seattlecple 34 Posted April 27, 2019 Hi, We are new to the lifestyle and wanted to share our experiences (nobody else to report to ) We are based out of Seattle and have been going to Sapphire. Love the atmosphere, very laid back, clean, and nice people all around. We aren't into playing with other couples. We primarily go to watch and be watched. Wife loves to wear sexy, skimpy clothes and is rather attractive! We love to dance giving everyone a glimpse of her rack, booty, and just having a good time overall. The play rooms are really nice and clean. We like to have some sex and don't mind others watching. Initially, we went to a semi-private room with curtains open.. And just last time, went to a shared play room with few other parties having fun.. One weekend, there was one gentleman (visiting from out of state) who had a really good conversation with us. We didn't know he couldn't get to the play areas as a single male and had to be accompanied there. Also, wife is rather shy. While she likes to show off and tease, she doesn't necessarily engage. Also we haven't been exposed to situations like this and so quite frankly didn't know how to react. We've been there a few times now and love it... A fun, "don't care" atmosphere where everyone's having fun. Guys and gals give my wife a lot of compliments! she enjoys that. Nobody has ever touched or behaved out of the norm. Very impressed with that. A few casual rubs in the dance floor and we dont mind it and it was nothing more than at the night club.. more opportunistic and due to "crowd" than creepy.. not sure what else to share... so many questions still Is it ok to go to only watch and be watched? I know for a fact that the wife entertains a few by her looks and teasing outfits Love to hear your thoughts, suggestions, anything 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,461 Posted April 27, 2019 See, not all of us swingers are evil creeps! Seriously, congratulations. It seems you're having the experience the two of you want, which is the way it should be. And of course, if you want people to watch you and/or you simply wish to watch, there should be no problem. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
padoc 1,704 Posted April 27, 2019 For us and many of our friends, swinging was a progression, especially at clubs. Mrs Doc dressed in a tantalizing fashion and we watched others in the play area before going off by ourselves to boink each other blind. As time passed, she got more and more brave and wore less and less, we found that she enjoyed showing off more than a little. From there, we started to have semi private sex together and then we moved to playing together on the edge of groups of couples. It was about then that she discovered that she enjoyed playing in the glory hole room at one of the clubs. It was the first time I saw her touch another penis and I discovered that I wasn't jealous. Once we began playing together in groups, it was a small step to touching and being touched. The first time she was riding me and the female of the couple next to us started to play with Mrs Doc's tit was about the hottest thing I'd EVER seen to that point. We slowly slid into soft swap with other couples(touching, oral, then oral to completion) but it was still months before we finally were ready to take the leap into full swap. Once we got there, we were totally at ease as it happened because by then, it was just the natural next step in our progression. My point is, this is your adventure, take it at your own pace and enjoy each new experience. The great thing about clubs, especially early on, is that you can see and do all that you wish without pressure to move too fast. Other than true hard core couples, swingers are usually playful, understanding and respectful and willing to help new couples explore the edges of their envelops. I do hope you'll update us on your experiences. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
seattlecple 34 Posted April 27, 2019 very calming and reassuring to see your replies Thank you. Yes, we'll definitely update... For now, really enjoying the sexually charged up ambience, wifey showing a lot and both of us enjoying it... last time we went, she wore my shirt - completely unbuttoned, a teeny-tiny thong and a knot for the shirt... with a DD rack, it was soo much fun seeing others enjoy the views!! Q: How do I invite/let others know it's ok to talk/touch her (with her permission of course). Sorry too many noob questions.. Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,461 Posted April 27, 2019 Q: How do I invite/let others know it's ok to talk/touch her (with her permission of course). The easiest way is for her to start a conversation, flirt. First, she picks out a 'target.' She goes up to him, similes, maybe wets her lips, toys with her hair. You said she wore an unbuttoned shirt - she could play with the front, giving the guy a glimpse of boob, maybe even a nipple. And she can touch him on the arm or wherever she feels comfortable. At that point he'll probably touch her back, and the touches get more intimate until . . . If you and she wait to be approached, it could be a long night. Best of luck. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
seattlecple 34 Posted April 27, 2019 Q: How do I invite/let others know it's ok to talk/touch her (with her permission of course). The easiest way is for her to start a conversation, flirt. First, she picks out a 'target.' She goes up to him, similes, maybe wets her lips, toys with her hair. You said she wore an unbuttoned shirt - she could play with the front, giving the guy a glimpse of boob, maybe even a nipple. And she can touch him on the arm or wherever she feels comfortable. At that point he'll probably touch her back, and the touches get more intimate until . . . If you and she wait to be approached, it could be a long night. Best of luck. Very prescriptive, thanks! The challenge is, she is too shy to take the first step.. I get your point though! We'll be patient and let it play out. Hopefully there'll be slow but steady progress as we go on... But we are having fun as it is!!! Quote Share this post Link to post
Eddiem 139 Posted May 2, 2019 Really depends on the time and place. We found one of our first times was it just clicked like those old parties that you imagined could not be better and other times it does not. Often my wife is surrounded by a number of suitors, sometimes their lady leads, likely to please their husband. Some guys are porno-stache guys while others are well just nice. Really depends... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,461 Posted May 4, 2019 Seattle, in my experience, watch the shy ones! For awhile they hang back, but when they finally break through . . . Lots of fun! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
SexySixties 25 Posted May 5, 2019 You are on the way. At some point one of you is going to have an uncontrollable urge to have sex with someone you see. That will be a life changing event--all positive I think 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
