Having hard time finding play partner for husband

[morriscouple 16]

When we decided to start swinging, we both agreed that our ideal situation would be with a couple, full swap, in separate rooms. We quickly realized that many of the couples in this lifestyle are full swap same room. Sufficed to say, finding couples with our same interests has been very difficult. Finding male singles, however, has been easy for our female half and she's been speaking to one that we both are comfortable with which is great. Finding a female single has been proving very, very difficult for our male half. We've reached out to a few women; our female half does all the correspondence, but no luck. Not sure if we're looking for advice or similar stories, but we appreciate either.

[lcmim 1,082]

Well, first off, "When in Rome..." That being said, it is not unusual for some partners to start same room, then experiment with separate room play, once trust builds.

 

As fas as the rest, yes, it is always easy for woman to get men to have sex with her. It makes up for the pay inequity (not really) .

 

As the father of 5, and witnessing all 5 births, ANY perks the ladies may receive are well and truly earned. As if monthly periods weren't enough.

[padoc 1,703]

If a couple was insistent upon separate rooms we'd likely take a pass. Our initial preference is same room, same bed. Once the clothing comes off and everyone is comfortable, one or the other of us may wander off but that generally only happens the 2nd or 3rd time we play with a couple. No matter how refined the selection process, you don't REALLY know a new partners sexual preferences or kinks until you've played a time or two. Mrs Doc has never been comfortable enough on a first time swap for us to be out of one another sight. Plus, we get a huge buzz off of watching each other with someone else.

 

As for single males and single women, congrats, you've broken the code early. There are way more males available than couples who want an extra penis. Its a buyers market.

Single women who swing are call Unicorns because there are damned few of them and they are incredibly hard to find.

[morriscouple 16]

We're not opposed to same room, in fact it's something we would like to do. Based on all your comments, it seems this is how it starts and once everyone is comfortable, separate rooms are a possibility. Thanks for the feedback!

[Guest]

We are similar and have extended our boundaries to separate room, separate place and time, as well as giving each other advanced permission to connect with someone that sparks curiosity and a sexual urge. Finding a single female is very difficult. I can walk into a bar and take the pick of the litter. No gentleman would turn down a wanton woman. For men, you need to go through the whole dating dance and then probably lie about your situation. On the swinger dating sites, the single women are either attached and fishing for a FMF threesome or they are just there to get attention and validate themselves as desirable. I know that there might be some genuine unicorns out there, but they are called unicorns for a reason.

 

I do feel some guilt. I have had a lot of opportunities. Some I have acted on, others I have avoided for conflict reasons. My husband is a handsome and virile man, yet the only way he has been able to have a tryst with another woman is from me setting him up with women I know; the more common option is to date a couple that plays separately also.

 

I wish you the best of luck. I am guessing that in the 12 years we have been swinging, my poor husband has had only 3 female FWBs. I have enjoyed many.

 

And to address the same room, separate room thing...for us it makes no difference. However, even with couples that we have been same room with, they are more responsive and uninhibited in different rooms.

[ViSexual 1,008]

We only had one experience with separate rooms and, yes, it was better. A couple that we'd dated several times, and us, took a weekend trip to Galveston and we had adjoining rooms. Now, honestly, we didn't reserve those with the intent of separate room swinging.

 

We spent the afternoon just enjoying the beach and then the evening in the lounge drinking and dancing. When we got back to the room(s) there was no discussion or thought. His wife kissed him goodnight and my wife kissed me goodnight. The door between the rooms was shut and that was the last I saw my wife until breakfast the next morning.

 

I was amazed at how different his wife was and much more I enjoyed her that night than any previous encounter. My wife never said but I think they had a similar experience.