Female voyeur

[daisyrey 24]

My husband and I have not yet taken the plunge into the swinging lifestyle. We have been talking about it and researching information for about six months. We plan on visiting a Dallas club this summer. My prevalent fantasy is watching him with another woman. It seems (from what I’ve gathered on this site), a husband who is turned on by watching his wife with another man is fairly common within the lifestyle.

I realize that finding the lone female to play with my husband and possibly me might be rare, so if we discovered a couple with a male voyeur, would it be safe to assume he would be game to have me watch as well? This question is mostly aimed towards the men out there that enjoy watching their wives. Would it be a distraction to have the “other wife” watching as well? Or would it be welcomed?

[Bluespruce1 706]

We have done this multiple times - I love being watched and he loves watching me. It isn’t uncommon to want to masturbate while you watch. It’s even more exciting if her husband is there with you.

[Brimba 30]

My husband and I have not yet taken the plunge into the swinging lifestyle. We have been talking about it and researching information for about six months. We plan on visiting a Dallas club this summer. My prevalent fantasy is watching him with another woman. It seems (from what I’ve gathered on this site), a husband who is turned on by watching his wife with another man is fairly common within the lifestyle.

I realize that finding the lone female to play with my husband and possibly me might be rare, so if we discovered a couple with a male voyeur, would it be safe to assume he would be game to have me watch as well? This question is mostly aimed towards the men out there that enjoy watching their wives. Would it be a distraction to have the “other wife” watching as well? Or would it be welcomed?

 

A wife watching her husband having sex with another woman is more common than what many people thinks. My wife love it as much as I loved watching her with other men.

[cjlove4 16]

We have never actually done MFM but that is a huge fantasy of mine, but not hers. I can only imagine that I would really enjoy having the other man's partner watch. Again, I can't be sure due to lack of experience beyond my active imagination. It seems to me it may alleviate some of my wife's aversion as well. And many that's just wishful thinking:-). Yeah, wishful thinking.

[Funlatincouple 44]

I understand where you are coming from no doubt. Similar to you I truly enjoy watching my wife, thus it would not be a distraction for me. Unfortunately, it’s not my decision alone. My wife probably wouldn’t be ok with just us watching initially. In time, if our relationship grew I know that would change. We’re currently in a long term relationship and bc of that I’ve had the pleasure to watched her with another man alone. Communication is key!! Good luck, hope you find what you are looking for soon.

[CandDinCo 69]

My wife and I had this experience just last weekend. Wife recently had abdominal surgery and is unable to have sex without pain for a couple more weeks. She did not want me going without, so one of our friends took me into a bedroom at a party.

 

We left the door open, and I kept seeing a shadow coming from behind me. Turned out wifey had come on to watch. She said later that it turned her on immensely to watch.

[Maybe 23]

My husband and I have not yet taken the plunge into the swinging lifestyle. We have been talking about it and researching information for about six months. We plan on visiting a Dallas club this summer. My prevalent fantasy is watching him with another woman. It seems (from what I’ve gathered on this site), a husband who is turned on by watching his wife with another man is fairly common within the lifestyle.

I realize that finding the lone female to play with my husband and possibly me might be rare, so if we discovered a couple with a male voyeur, would it be safe to assume he would be game to have me watch as well? This question is mostly aimed towards the men out there that enjoy watching their wives. Would it be a distraction to have the “other wife” watching as well? Or would it be welcomed?

 

If your going to Dallas, I do recommend trying Colette on a Saturday night. We have not really taken the plunge either. But, we have been to Colette once and had a great time. We talk about returning, but have been just too busy with other things in our lives. Also, my wife is VERY paranoid about STD's. She has always been into sex and had many boyfriends before me, but never had a one night stand out of STD fear.

 

Also, one of my wife's best friends growing up is like this. Her friend used to love watching her boyfriends with other women. We have not seen her since she got married, but are always wondering if that has changed or not since the marriage. I seriously doubt that she has changed, because watching her man is what really turned her on and a marriage is not going to change that.

[daisyrey 24]

We do plan on going to Collettes! Thanks for the recommendation! We had originally planned on going this month, but we still have school age kids at home, so getting away is hard. Our goal for the night is to get a feel for things and have fun with each other. If we fall into a situation that is what we’re looking for, that will be an added bonus.

Since we have never done anything like this before, it’s hard for me to say just how much I want to participate in things, outside of watching. I know once I get there, all inhibitions might be thrown out the window. I also realize that there could be a difference between having a fantasy of seeing my husband with another woman and actually living it. But I’m not a jealous person at all, and we have a very open and loving marriage. (18 years) so I’m not too concerned about second thoughts.

[daisyrey 24]

My main curiousity is if most men would be happy watching along side me, with my attention being on his wife and my husband. I had also wondered if some wives might be self conscious about me only watching. It hadn’t even occurred to me to wonder if the wife would want/expect attention on her husband as well.

I’m starting to think I’m putting too much thought and analysis into this whole thing, and I just need to take the plunge!

[the Nomads 78]

Whats the worst you can do. Ask and be told they aren't interested?

 

Mr. Nomad

[CandDinCo 69]

My main curiousity is if most men would be happy watching along side me, with my attention being on his wife and my husband. I had also wondered if some wives might be self conscious about me only watching. It hadn’t even occurred to me to wonder if the wife would want/expect attention on her husband as well.

I’m starting to think I’m putting too much thought and analysis into this whole thing, and I just need to take the plunge!

 

That isn't as uncommon as you would think. All you can do is be upfront and state what you want....and be blunt about it. That's a common thing with lifestyle people. Get right to the point and don't be embarrassed. We don't want to waste time trying to figure out what you mean.

 

And if you approach a couple who has been around the LS community for a year or two they will either say yes, no, or "I know someone into that" and introduce you.

 

My city isn't huge. The swinger community here isn't that big. But I guarantee that I could direct you to someone right up your alley with less than 3 phone calls. Even if I haven't met them personally. All within 30 minutes of me.

 

Another thing, if you can find your way to a swing club or a meet and greet, ask around about Facebook groups. I didn't even know they existed at the 1st of the year. Most of them require an invite by an existing member and are local to your area. Introduce yourself in that group and state your interest. I bet you see several responses by the end of the day.