Please help with closure!

[Guest]

It doesn’t really matter, does it? She has moved on, you should as well.

[Sawman 84]

Workplace dating is tricky and not advised particularly at the courthouse level where gossip is rife. But the human heart does not take advice. Notwithstanding anything that went on before, she is now your ex. You can still have feelings for her and a sense of jealousy, but you have to put it behind you. If she dates on the job be glad you are out of it. Unless she and the judge get married, it will blow up on them both and be glad you are out of it. Find someone away from the job and show her you can be happy without risking your job and reputation.

 

You are here on a swinger forum so were you non-monogamous before?

[lcmim 1,086]

Looking back at your posts from 3/13 & 3/14 I am having trouble with the time line connecting that post to this.

 

I can not avoid the thought that you are creating story lines around the question that you really are dealing with.

 

Just ask it. We will be able to be of much more use.

[padoc 1,704]

21st century America and our buzzwords gets so annoying. "Closure"?? Whats to close? You dated her, it didn't work out, now she's dating her boss. I'd say it IS closed! If she was boinking the boss while you were dating, you didn't know, right? So why dwell on what you did or didn't know now that its over. If there was no knowledge, there was no hurt ergo no need for "closure". Im guessing the OP is a millennial.

[Emt 91]

Greetings. Before my ex and I broke up she was working in a courthouse. She still works there to this day working for the same judge while we were together as she works for now that we are not together. Long story short, she is now with an dating this same judge. Is there a chance she was messing with or possibly sleeping with this judge while we were together??? I remember a time when we were together and she was taking an interest in working out and getting in shape when she had no interest in doing so before at one point in time. I kind of thought this was odd at the time but did not give it much thought AT THE TOME. Fast forward to now and she is now dating the judge. What do you guys think??! I’d also be willing to pay to get some of your guys insight on the subject. I dont understand how he ended up winning her over despite him being way older than me. Maybe he is well endowed??? Please anyone. Help??

 

I'm not sure what this has to do with swinging or the ls in general. I also don't understand how anyone here can possibly answer any of your questions other than to say "sure, it's possible" in response to all of them. I generally try to chime in where I feel I can help people out no matter their issue, but in this case I'm not sure how helpful anyone in an online forum can be for this specific issue. Clearly it's bothering you, so why not look into counseling? From what I've heard it can help.