Toy etiquette when swinging?

[Emt 91]

We're still learning what's appropriate and what's not when it comes to the lifestyle. We are starting to gather up supplies in a bag for when we can get to a club. Condoms, lube, flip flops, soap, vag. friendly wipes, mints, meds, etc. Starting out basic, we would like to pack a rechargeable wand and a dildo.

 

When it comes to clubs or house parties....what's the general etiquette with the use of sex toys/tools? Do toys not really have a place? Are they always welcome? Do couple's share toys?

 

Thanks!

[Sawman 84]

Share toys? Assume not. Bring toys for your own pleasure, not for your partners'. If a partner asks for toy play be prepared to offer a clean toy or the means to clean a toy such as alcohol wipes. Soap and water is the best. Inquire with the host(s).

[Guest]

Never have seen toys at a club. We have never taken any to a party. I have used a vibrator on my clit when getting fucked at home with a couple or one of our parties. I would think that something to consider is not trying to replace an excited cock with a dildo. I'd rather have a man penetrate me than a toy. After all, it's about sharing and swapping. I can ram a dildo up my papaya at home and by myself, if I absolutely need to.

[lcmim 1,082]

We are a "full spectrum" soft swap couple (pretty much anything except scat blood and genital penetration below the waist) Being into sensual play I actually have on hand a pretty wide selection everything from hair combs & brushes to some bondage gear and stimulation toys. Most of the times it stays in the bag, but sometimes...

 

The one thing everything has in common is a regular bath in soapy water with Clorox and an alcohol rub down. Physically it is all much cleaner than the people involved even if they are fresh from a hot shower. People do know and appreciate that anything from the bag is sterile or next to it.

[Emt 91]

Never have seen toys at a club. We have never taken any to a party. I have used a vibrator on my clit when getting fucked at home with a couple or one of our parties. I would think that something to consider is not trying to replace an excited cock with a dildo. I'd rather have a man penetrate me than a toy. After all, it's about sharing and swapping. I can ram a dildo up my papaya at home and by myself, if I absolutely need to.

 

This makes sense about the dildo. But it seems like a wand/vibrator might have a place, especially if my wife plays with another woman.

 

Ramming a dildo up your papaya....love it!

[Emt 91]

We are a "full spectrum" soft swap couple (pretty much anything except scat blood and genital penetration below the waist) Being into sensual play I actually have on hand a pretty wide selection everything from hair combs & brushes to some bondage gear and stimulation toys. Most of the times it stays in the bag, but sometimes...

 

The one thing everything has in common is a regular bath in soapy water with Clorox and an alcohol rub down. Physically it is all much cleaner than the people involved even if they are fresh from a hot shower. People do know and appreciate that anything from the bag is sterile or next to it.

 

Oh absolutely on the cleanliness!

 

Thanks

[adamgunn 1,460]

We never used toys at a swing club or house party. I can't remember using them with a foursome.

 

Every once in awhile when we were in an MFM at home and the guy wasn't getting her there I'd bring out one of our dildos and tell him to play with her that way. It usually worked out well.

[Emt 91]

We never used toys at a swing club or house party. I can't remember using them with a foursome.

 

Every once in awhile when we were in an MFM at home and the guy wasn't getting her there I'd bring out one of our dildos and tell him to play with her that way. It usually worked out well.

 

Good improvisation there. I will say when it comes to penetrative sex my wife cums pretty easily. Start slow, build up a rhythm, then pound away for a few minutes. But with oral that's where I can see men or women having more of a challenge. But good to keep the options for support in mind and open.

 

Thanks!

[CharmingDuo 26]

Hmmm. I'm still pretty new around here, I do more reading than posting. But thought I may chime in just a little. I'm much newer to the LS than my guy is. Went to my first club for New Years and had a great time, though we didn't participate this time around. Anyway...I love toys and believe as long as everything is obviously clean then bring it on. I didn't see any at the particular club we went to..not in the public rooms anyway, and we didn't go to the private ones. I think, for me personally, toys wouldn't come out at the club or the first couple of times with new people..toys would be something we worked towards, ya' know? Because I think getting to know the other people involved is helpful before breaking out the add-ons..that persons likes..dislikes...the bodys reaction to certain touches..everyone is different. I'm not opposed to toys, just probably wouldn't be busting out the vibrators and strap-ons the first time I'm naked with someone. But thats just me..-shrugs-

[Emt 91]

Hmmm. I'm still pretty new around here, I do more reading than posting. But thought I may chime in just a little. I'm much newer to the LS than my guy is. Went to my first club for New Years and had a great time, though we didn't participate this time around. Anyway...I love toys and believe as long as everything is obviously clean then bring it on. I didn't see any at the particular club we went to..not in the public rooms anyway, and we didn't go to the private ones. I think, for me personally, toys wouldn't come out at the club or the first couple of times with new people..toys would be something we worked towards, ya' know? Because I think getting to know the other people involved is helpful before breaking out the add-ons..that persons likes..dislikes...the bodys reaction to certain touches..everyone is different. I'm not opposed to toys, just probably wouldn't be busting out the vibrators and strap-ons the first time I'm naked with someone. But thats just me..-shrugs-

 

Yes, that makes sense and the focus seems like it'd be better placed on a new partner than whipping out a vibe or dildo and diverting some of the focus to that. Now, in time, like you say, different story.

 

Thanks for sharing!