kissing me and telling me how much she loves me. I'm just happy she loves doing it with our friend. I got old and...Well...I slowed down a little. but she feels like she is 25. Yes life is great!!!

My wife was swinging with my bestfriend who was extremely hung and she said he was the best because of his size and did things that I couldn't. Now I'm not small either, I'd say alittle above average but it still stings alittle but at the end of the day I want her to have the best experience right?? Any other guys going through this same scenario? Thoughts??

[Lionheart72 2,190]

My wife was swinging with my bestfriend who was extremely hung and she said he was the best because of his size and did things that I couldn't. Now I'm not small either, I'd say alittle above average but it still stings alittle but at the end of the day I want her to have the best experience right?? Any other guys going through this same scenario? Thoughts??

 

I recall one instance of being jealous because my wife was very vocal with a guy. When I mentioned it to her, she rolled her eyes and said she'd been faking it to get him to finish up so she could move on with the evening. LOL

 

One thing I always remember, no matter how much fun she has playing with other guys, my wife comes home with me at the end of the night. She picked me and she keeps picking me.

 

So, my advice is talk to your wife. Maybe she was putting on a show (it's a total porn star line, after all). Maybe he really was great. But remember, she goes home with you.

[Aaron911 45]

I agree with everything you are saying so thank you for your input...

 

A lot of the jealousy and other emotions can be controlled and dealt with if you and your spouse remember to reconnect with each other afterwards. Talk about those feelings openly. Reassure each other. MAKE LOVE.

 

That reconnection is really the best part of swinging.

[Aaron911 45]

Yes i completely agree with all of you and it makes alot of sense when you put it that way....

[Eddiem 139]

My wife was swinging with my bestfriend who was extremely hung and she said he was the best because of his size and did things that I couldn't. Now I'm not small either, I'd say alittle above average but it still stings alittle but at the end of the day I want her to have the best experience right?? Any other guys going through this same scenario? Thoughts??

Not because of size... I think the 1st time seeing her with someone else went through my mind so many times, I enjoyed being part of it "but" I also finally dragged out the differences. Not the size but his technique and staying power... later I found out that , through a convo with the involved parties that he was a monster "cummer" and well she joked about how he must have came a half gallon LOL. I was like yeah thanks!

[Aaron911 45]

Lol yeah i feel you on that. I think my wife is just very submissive to other guys and sometimes that got to me but at the same time i loved it too. She also used to joke about how much he came inside her. She has a funny sense of humor lol.

 

Not because of size... I think the 1st time seeing her with someone else went through my mind so many times, I enjoyed being part of it "but" I also finally dragged out the differences. Not the size but his technique and staying power... later I found out that , through a convo with the involved parties that he was a monster "cummer" and well she joked about how he must have came a half gallon LOL. I was like yeah thanks!

[machiavel55 81]

I love all the posts here, congratulating each other in thinking alike, its all about her and then she only makes love to you.....what a load of crap!....men who accept that have their own kinks, agendas, etc....if it works for them, I say great!....but to spill the bullshit about she makes love to me, knowing that she reaches levels of lust and desire with this other guy or guys she does not reach with you....do you have any fucking idea how intense her sex with them is compared to the lovey dovey sex with you? you're the Sunday drive along the shore while these guys are the craziest roller coaster sex she's ever had....and you're ok with that?.....in my 3rd LTR in the LS, in year 6 together, after a swap with a new couple I saw her connect with that guy like crazy and after that our sex at home while still fun was not even close to what I saw between her and that guy. We saw that couple twice more and it was still clear he triggered things in her i had triggered in our first couple of years together but not anymore. I put aside my jealousy and hurt feelings, did not express my pain that wanted to come out in the form of blames, insults, etc.., sat her down and told her we had reached a fork in the road and needed to each go our own way, wished her all the best and, now alone, took the time to heal and laugh again. Again, I respect men who accept that their SO has crazier sex with others, but please don't rationalize the whole thing with the making love shit.

[Numex 2,420]

....do you have any fucking idea how intense her sex with them is compared to the lovey dovey sex with you? ....and you're ok with that?

Yep, and hell yeah. That's why we do this.

 

 

... Again, I respect men who accept that their SO has crazier sex with others, but please don't rationalize the whole thing with the making love shit.

My wife likes to have sex with other people, it's especially her women lovers who give her things I cannot.

But regardless, even if the sex she has with other men is better than what she has with me, I'm glad she's getting it. Perhaps the reason she doesn't run off with someone else, despite loving me, is that she can fuck whoever whenever.

[adamgunn 1,460]

"but please don't rationalize the whole thing with the making love shit"

 

We don't 'rationalize' anything. My wife made love (or had sex, take your pick) with many men with my permission and often participation. Like most other things in life, if you haven't experienced something like this, you simply cannot adequately judge it.

[Numex 2,420]

The only thing that I needed to keep my jealousy in check is for whoever my wife is having sex with (if it's a man) is for him to know that I know, it's consensual both ways. It made it even easier once I met them (my wife suggested to me and insisted to them), and she later insisted on MFMs with me, which I liked.

[EastInWest 1,524]

to spill the bullshit about she makes love to me, knowing that she reaches levels of lust and desire with this other guy or guys she does not reach with you....do you have any fucking idea how intense her sex with them is compared to the lovey dovey sex with you? you're the Sunday drive along the shore while these guys are the craziest roller coaster sex she's ever had.

 

This sounds like a personal beef about your relationship. Not to say that everybody who is opposed to non-monogamous sex is insecure, but it feels like you really home in on feeling like the sex isn't as good and something is "ruined" for you realizing another man is having a better time with her than you are. I can respect ending a relationship because the sex has gotten stale and you've realized you need something else, but the relationship itself burning out has little to do with the distinction between "making love" and meaningless play.

 

Sometimes Mrs. E and I have "lovey dovey sex", whatever that means. Just as often, we ride each other like rentals that we already know we're losing the security deposit on. After a decade and God knows how many gallons of cum, we still end up with sex-related bruises, sprains, and carpet burns. We laugh a lot. That we figured out we didn't get too hung up about cumming with others is a separate issue from losing our own connection.