Swinging with older couples?

[ornette 25]

So my wife and I was able to join a swingers club. However, from what we are told the swingers club mostly consists of people from 30 to 40 and there are no other good clubs or bars near us. My wife and I are both 27 so we are a little short on the life end. There is nothing wrong with people in their 30's and 40's but I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts or tips? From the mans perspective how would the older experienced woman and the younger inexperienced man situation work? Also anyone experience this from either side? So as to not end up at the kiddie table so to speak. Please and thank you.

[padoc 1,703]

Being sexually attractive is not necessarily age related. 30-40 with a couple 27 isn't a big gap. Over more than 15 years, we've set search parameters to play with couples plus or minus 10 years with one exception that turned out to be a mind mind blowing experience. We met a couple at Trapeze just a few years ago who were 25 years younger than we are. It turned out to be among the best nights we've ever spent at that or any other club. If you're attractive, open and friendly and h/w/p, you'll have your pick of playmates.

[adamgunn 1,460]

The older, experienced woman would have fun.

The younger, inexperienced man would have fun. And he'd gain experience.

[njbm 2,873]

No problem. Everyone’s parts work well in their 20s,30s and 40s, generally speaking. No one is going to ask for your birth certificate. We almost never know our playmates’ ages.

[Guest]

This is a very cute post. And I hope that the two of you enjoy the adventure. Listen, the biggest mistake we made when we fully embraced the lifestyle, was to place unfounded expectations and restrictions upon our stepping out. I think it's natural. We did not start as young as you two, and I do expect that you will be swapping up in age for a while. It's not as common to find real full swap swingers at your age. To do it, you have to be secure in your marriage, and individually, emotionally secure. I hate to repeat the cliche but, don't judge a book by its cover. You and your wife are going to be pleasantly surprised with some people. And, we have been pleasantly surprised with young couples. We date a very young couple, David and Alexandria, they are quite special. She is a most beautiful young woman in her appearance and in her heart. And in our relationship with them we share a standing and public admiration for each other. At a party, David is unashamed to say that I am the best sex he has ever had, and Alexandria hangs on my husband like a girlfriend. She has fun to tell everyone that when I die, she is going to marry my husband! It's precious to watch them make love.

 

Just relax, enjoy the journey, and don't get into a mindset of judging or being afraid to be judged. You'll have a lot more fun and rewarding relationships.

[Emt 91]

So my wife and I was able to join a swingers club. However, from what we are told the swingers club mostly consists of people from 30 to 40 and there are no other good clubs or bars near us. My wife and I are both 27 so we are a little short on the life end. There is nothing wrong with people in their 30's and 40's but I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts or tips? From the mans perspective how would the older experienced woman and the younger inexperienced man situation work? Also anyone experience this from either side? So as to not end up at the kiddie table so to speak. Please and thank you.

 

While I can't speak from experience in the lifestyle yet, I have been similarly curious lately pertaining to age. But if swinging is anything like daily life for us...age has far less importance than the content of the individual when it comes to personality and social skills. For example, I've had conversations with people that were drop dead gorgeous that had no clue how to form a coherent sentence and I found boring. Then there have been people that were average in the looks department but I was able to really connect with them...and those looks became a hell of a lot more attractive through our dialogue. My wife shares these views. So fingers crossed we meet good people... we'll cross the bridge of what their genitals feel and taste like when we come to it.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

What matters is not age but health in all of its dimensions.Physical health, emotional health, relational health. Swinging is, on one level, the celebration of sexual health. Older couples in the LS tend to be healthy in all of those dimensions.

[Guest]

Time to quit thinking you’re still 21 and, at 27, join the 30 year olds. Do the math, you’re there in 3 years.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

When I was single I hooked up with a woman that was 37, and I was 27. She taught me more than I ever knew.

 

When I was 40 I hooked up with a 25 year old. She was beautiful, blond, blue eyes and nice boobs. The kind of girl that many men would say "I can't believe I'm going to have sex with this person" After the fact laying in bed I tried talking to her, but I had had more life experience than she had. Swinging is just not about jumping in bed, you should be able to talk to them as well.

[ornette 25]

Aww thanks guys thanks for the feed back. Ok so just chill and have fun got it.