Communicating and letting "I love you!" slip out during sex?

[Emt 91]

We've connected with another couple online. My wife and I are really excited to meet up with them. Our conversations are getting pretty detailed which is helping to build comfort.

 

However, my wife and I have never played with another couple before. So while we love how each other is during sex, we have no clue how other couples are when it comes to communication. I don't mean talking about the ball game, I mean saying things like "That feels amazing!", "Holy fuck!", "Watch your teeth", "Yes, please keep doing that!"...etc. That's how I typically am during sex and my wife loves it. But in the LS, is it moans only and keep your mouth shut otherwise or what?

 

With the couples I work with, I always advise increasing communication before, during, and after sex to increase connection, awareness, and enjoyment. Just not sure how things are in the LS.

 

Also, has anyone ever blurted out "Oh my God!...I love you!!" forgetting you're not with your husband/wife? Is it something to laugh at, ignore, apologize...etc...??

 

Thanks!

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

We've connected with another couple online. My wife and I are really excited to meet up with them. Our conversations are getting pretty detailed which is helping to build comfort.

 

However, my wife and I have never played with another couple before. So while we love how each other is during sex, we have no clue how other couples are when it comes to communication. I don't mean talking about the ball game, I mean saying things like "That feels amazing!", "Holy fuck!", "Watch your teeth", "Yes, please keep doing that!"...etc. That's how I typically am during sex and my wife loves it. But in the LS, is it moans only and keep your mouth shut otherwise or what?

 

Part of the interest for me is the differences in how people have sex or express themselves. Just be yourself & relax.

 

With the couples I work with, I always advise increasing communication before, during, and after sex to increase connection, awareness, and enjoyment. Just not sure how things are in the LS.

 

pretty much the same. While there is such a thing as 'too much information' or detail or talk, good communication is as important here as anywhere.

 

Also, has anyone ever blurted out "Oh my God!...I love you!!" forgetting you're not with your husband/wife? Is it something to laugh at, ignore, apologize...etc...??

 

Thanks!

 

It has happened. Don't worry about it, you won't do it.

[adamgunn 1,460]

I've been with talkers, with screamers, with people so silent you might think they were mute (except for heavy panting.) If everyone is having fun, don't worry about it.

 

As far as 'I love you' goes, never had it happen in my presence. I assume it would cause a bit of an awkward silence, then if nobody was pissed (I wouldn't be,) I bet a spate of laughing would occur. I wouldn't worry about it happening, the dynamic doesn't often lead there.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

However, my wife and I have never played with another couple before. So while we love how each other is during sex, we have no clue how other couples are when it comes to communication. I don't mean talking about the ball game, I mean saying things like "That feels amazing!", "Holy fuck!", "Watch your teeth", "Yes, please keep doing that!"...etc. That's how I typically am during sex and my wife loves it. But in the LS, is it moans only and keep your mouth shut otherwise or what?

 

Communication is key. Remember, you're learning the likes, dislikes, pleasures and issues of new people. It's always important to share information. Some of my best play experiences came with a lot of very open and up front discussion, long before clothes came off and the bedroom door closed, of what everyone enjoyed. During play, it is also important to say "yes, do that" or "no, that doesn't work for me" (or, especially, "ouch! don't do that!" ... it happens). The important part is to be open, honest and confident enough to take (and give) feedback as a positive part of the experience.

 

With the couples I work with, I always advise increasing communication before, during, and after sex to increase connection, awareness, and enjoyment. Just not sure how things are in the LS.

 

In my opinion, and experience, communication is the heart and soul of the LS. I think your philosophy is a good one.

 

Also, has anyone ever blurted out "Oh my God!...I love you!!" forgetting you're not with your husband/wife? Is it something to laugh at, ignore, apologize...etc...??

 

I've personally never had that happen. I've always been very aware that the woman I'm with isn't my wife and my wife is always very aware that the guy she's with isn't me. That's part of the fun.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Usually it isn't 'I love you', but something like 'I love your cock', 'I love what you're doing to me', 'I love THAT'. You should both know that anything said in the heat of passion isn't a binding contract but just something said in passion. It doesn't count. IF it does happen, I'm sure that a moment of silence would be followed by laughter. We have told the couple that we have dated for year that we love them (but not during a sexual experience)...we do, and they love us as well, but we all understand that we LOVE our SO, that our SO is our primary. We love, care and respect them, but the love we have for them pales in comparison to the love we have with our SO.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Our experience with couples is pretty narrow, but this one hasn't come up. I don't think it'd surprise me if it did. We've had a few "I love yous" exchanged across the room between husband/wife while with other partners. I've been called the wrong name when the other wife lost track of who was behind her. (It wasn't her husband's name, but the third husband. She just forgot I'd taken over.)

 

I think those weird moments that wouldn't pop up in vanilla sex are just a hot/funny reminder of how lucky we are to be doing what we're doing.

 

As for other communication, we're familiar enough that I think we're mostly over the "what do you like" stuff. It's actually not unusual for girl talk about sex to break out in the middle of the action, at least with our circle.

[Numex 2,420]

My wife exchanges "I love you"s with one guy and two girlfriends. I like the fact that they care for her and show it in other ways.

[Eddiem 139]

We've connected with another couple online. My wife and I are really excited to meet up with them. Our conversations are getting pretty detailed which is helping to build comfort.

 

However, my wife and I have never played with another couple before. So while we love how each other is during sex, we have no clue how other couples are when it comes to communication. I don't mean talking about the ball game, I mean saying things like "That feels amazing!", "Holy fuck!", "Watch your teeth", "Yes, please keep doing that!"...etc. That's how I typically am during sex and my wife loves it. But in the LS, is it moans only and keep your mouth shut otherwise or what?

 

With the couples I work with, I always advise increasing communication before, during, and after sex to increase connection, awareness, and enjoyment. Just not sure how things are in the LS.

 

Also, has anyone ever blurted out "Oh my God!...I love you!!" forgetting you're not with your husband/wife? Is it something to laugh at, ignore, apologize...etc...??

 

Thanks!

 

Yeah... happened to me and my SO. For me I had this nice lady friend blurt it out that she loved me... when it was over, she did not LOL. My wife had another experience that I was part of and while she was being fucked in the final thrusts, all hot and bothered she blurted out "fuck me harder... oh cum in me, put your seed in me... put a baby in me"... I was like oh... however she has no intentions of havving a baby.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

I think saying I love you during sex is sort of weird, personally. I can't really recall that happening very often in a long term relationship and never in a swing situation or casual encounter. I would assume that if you are used to saying that sort of thing during sex with your wife, you might want to pay attentiin to not letting slip out from habit.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

With the couples I work with, I always advise increasing communication before, during, and after sex to increase connection, awareness, and enjoyment. Just not sure how things are in the LS.

 

Also, has anyone ever blurted out "Oh my God!...I love you!!" forgetting you're not with your husband/wife? Is it something to laugh at, ignore, apologize...etc...??

 

I'm a less talk is a good thing kind of guy except for before. Communicating your feelings before is a good thing. During? No. After? Maybe. If you want to find out if it was good enough for your wife/husband enough to want to do it again. Or if it wasn't a good experience maybe try someone else.

 

During? No. I had an experience where I blurted out "I love you" of course after I've had an incredible orgasm with her as if she was my wife. It just seemed natural in the moment. When I came to my senses a few seconds later I was thinking "what the fuck is wrong with you" Both of us were confused. Now what?

 

I have never said that again to another playmate.

 

The only person I say I love you to now is my wife. If I want to express myself to another woman about how much I like/love the experience with her I would say "I love fucking you" but I have never said that to anyone.

 

As I said above I don't like talking during or after. I let the experience do the talking.

[Numex 2,420]

When I read here about couples who have no problem with their spouse fucking other people, but have a "no kissing" rule or freak at any sign of caring emotional attachment, I question what's going on. My wife isn't going to run off with someone because she has feelings for her or him, and I like the fact they don't treat one another like a cheap pick up.