How We Started Swinging

[Guest]

We get asked all the time how we started. And if you are a swinger, you know that when you date a couple the first time or go to a party, it always comes up as an ice breaker. I like the way we started and if you are looking for advice, it would be a great way to at least start the conversation without feeling like you have offended your spouse.

 

Just a little background: We started together, both in our second marriage. I would say that my husband's previous was about as vanilla as most. My first marriage was a sexual disaster. I married young as a virgin, a very good Catholic girl, and my sex life consisted of my husband getting on top of me, whimpering for 2 minutes, and pumping sperm in me. I was naive and didn't know it should have been more exciting. When I divorced it took me a while to explore and I graduated from being brave enough to buy a dildo, to joining a dating site. I kissed a lot of frogs, and I had been placing social expectations and an emotional attachment to having sex. I ended up getting so horny that I scouted out a bar miles from my house, and went out to pick up a man to get laid. I learned a few things doing that. I had been talking to a man online for almost 6 months. We became as close as we could by writing letters to each other and talking sometimes on the phone. Sex never came up in our conversations. The reason we hadn't met was distance. Finally, he made the trip and my grand plan was to meet him at a bookstore. Very brave. He scared me a little. I had it bad from afar. Well, we ended up going out for food and danced and I invited him over and we fucked like piggies on my couch! We were married a few months later. The reason I tell this is that there is always some background or history. We were very close and as I know now, trust was never an issue.

 

Let me tell you...we fucked each other anytime and everywhere. We experimented together, we flirted with public sex, and we were completely simpatico in bed. We often talked about how our lives had changed and how silly it was to be married and have so many hang ups or resentments around sex. Part of this conversation was because we knew a couple and each of them were cheating on each other. We had the, "we could never tell them" conversation. But, it was a real time example of how a couple was stepping out to cheat and at home, using sex as a tool to control each other. Very sad and I think, very common. Anyway, we were looking for a sexual diversion, something new to try, and decided we would go to a strip club together. My husband set off to find one that was upscale. He came across the Trapeze Club add or website. It was a swingers sex club. Now that sounded interesting!

 

We both had it in our minds that we would go and just watch, and then race home to fuck on each other. It would be very erotic, and a lot better than watching naked girls dance for tips. Oh we watched alright. We started in the clothed area, figured out where everyone was screwing and stood in line like the new kids at school to get a locker key and watched couples leave the dressing area naked with towels. This was like going to adult Disneyland. We walked around trying not to watch too close. We didn't know the rules. My husband asked me if I wanted to fuck and we did it next to a lot of people. It was awesome. A gentleman, I didn't see his wife yet, said something to my husband, and he just told me that I could fuck him if I wanted. I was in another place like I get when I'm getting laid and just told the guy to come to me as if I had been doing it for years. We have never looked back.

 

We left that place about 3AM for a long drive home. I had never had so many orgasms and of course with different men. My husband actually said in the car that he couldn't fuck anymore. He was fucked out! lol. I even got off on the way home and our reconnect sex went on well into the next day. We never questioned our decision and from that night, we learned how couples hook up on swinger sites. We set out to find some fun couples and before dating and consummating the first time, we decided that if we were going to do it, there would be no restrictions, no expectations, and to just let it go for the pure pleasure. We have matured a little since then and have crossed a few boundaries. We are comfortable with intimacy and emotional attachments with friends. And I have also been able to become a hot wife with a hall pass.

[English Flames 26]

That’s a hell of a start! Thanks for sharing. I’m curious where my wife and I will be a few years down the road.

[ViSexual 1,008]

We were seduced by a couple we had been friends with for a few years. It was no secret that my wife and the other husband had the hots for each other and when his wife mentioned to me that she'd let him be with another woman once, I told her I thought that was cool. She asked if I'd be upset it he was with my wife and I, honestly, told her that I wouldn't if she wanted to.

 

So, his wife and I waited until my wife and her husband had broken the ice and then the four of us had a really fun night together.

[Numex 2,459]

My wife and I "clicked" together sexually much as you describe, and are now pretty much in the same place as you.

 

... we decided that if we were going to do it, there would be no restrictions, no expectations, and to just let it go for the pure pleasure. We have matured a little since then and have crossed a few boundaries. We are comfortable with intimacy and emotional attachments with friends. And I have also been able to become a hot wife with a hall pass.

. The only difference is that it began with her being a hot wife, fucking two past lovers while I got all that I could handle from her. Now we are in pretty much involved with other couples, although we play alone or threesomes often.

[EastInWest 1,524]

This is a really enjoyable post for me because I see so much of Mrs. E and our experience in it, from the religious upbringing and struggles with the first vanilla marriage to experimenting after, then "fucking like piggies" in the relationship that works and finally experimenting with hotwifing. Thanks so much for posting it, and the great pics. You should two oughta swap. (Recipes, or something.)

[djjwp 129]

Great read. Thanks for sharing.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

Great post! Thanks for sharing the story!

 

I'm glad you were able to grow from your past and move beyond the very low expectations of sex. In the process, it seems you discovered a rather potent sex animal inside of you

[EmilyMoore 20]

The first time we were in a hotel in Greece and met with another couple from the USA, we started to talk and we finished staying together in the bad doing a 4some. Awesome experience. Now we meet with them every year and enjoy the company. They are the best couple we had met ever.

[snnetteC 15]

I've been married twenty years,

But he couldn't take it anymore.

And by examining the rules page,

In the swing club decided to jerk.

[hotinphx 34]

Very hot, would love to hear all the details

[GlicerinEBAG 15]

We were seduced by a couple we had been friends with for a few years. It was no secret that my wife and the other husband had the hots for each other and when his wife mentioned to me that she'd let him be with another woman once, I told her I thought that was cool. She asked if I'd be upset it he was with my wife and I, honestly, told her that I wouldn't if she wanted to.

 

So, his wife and I waited until my wife and her husband had broken the ice and then the four of us had a really fun night together.

 

to be honest I had almost the same situation...