House party strategy needed

[njbm 2,873]

We are going to a house party next week. Due to a dismal track record at these affairs, I come looking for advice.

 

I am shy and a little introverted ( the male). My wife is cute and vivacious. All the men want to play with my wife and I often get a subdued reaction from the women. I am in the realm of attractive for my age group and I think that I have above average skills. Although we have been at parties where no one shows interest in either of us.

 

My usual idea is for my wife and me to hit on another couple and swap so I get some activity in. She tells me house parties don't work like that. I just don't want to sit around and eat coffee cake while the whole party does my wife.

 

Step up my friendliness? Be more aggressive? Wait for the second round? Start the first round? I do much better when we invite a couple to our house to play. I know what to expect. Any house party strategy tips would be appreciated.

[the Nomads 78]

Definitely interested in this. We've got one coming up in a week and a half. Our first outing was a house party and we were contacted by one of the attendee couples via SLS before hand and had introductions so we ended up meeting them there. I would be interested in the dynamic if that hadn't happened.

[TwoFunTexans 103]

The key I've found is to dig deep and channel your inner cool guy. Be friendly, be social, smile, have a good time etc. The more you look like a confident fun person the more people will gravitate to you. I know that sounds easier said than done, but it's the only way.

 

In the last four years since we got into the ls, I myself was not who I am today. I'm a good looking guy but I had serious confidence issues going back to being bullied in school, shot down by many girls before my wife, etc.

 

The longer you're in the ls the easier this will be. Also, think as your wife as your wingman. You said she gets some interest already and that's good. When we're in a new club with no friends we just stick together, talking like we're in a date, making jokes and smiling at each other. If you're doing that people will see that you look fun. When you see someone you like, have her be the one who initiates talking first. I let my wife do that as it works great. She'll go hey what's y'all's names, where are you from, etc and you just chime right in behind her.

[MarniJohn 172]

Here is my 2 cents...(It's Marni). We hosted a private party and invited 8 couples. There was one man who was coming and I did not have any real interest in him, mostly because he was somewhat introverted and I took that as disinterest. We knew them from a club. After everyone arrived and we had a drink, he came over to me and kissed me. Just like that. You know what, it worked. As soon as he showed some interest, I was onboard. Sometimes when you are shy, it comes across as disinterest to the other person.

[luv2was 117]

I do not have any real experience with "LS House Parties"... However...

 

I too was "that guy"... shy, introverted, insecure, etc... especially in my teens and 20's. The longer you have lived like that, the harder it is to "breakout" of those old habits, but it can be done.

 

"Cultivate good habits, and your old habits will disappear."

- Paramahansa Yogananda

(How many folks ever thought that they's see that one here.) ... ?

 

I would urge you to take a chance... take the proverbial leap, and occasionally step outside of your "comfort zone". ... The bit about shyness being interpreted as disinterest is spot-on. ... What is the worst that can happen? ... You learn a bit more every time, especially if you "fall". ... Don't make a big deal out of it and you will likely be fine.

 

The best idea I've seen here so far is to have your wife be your "wing-man" (wing-person?). It seems that she has the necessary social skills... sounds like all you need to do is hang on, and enjoy the ride. ... ? ... But I cannot say for sure that this will work (your wife seems to already know about the social dynamic of "House Parties"). ... ?

 

Also... folks who would put you down for your insecurities are not the people you want to be with anyway. The folks who are nurturing and supportive towards you are the ones you want to pay attention to, and be around.

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If you have not done so already, you may want to check out the show "Playboy TV: Swing"

Swing | Playboy TV

 

I think I have seen (safely) every episode of seasons 1-4 here:

https://www.xnxx.com/search/playboy+swing

 

I do not think the show is a comprehensive example of the LS, but it is a "House Party" type situation, and sometimes how the "new" guests react is very unpredictable. What I found most interesting were the bits where the resident couples would share their experience in an interview type situation... as well as the things often shared by the "resident group" in the "introduction" scene.

 

After a while the show gets fairly predictable, but there is enough of a range of experience & situations here that it can be worth a look. And it is always less painful to learn from the observed mistakes of others.

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[the Nomads 78]

I do not think the show is a comprehensive example of the LS, but it is a "House Party" type situation, and sometimes how the "new" guests react is very unpredictable. What I found most interesting were the bits where the resident couples would share their experience in an interview type situation... as well as the things often shared by the "resident group" in the "introduction" scene.

 

After a while the show gets fairly predictable, but there is enough of a range of experience & situations here that it can be worth a look. And it is always less painful to learn from the observed mistakes of others.

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Yeah its getting to the point that the hitachi shows up just about every episode in the red room. That thing must have some miles on it by now.

[adamgunn 1,460]

If my wife and I were going to a house party we'd never been to before and knew few people there, we hung together until we got into a foursome or moresome situation.

 

If we'd been to that particular house party before and/or we knew plenty of people there we had no problem splitting up when it started getting good.