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We've all occasionally met people in our day to day lives who spark an instant connection. You just...CONNECT. You find yourselves wondering if you know this person from somewhere, because there is something so damned familiar about them. And they fascinate you. You don't necessarily interpret it as sexual attraction (or maybe you do), but you find yourselves awkwardly struggling to prolong a conversation that has long since exceeded its polite expiry time in your particular social context. And you're racking your brains to come up with a socially acceptable reason to have to meet again to carry on the conversation.

 

We've all done this. You've just met someone with whom you have wicked good energetic chemistry. Or, if you subscribe to such beliefs (raises hand), someone you've known in a past life who happened to stop around to say hello.

 

Sometimes you don't even realize how compatible you really are until your clothes are off and ka-BOOM! Holy fuck! It's like being on a date with a Hitachi Magic Wand, because he just intuitively hits exactly all the right buttons. This was the case with one of my playmates. It surprised the hell out of me because he didn't strike me immediately as "my type". But afterward, I found myself groaning and squirming at just the memory of our playtime. And attracted suddenly to other men who were of a similar type.

 

So this playmate happens to be exceptionally energetically sensitive. Like I said, he's very intuitive, and had me almost passing out with very light G-spot manipulation. In turn, I found that the thing he found most arousing was gentle, feather-light stroking of his cock. And the most surprising thing? Every wave of pleasure he experienced "echoed" in me; I could feel it as a sweet aching in that energy centre just below my belly button, and it flared in time with his. "Oh my God, what are you doing to me?" he asked. I'm like, "I don't know! What the hell are you doing to ME?"

 

I figured it was me subconsciously playing around with his energy. I know there are a lot of rational types in this group - maybe predominantly so - but I'm hoping you'll look at this with an open mind. To me, this is a very real thing. I can't define it, I can't really adequately describe it, and I sure can't prove it to anyone. But this phenomenon is part of my reality, and I'm more than happy to incorporate its mysteries as part of my playtime.

 

Anyone have any thoughts on this, or similar experiences?

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Sounds amazing. He's certainly a good lover.

 

What was the context of this sexual experience? In a swap with your SOs? At a club, in a home? Were you in a separate room with him, or all by yourselves? I ask these questions because if the experience was somewhat out of the ordinary it would impact you differently.

 

And, how did he do the second time?

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Hubby and I play in separate rooms. This wasn't the first encounter with this playmate. Like maybe our third time together?

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We completely understand what you are saying and have experienced the same types of energy. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "exceptionally energetically sensitive. Like I said, he's very intuitive". In our opinion this person has learned to embrace their feelings and allows their sexual, intellectual and sensitive side to come out. This person knows how to read body language and use empathy to adapt to the situation at hand. If in turn you allow the energy to flow and fully give in to the situation the exchange will be beyond what most would consider normal. Most men have trouble showing these type of emotions openly, cause they might appear weak or vulnerable.

 

Curious, what are your and his Zodiac signs?

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I believe he's a Scorpio, and I'm an Aquarius (textbook).

 

Your signs explain a lot!

 

"Contact between a Scorpio and an Aquarius can be truly intense. As squaring signs, they should have a very troublesome contact, but the sign of Scorpio exalts the ruler of Aquarius, Uranus. These signs combined represent the ultimate sexual freedom, a place with no restrictions or taboos. They are a combination of Water and Air, of emotion and information, all combined in a strong scent of attraction."

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... And they fascinate you. You don't necessarily interpret it as sexual attraction...

 

We've all done this. You've just met someone with whom you have wicked good energetic chemistry.

Yes, and on different levels. One of the wives we swap with is a perfect sexual match with me. We look forward to having sex together and pretty much fuck and explore sexually the entire time we're together; otherwise not much in common. Another wife/couple we swap with is fun and satisfying to have sex with, but we spend a lot of time talking. Several times we got together with them, her husband and my wife spent the evening screwing, while his wife and I went to cultural events they had no interest in, and we had quick or no sex afterwards. (My wife was relived she didn't have to go with me and enjoyed the fucking.)
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Goddammit! I hate posting with my phone! That shit was pure poetry and I lost it.

I always block and copy periodically when writing a post, both phone and computer. If a post is lost, you can start over and paste.

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I was going to say - before my post disappeared - that one of the great things about swinging is that we don't have to have the pressure any more of being up on one another's pedestal. I don't have to be his everything. I don't HAVE to be interested in all the same things as he is. I don't HAVE to be THE most perfect, most attractive, most energetic, most amazing at every single sex act. Other women are just as amazing as I am, and I love that I'm secure enough in myself, my worth, and what I have to offer him that I can happily - even enthusiastically - give him the freedom to interact with these other beautiful women.

 

Everyone wonders, well, what's left? Indeed, good question. I can't put words to it, but it's...our history I guess. Other women might be more beautiful than I am, more intelligent, and yeah, maybe even have a better sexual connection with Mr. intuition than I have. But none of them are me. We've chosen one another as traveling companions on this road trip through life. We meet a lot of interesting people, and the roadside attractions that draw each of us aren't necessarily the same, but that's okay. What interests me most is his experience. That he's excited to tell me all about it. That I get to see his face lit up, and that he is really enjoying the trip. THAT's the connection.

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