For the ladies... Need advice on hysterectomy

[Jare1998 62]

Hi ladies, I need some advice from women who have been through a hysterectomy either partial of total. I have been having issues for a while that prompted me to go to my gyn. She said I have adenomyosis and I may need a hysterectomy. I've been on hormones to help with the issue and from what i read this is the only "cure". Now I have read a thousand horror stories about women losing all feeling "down there", no longer able to have an orgasm, even losing nipple sensitivity. The list goes on. I've not heard many encouraging stories. I'm trying to decide what I should do. Without going into icky details I'm not sure i can deal with my symptoms any longer. What I'd like to know is what experiences everyone has had good or bad and if there were negative changes to your libido, ability to feel things, etc. how have you coped and what have those changes meant to you and your sex life. Needless to say I'm terrified of the bad. I had my tubes tied with my last kid so the not being able to get pregnant aspect does not matter to me. What I am most concerned about is never being able to enjoy sex again. I'd be devastated. Thanks for the advice in advance.

[padoc 1,703]

Mrs Doc had her uterus removed more than 20 years ago. They left her ovaries intact. Its our understanding that most female hormones associated with sex and libido are generated in the ovaries. Over the intervening years she's been way happier without the uterus, she had a healthy libido, more than adequate lubrication and no pain associated with sex. She never lost any kind of feeling in or around her vagina and her nipples remain sensitive that she's been known to orgasm just from nipple play. When menopause kicked in, she noticed some changes and went to a gyno who provided her with bioidentical hrt. Holy Crap!! Its like a fountain of youth in a few little pellets. Our insurance doesn't cover this kind of HRT but its so effective and we're having so much fun that we pay for it out of pocket. The result of the original surgery gave her immediate relief from near constant menstruation and pain and she's said she should have done it sooner.

[Jare1998 62]

I'm relieved to finally hear someone had a good outcome! Thanks!

[dazanconfsd 84]

My wife had hers in 2014, we were in our mid 30s. Pretty much everything Padoc said except the hormones (hysterectomy, left her ovaries, still gets wet, no sensitivity loss, sex drive gain). So for the bad, she is starting menopause and has the associated symptoms, night sweats, hot flashes and she had to have a bladder sling surgery not long after the first surgery. For the good, her sex drive slowly shot through the roof and now if she isn't already soaked all it takes is a kiss and she is flooded. Pretty hot in my opinion. The other huge benefit for both of us, in most positions I use to go too deep and cause pain (I'm just 6.5"). They took her cervix with everything else and now it doesn't happen, and she wants to try someone longer to see just how much she can take . Best of luck and, I know it's not possible, but try to not psyche yourself out. We will keep you in our thoughts.

[Jare1998 62]

Thanks so much for sharing your story! I was concerned about my husband's size (8") no longer fitting but I'm glad to hear you guys have had no issues! And hearing all the good outcomes is helping me to quit focusing on the "what ifs".

My wife had hers in 2014, we were in our mid 30s. Pretty much everything Padoc said except the hormones (hysterectomy, left her ovaries, still gets wet, no sensitivity loss, sex drive gain). So for the bad, she is starting menopause and has the associated symptoms, night sweats, hot flashes and she had to have a bladder sling surgery not long after the first surgery. For the good, her sex drive slowly shot through the roof and now if she isn't already soaked all it takes is a kiss and she is flooded. Pretty hot in my opinion. The other huge benefit for both of us, in most positions I use to go too deep and cause pain (I'm just 6.5"). They took her cervix with everything else and now it doesn't happen, and she wants to try someone longer to see just how much she can take . Best of luck and, I know it's not possible, but try to not psyche yourself out. We will keep you in our thoughts.