SLS profile advice?

[Emt 91]

I have seen a variety of SLS profiles. Some seem to be pretty well rounded and discuss their relationship, sex, etc., while others seem to really zero in on sex. The pictures...I know there are private galleries some couples need to give access to but I notice that a lot of people have pictures that really don't let you see what they look like. I can fully appreciate not showing their face and we're not looking for supermodels and 6-packs. But 6 pictures of your ass, hair, or shoulder doesn't give us any idea of what you actually look like. We also noticed that people seem to fudge numbers a bit in regard to height/weight/etc. Is this common and accepted? We're big fans of being honest and up front pretty much universally in life.

 

When reading profiles on SLS what do you prioritize and look for the other couple to specifically mention?

 

As far as pics go, what do you look for? Maybe this is less about what bodies look like and more about how open/honest the couple is.

 

With our profile, we want to make sure we're being effective and as honest as possible in the areas people look at. Please share your thoughts and experience when looking at SLS profiles.

 

Thanks!

[lcmim 1,082]

Being less than honest may get your foot into more doors, but those doors are far more likely to slam shut on that foot.

 

WYSIWYG up front works for us.

 

We try to be scrupulously accurate in our profiles about the physical attributes and as detailed as we can be without getting boring, about our personalities, relationship ,desires and expectations.

 

That means fewer doors but more pleasant encounters. After communication and a meeting seems likely, we open our gallery portrait pictures which are vanilla in nature. Most of them carry date stamps.

 

 

 

We can accept someone being a bit off in any of those areas, most of us have better things to do than daily updates, but if it looks like an out and out lie, then we say goodbye.

[Emt 91]

Being less than honest may get your foot into more doors, but those doors are far more likely to slam shut on that foot.

 

WYSIWYG up front works for us.

 

We try to be scrupulously accurate in our profiles about the physical attributes and as detailed as we can be without getting boring, about our personalities, relationship ,desires and expectations.

 

That means fewer doors but more pleasant encounters. After communication and a meeting seems likely, we open our gallery portrait pictures which are vanilla in nature. Most of them carry date stamps.

 

 

 

We can accept someone being a bit off in any of those areas, most of us have better things to do than daily updates, but if it looks like an out and out lie, then we say goodbye.

 

This is great to know! We hope to list our profile in the near future once we get it tweaked to where we are comfortable.

 

Thanks!

[NC_Seniors 518]

We've tried to keep our written description pretty much "Just the facts, ma'am" and short enough that people will actually read it. We've seen some Profiles that are like a manifesto ... we pass on those because we just don't have the time for 'em. We've also tried to avoid the long, flowery descriptions of ourselves that some people post. We guess it's OK for them if they want to do it, but we think there's only so much of that you can say and not have it sound cheesy.

 

We have five public pics posted. All are G-rated and three of them are full-body shots. We want people to see what we look like head to toe in case they have a particular body type in mind. We don't have anything that's not G-rated because we think there's something to be said for keeping certain things a surprise. We might post some M for Mature stuff later on, but they won't be nudes. Our listed ages and heights are absolutely correct, and we keep our weights current within two pounds (since it can fluctuate a little day by day). We don't know if fudging the numbers is common and accepted, but WE don't do it! Someone's not being honest infuriates us because they wasted whatever amount of our time we put into them.

 

The things we look at -- approximately in order -- are height/weight, ages, desired age range, if they smoke (we don't), sexual orientation, how far away they live, and finally -- if everything else checks out -- their pics. Height/weight are first because we *do* want a reasonable level of proportionality in potential partners. (We know that others have a different viewpoint ... we don't presume to tell anyone else what should be important to them.) Their ages and desired age range matter because it'd be nice to have something in common to talk about unless your only goal is to get straight to the sex. After those things, the rest are "negotiable".

 

If you want to check out our Profile, it's the same user name on SLS as it is here.

[Emt 91]

We've tried to keep our written description pretty much "Just the facts, ma'am" and short enough that people will actually read it. We've seen some Profiles that are like a manifesto ... we pass on those because we just don't have the time for 'em. We've also tried to avoid the long, flowery descriptions of ourselves that some people post. We guess it's OK for them if they want to do it, but we think there's only so much of that you can say and not have it sound cheesy.

 

We have five public pics posted. All are G-rated and three of them are full-body shots. We want people to see what we look like head to toe in case they have a particular body type in mind. We don't have anything that's not G-rated because we think there's something to be said for keeping certain things a surprise. We might post some M for Mature stuff later on, but they won't be nudes. Our listed ages and heights are absolutely correct, and we keep our weights current within two pounds (since it can fluctuate a little day by day). We don't know if fudging the numbers is common and accepted, but WE don't do it! Someone's not being honest infuriates us because they wasted whatever amount of our time we put into them.

 

The things we look at -- approximately in order -- are height/weight, ages, desired age range, if they smoke (we don't), sexual orientation, how far away they live, and finally -- if everything else checks out -- their pics. Height/weight are first because we *do* want a reasonable level of proportionality in potential partners. (We know that others have a different viewpoint ... we don't presume to tell anyone else what should be important to them.) Their ages and desired age range matter because it'd be nice to have something in common to talk about unless your only goal is to get straight to the sex. After those things, the rest are "negotiable".

 

If you want to check out our Profile, it's the same user name on SLS as it is here.

 

Good info, thanks for sharing. Our SLS profile is under a completely different name. Took us a while to even find one that wasn't taken. I like your choice and layout of pics as well. We won't be showing our faces but I see most people don't. I see what you mean about "just the facts"...very direct and to the point. We like that and feel we've done the same.

 

We've already received PM's and IM's but can't read them because we are free members. I might just pay the $15 for the first month to get feedback from other members here and there as well as get started in the LS. Our plan was to wait until at least the first visit to the club to invest in a profile on SLS but after that we have no issue paying the $150 for a lifetime.

[JandKinBoise 858]

One odd thing about this, is that no one has ever been the person that pipes up and says, yea, we put partial pix and a short bio with lies about our age and height so that we can.........

In our experience, there are more false profiles than accurate. We consider a profile not updated in 5 years as not accurate.

Is anyone here, dealing with the consequences of a false profile? My wife is the first to call out a person and that makes everyone at the table uncomfortable, cept her, with the smirk half smile, waiting for the answer. I bet those folks walk in to the next meeting a little more nervous.

It may be rude, but so is wasting an entire evening for us.

[dazanconfsd 84]

JandKinBoise: You have a valid point. However, I don't believe you will find many on this board being the type that will outright lie on their profiles (of course if they do, I highly doubt they will be forthcoming about it). Most that are on this board are here to learn and do what they can to have a good interaction and good time. We only have face/upper body pics as of now and not a lot written, but it is all factual. We don't want to be something that someone thinks they want and decide otherwise later because we omitted something or straight out lied about it. Just my .02.

 

EMT: Our SLS is brand new, just switched from AFF but had a similar layout on there with good results (3 connections in 2 months and one couple becoming close friends) YMMV. Best of luck. Oh yeah, our SLS is the same as our name here if you feel like checking it out, there is another paragraph of info being "reviewed" since yesterday, but it's mostly there.

[NC_Seniors 518]

it may be rude, but so is wasting an entire evening for us.

bingo!!!

[Emt 91]

I bet those folks walk in to the next meeting a little more nervous.

 

...or cut the crap and start implementing honesty as an approach.

 

Swinging doesn't seem to be any sort of contest where only a few get to play and the rest go home crying. So I don't understand how any level of dishonesty, as it pertains directly to the LS, is advantageous at all. I guess if you want to lie about being an astronaut or spy...have at it. But with height, weight, pics, sexual interests, boundaries/rules....why fudge anything??

[Emt 91]

Most that are on this board are here to learn and do what they can to have a good interaction and good time.

 

 

EMT: Our SLS is brand new, just switched from AFF but had a similar layout on there with good results (3 connections in 2 months and one couple becoming close friends) YMMV. Best of luck. Oh yeah, our SLS is the same as our name here if you feel like checking it out, there is another paragraph of info being "reviewed" since yesterday, but it's mostly there.

 

I know that is why we are here.

 

Thanks for the info on your profile. Looks good and straight forward. We should include similar to what you wrote in "addl info" about contacting. We really are VERY outgoing and want to encourage people to reach out to us.

 

This is actually becoming an issue that I think we're going to need to invest the $15 in so we don't come off as rude. Had our profile up for a day or two and already have PM's and IM's waiting that we can't see. It sucks that they don't accept Paypal but I guess credit card is fine.

 

Thanks for sharing!!

[findinganswers 369]

If you are going to be on the site you need to pay. The site is cheaper than a drink at a bar. We are new on SLS and when we met our first couple, at a bar, I picked up the tab for the first drink.

 

Our profile contains our G pictures. Pictures are us together. We are dressed casually, a little dressy and one is us on the beach in bathing suits. I think clothes says something about your personality. Beach shots tells what your body looks like. Every picture tells a story. Why hide who you are. If someone is looking for a type they will see you. Don’t try to over impress.

 

You are looking for a swing couple or friends?

 

We state what we are looking for. Sexual orientation is important. Don’t say you will do things you feel uncomfortable with. Don’t exaggerate. A big turn off for us talking about penis size or how long he can go.

 

What I don’t post is real names and location.

[Emt 91]

If you are going to be on the site you need to pay. The site is cheaper than a drink at a bar. We are new on SLS and when we met our first couple, at a bar, I picked up the tab for the first drink.

 

Our profile contains our G pictures. Pictures are us together. We are dressed casually, a little dressy and one is us on the beach in bathing suits. I think clothes says something about your personality. Beach shots tells what your body looks like. Every picture tells a story. Why hide who you are. If someone is looking for a type they will see you. Don’t try to over impress.

 

You are looking for a swing couple or friends?

 

We state what we are looking for. Sexual orientation is important. Don’t say you will do things you feel uncomfortable with. Don’t exaggerate. A big turn off for us talking about penis size or how long he can go.

 

What I don’t post is real names and location.

 

I think we'll buy a temp membership as soon as we can snap some g-rated pics. People keep IM'ing us and we can't respond. So far only clubs have PM'd us. No rush there.

 

Thanks

[dazanconfsd 84]

What we have learned on other sites, once you get your profile FILLED with the info that you want out there and what you think is pertinent, THEN ask for more info is ok. If you don't, people won't want to ask all about you, they need a basic understanding first. I assume you already grasp this, but I think it needs to be said, just in case.

[njbm 2,880]

I find SLS and SDC frustrating. Lots of fakes and flakes. We have more success on Bliss cruises. More people on board with swinging.

[Emt 91]

Well we pulled the trigger on a membership. Hedged our bets and went for 3 months. Things work out well, we'll click lifetime.

 

Also PM'd another couple in our township asking about clubs, house parties, etc. Hopefully that's not too forward up front. We'll find out.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

I find SLS and SDC frustrating. Lots of fakes and flakes. We have more success on Bliss cruises. More people on board with swinging.

Yep. People are paying $1000s and both members of the couple are on board when they get on board ship.

[Emt 91]

Well so far, SLS is not going well...

 

So many couples we would love to connect with, but our phones aren't letting us upload pictures so it seems like reaching out would be a waste of time. We're going to Verizon today after work to get them looked at.

 

We also emailed another couple in our neighborhood (or one of the neighboring developments) and they have yet to read our email even though they've been on yesterday and today. We figure if they don't respond by week's end, they just didn't want to be bothered. We actually only asked about clubs/parties in the area and what their experience has been.

 

We've been chatting with other SLS members but only from members here. Haven't received any emails/IM of interest and don't expect to until we get pics up.

[adamgunn 1,460]

"We also emailed another couple in our neighborhood (or one of the neighboring developments) and they have yet to read our email even though they've been on yesterday and today. We figure if they don't respond by week's end, they just didn't want to be bothered."

 

I think it's unfortunate, but you can read the email without 'opening' it. So an email can go for years in the unread/unreplied status. Yeah, if they don't respond in a reasonable amount of time, assume they aren't interested and move on. It happens.

 

As soon as you get pictures up, you can expect your viewings to pick up.

[Emt 91]

"We also emailed another couple in our neighborhood (or one of the neighboring developments) and they have yet to read our email even though they've been on yesterday and today. We figure if they don't respond by week's end, they just didn't want to be bothered."

 

I think it's unfortunate, but you can read the email without 'opening' it. So an email can go for years in the unread/unreplied status. Yeah, if they don't respond in a reasonable amount of time, assume they aren't interested and move on. It happens.

 

As soon as you get pictures up, you can expect your viewings to pick up.

 

On the email. Ok, good to know. It's just odd to us because we were just looking to talk and learn. But as soon as pics are ready we have a list of a handful of couples we'd like to reach out to.

 

Thanks!

[Jane1902 476]

If you looked at a profile and there were no pictures would you respond? There are also plenty of fake couples profiles too. I suspect that some that focus on penis size are. There are some great threads here with tips on posting photos.

[Emt 91]

If you looked at a profile and there were no pictures would you respond? There are also plenty of fake couples profiles too. I suspect that some that focus on penis size are. There are some great threads here with tips on posting photos.

 

We have been looking at profiles without pics. But I understand the concern behind your question.

 

It's not a website issue, it's a problem with our phones.

 

Thanks though.

[padoc 1,703]

@Jane… We would look at a pictureless profile that contacted us on SLS or SDC. If we liked what we read, if they were not smokers, if they were plus or minus 10 age wise and indicated that they were h/w/p we would respond. Our note would be courteous and brief, in effect saying that we never buy a pig in a poke and never meet another couple without having seen reasonably recent photos. We can exchange email addresses or cell numbers for texts/pics and go from there. New couples in particular are quite concerned about posting pictures on the web so we give them the benefit of the doubt. If they don't wish to give us a look (especially since we have about 15 representative posted on each site) contact ends.

[Emt 91]

Quick update....we got the phones fixed. We're going to snap some pics and get them uploaded. Fingers crossed!

[Emt 91]

Pics are up! We got quick ones in our work clothes. Plus we have a face pic we can share with possible matches. Its bare bones but hopefully it gets us the time of day.

[Emt 91]

...annnnddd for anyone still reading...we just got our first invite to play!

 

It seemed really direct and fast but after some chatting, the female half said they wanted to play with us. More specifically, the male going down on my wife and then the female joining us for a threesome (not sure if hard or soft). Kinda caught us off guard. I mean both my wife and I think the interest is great, but part of me is curious if there's something wrong with it. We thought in the LS you meet up, socialize, etc. see what chemistry is present THEN figure out where to go from there. This seems sorta ass-backwards. Are we looking a gift-horse in the mouth or does something not smell right to those well-seasoned in the LS?

 

In any case, we had a bunch of IM's/Emails today so I guess the pics (as basic and "boring" as they are) drew interest.

 

Thanks!

[lcmim 1,082]

...annnnddd for anyone still reading...we just got our first invite to play!

 

the female half said they wanted to play with us. More specifically, the male going down on my wife and then the female joining us for a threesome

Thanks!

 

 

You had me confused right here . There are FOUR of you correct? or are they just moving on your wife?

[Emt 91]

You had me confused right here . There are FOUR of you correct? or are they just moving on your wife?

 

That's not my understanding. The male have going down on my wife and then my wife and I playing with the female half. Sounds like everyone is getting something on some level but that's just what the female half said. We'll be having more dialogue prior to meeting, if that's the route we decide to go.