the Nomads 78 Posted March 28, 2019 Well we went against the advice of many and decided to come out to some friends we were traveling with. We told them we were going to a club and briefly what it was about and that we were in the lifestyle. We felt we knew them well enough to know what their reaction was going to be. We were wrong. We expected that they wouldn't be bothered by it. They typically are live and let live kind of people so we figured they would just be cool with it. Instead of just letting us do our thing though they started asking questions. "How does it work?" "Do you really have sex with other people?" "Are you really ok with seeing him/her with another woman/man?". Can you believe they even had the audacity to accept our invitation to join us at the club and check it out first hand? The gall of them. All kidding aside we took them to the club just to check it out. We had previously attended a club who employed only chronically underclothed women with them so we didn't think this would be a big leap. Unfortunately we showed up late on friday night and it was packed. The ratio of single males to couples was a bit off for us as well. We got to do a lot of watching and based on the noise coming from both sides of the house when we got back it seemed to do it for both couples. Saturday however was different. We got there about 30 minutes after they opened and took a walk through the play area with it completely empty. After a couple of drinks we ended up in a room together with the understanding that they were just interested in watching us at that point. We certainly were good with that. Next thing we know they are next to us on the bed and we are enjoying the sites and sounds as much as they were. It was certainly a success and frankly it rekindled our friendships a bit more as well. Our wives are certainly closer and are going clothes shopping next time we are in the same town. One of you guys has this line as their signature but it truly represented the night for us. If you don’t have to lie about sex, you don’t have to lie about anything. - John Williamson Even though it was simply a voyeuristic experience and not truly swapping it certainly allowed us to have more open and honest discussions. The wives have been chatting nonstop about the next time. Mr. Nomad 5 Quote Share this post Link to post
Chris&Suzanne 204 Posted March 28, 2019 We have come out to friends that we know well. It has always been good. We didn't necessarily play with all of them, but we are all still friends. Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,066 Posted March 29, 2019 One of you guys has this line as their signature but it truly represented the night for us. If you don’t have to lie about sex, you don’t have to lie about anything. - John Williamson That would be us and it's SOOOOOOOOOO true. While we don't recommend swinging with friends, we're glad to hear things went well (but we avoid nights where single men are allowed in). 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
the Nomads 78 Posted March 30, 2019 That would be us and it's SOOOOOOOOOO true. While we don't recommend swinging with friends, we're glad to hear things went well (but we avoid nights where single men are allowed in). You're the guy with that signature! Well I guess you knew that. I think with regard to these friends we will probably invite them when we are going to an event where they can attend but if they want to play otherwise we've let them know that they would need to initiate next time. There's definitely no road map on this one and the Mrs. and I like that. Now if we could just find people in the lifestyle that can be this good of friends. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
dazanconfsd 84 Posted March 30, 2019 We aren't far at all from y'all (if you're still where your profile says), Which club did you go to? We are working on getting out to a club, all of our experiences have been at homes/hotels. We have also introduced friends to the LS with great success, won't repeat the first mistake we made when we started (no playing), but are happy to bring them to house parties, give advice and point where they can get better advice lol. I'm glad all worked well Nomads. Our friends that we introduced to the LS are having a blast out there, and we're as close as ever. Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,643 Posted March 30, 2019 We've come out to two friends. One was (good) astonishment, and total acceptance. The other not so accepting. Mileage varies. Glad you had a good result Wish we had! Quote Share this post Link to post
the Nomads 78 Posted April 2, 2019 We aren't far at all from y'all (if you're still where your profile says), Which club did you go to? We are working on getting out to a club, all of our experiences have been at homes/hotels. We have also introduced friends to the LS with great success, won't repeat the first mistake we made when we started (no playing), but are happy to bring them to house parties, give advice and point where they can get better advice lol. I'm glad all worked well Nomads. Our friends that we introduced to the LS are having a blast out there, and we're as close as ever. This particular club was Colette in New Orleans but we’ve also been to secrets in Kissimmee. It was a slow night so I can’t speak to how it is on the weekend. Unfortunately we’ve moved back north. We hope to be back in Florida by winter. I’m not doing a northern winter ever again. Mr nomad. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,066 Posted April 2, 2019 Now if we could just find people in the lifestyle that can be this good of friends. That's exactly what we have done. We find great people we like in the L/S and make them our good friends. Quote Share this post Link to post