My husband gets really turned on by watching me getting groped by this lesbo neighbor

[Marla 1976 16]

I moved here with my family 4 months ago. I am married for 21 years and i have a 19 year old daughter. She is at out of state college. My husband works from home. I am 43 year old 5ft10 tall heterosexual curvy hourglass shaped attractive brunette. I have very large breasts and i do have a big butt. I don’t intend to dress in any particular ‘way’ for anyone. I just wear what I like. I don’t ‘ask’ for anything. I don’t ask to be groped. I wear clothes that fit me properly. Most of my outfit are satin pant and skirt suits satin coats and satin and silk blouses. I am always on high heels and full make up on. If you are curvy, tall and busty, many clothes tend to look sexier on you than on a thin person. So things that fit properly that are relatively conservative can be suddenly too revealing and sexy when you put it on. This happens to me a lot. I wear almost always my satin and silk blouses fully buttoned to the top combined with a satin skirt or satin pants. I don’t wear anything vulgar but because of my body type anything i wear looks tight on me. Being tall and curvy draws attention on its own. This can be both positive and negative. I tower over plenty of men and women. I was sexualised from a very early age, and shamed for the way my body looks – something I have no control over. I can’t help how wide my hips grow or how big my breasts get.

 

My mother used to shame me for the way my body looked. If I wanted to wear a skirt or dress, she always discouraged it, she always thought my skirt was ‘too short’ or ‘too tight’, or there was something wrong with my dress-sense. There’s always guys flirting or asking me for my number. When I go out in public guys start talking to me and subtly try to ask me out. I mention I have a husband but some of them wont go away. I have trouble being mean so i cant get them to leave me alone. I end up getting stressed by it. The irony is that all this time I’ve been afraid of men, perceiving any touch as a sexual advance that I should fear – when really, it was a short, skinny old women I should have feared.

 

Our next door neighbor is this 5ft3 tall 55year old skinny masculine creepy green eyes thin lips gray haired ugly wrinkled face lesbian. About two months ago i arrived home from work and my neighbor was there on the driveway. I got out of my car and this woman my touchy feely neighbor walked up to me, placed her both hands on my upper chest and started rubbing in circular motions and said “I love your blouse. It's just that i can’t resist touching and stroking satin fabric ” ( I was wearing a purple long sleeve satin blouse buttoned up to the top). "I'm sorry,"she said - "It's just that i can’t resist touching and stroking satin fabric. It is not sexual at all.It's just so soft and smooth, - do you mind if I feel it for just a moment more? ". I was shocked. As i was walking to my door she was walking behind me, rubbing my back with her both hands saying that she likes to stroke shiny satin fabric. It was creepy. .

 

Later that day i complained to my husband about the situation with our lesbian midget groper neigbor, but his reaction shocked me! He said that he is turned on by that and we had sex. He said it was one of the best orgasms he's had in awhile. I was shocked when my husband told me he had a fetish that he would like to see me getting groped by other women. Than he begged me to let this woman our neighbor touch me. He said that he would like to watch from behind the window. I was a bit confused at first but after a good long chat with him i agreed. I always knew he was interested in kinky stuff but this took me by surprise. I decided to try tolerating groping, rubbing, and hugging by this woman our neighbor. She gets away with groping me all the time, simply because i let her.

 

Since then every time i am coming home from work this lesbian creepy midget neighbor is approaching me and touching me while my husband watches from behind the window. Usually it happens on the driveway. This woman my neighbor waits for me to come home from work on every work day. Often she is rubbing my back and ass with her left hand and with her right hand rubbing my whole front side concentrating on my breasts saying that she just cant resist stroking silk or satin fabric, while i am standing stiff as a board not saying a word waiting for her to finish. She is always hugging me tight.Pressing her face on my breasts.She is a squeeze hugger that lasts too long in a vice grip.She is saying that she likes to stroke shiny satin fabric.She always links arms with me and walks leaning into me. Sometimes she is holding me from behind with her hands on my waist.She is extremely touchy. She always find a way to be near me like she standing in front of me my boobs touching her face.She touches and messes with my hair, holds my hand (interlocking fingers).This woman my neighbor makes a lot of comments about how tall,big and soft i am.It is weird and creepy.She is obsessed with my height.She often compliments me on my outfit commenting that i am extremely fashionable, elegant, glamorous, and classy and that she likes touching my clothes.She often hugs me from behind placing her hands on my breasts.Also she always hugs me in full frontal hug pressing her face on my breasts. She routinely slaps or rubs my butt. She loves to squeeze or jiggle my breasts and tell me how massive, soft and squishy they are. She often hugs me around my waist and then proceeds to hump me (From behind usually but sometimes from the front)in a joking playful way. She never touches me in front of my husband. I hate that i have grown accustomed to it. I am physically stronger than her i am 5ft10 tall well built well endowed and curvy.She is like 5ft3 tall skinny.I am always on high heels she is always in sneakers. Standing next to me she looks like a midget. She is masculine and creepy, but she is just a tiny, short,skinny 55 year old woman.

 

So I’m willing to stand out the awkward rubbing, groping and hugging and just think of something else while it’s happening because of my husband. This creepy groper neighbor says to me that because her face is at level with my breasts and I am rather large she finds touching, squeezing, rubbing, and patting them and resting her head on them comforting. She said that she finds great comfort doing this when she’s stressed. She thinks that my breasts are a readily-available source of comfort for her. She said that because i am much taller than her, the hugs make her feel very secure and cared for. This short skinny woman is always commenting that I am so tall, big and soft. She tells me often that she likes that I am always dressed up in satin and silk and that she likes touching my clothes.

 

This creepy short skinny woman my neighbor hasn’t pushed me into having sex so far. It’s just the obsessive groping me and touching me. I know other people my new neighbors probably laugh at me behind my back because of this situation with this woman groper neighbor. One woman said to me that I make stupid faces while this woman groper is groping me and rubbing me. She also said that it is bizarre that standing next to the groper I look like a giant and I let her get by with it. I just laughed and replied to this woman that we (me and my neighbor) just have a weird bond like that. Other people neighbors probably think that I am okay with it.

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Nine days ago on my way home from work i stopped at the supermarket. My neighbor was there with her friend(this short like 5 ft 2 skinny freckled face green eyes thin lips red haired masculine woman in her early 50s). They walked up to me and this ginger woman my landlord’s friend complimented my boobs. Then my landlord said to her friend “Touch her boobs if you want, she wont mind!” Then this short skinny ugly ginger woman reached with her both hands and gave my breasts what I can only describe as a jiggle-squish. She commented on how soft they feel. I was speechless. I was just standing stiff as a board for like 10 minutes saying no word while they both were squeezing and feeling up my breasts,rubbing my back,touching my hair and rubbing and grabbing my ass in the middle of the parking lot.They complimented my outfit and commented that silk and satin is so smooth to the touch when rubbing.I was towering over them.They commented that i am tall,big,soft and glamorous.

 

Can any other wives relate to my situation? What would you do? My husband gets really turned on by watching me getting groped by this creepy lesbian neighbor while he watches from behind the window and have se with me right afterwards. He says that seeing me getting groped makes him to want me in a really intense way. He gets rock hard erections. Is this normal?

[Fitlakecouple 451]

So, exactly why do you allow "creepy" people to touch you?

[Jane1902 476]

It seems this is your husband’s kink to watch and you allow it in order to please him. You don’t mention if you’ve told him you don’t enjoy this. As you are clearly not enjoying any of this it doesn’t really fall into swinging but a communication problem you have. Ever use the word No?

[Marla 1976 16]

It seems this is your husband’s kink to watch and you allow it in order to please him. You don’t mention if you’ve told him you don’t enjoy this. As you are clearly not enjoying any of this it doesn’t really fall into swinging but a communication problem you have. Ever use the word No?

 

I am not enjoying groping by this dyke neighbor, but i am enjoying sex with my husband. I feel nothing special while being rubbed and touched by this weird woman , it feels as mundane as a handshake during those times for me. This groper neighbor doesn't know that my husband watches from behind the window while she is rubbing me and groping me. I am a straight woman, I love men, simple! I am straight and I am completely 100 percent straight. I have never been attracted to a woman sexually. I am STRICTLY hetero. Even the thought of eating out a vagina makes me gag. I've never had any desire to do anything sexual with a female.

 

We(me and my husband) had an amazing sex life in the beginning of our marriage. But ten years in we hit a slump. Things that used to be great, no longer felt as good. Sex every day became sex once a month. Over the past ten years or so my husbands sex drive was super low. To the point where we had sex once every month unless I initiated it. We struggled. Our issue was never a lack of love. In every other way, we had a fantastic relationship. We just weren’t having much sex.Since this situation with this lesbo midget groper neighbor we have sex often. A couple times a day sometimes. The sex is incredible and my husband is able to make me orgasm several times in one session. It’s been two months since this started. Our sex life is better today than ever before. Our communication skills are better too. We are both very secure in our marriage. I am getting groped on my own driveway, on my own yard by this creepy repulsive neighbor while my husband watches from behind the window. And yes, I am uncomfortable, but it fuels my husband's arousal. Our sex life is great now.

 

I always laugh uncomfortably and try to be as dismissive of the situation as possible when this short skinny woman neighbor is groping me.I try to be polite and as unaggressive as possible. I laugh, to prove that i am easy going. It seems as though this "friendly" groper neighbor targeted me from the very beginning. I am physically stronger than her. Standing next to me she looks like a midget but she was not intimidated by me. Why? My husband says that she is harmless. I admit that it's downright humiliating. I kinda feel like a weirdo for letting this woman our neighbor to touch me and grope me. Something about her and her need to grope me makes me very uncomfortable. This woman my neighbor thinks she can just walk up and feel my boobs or grab my ass when ever she feels like it!! She feels entitled to touch, squeeze or jiggle my breasts and to rub and slap my ass. I sacrifice my dignity for our sex life.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

what does your husband think of this woman. if she was straight or bi would he want to have sex with her, being out in public with her?

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

How about saying 'touch me again and I'll have you arrested!'. Nobody should be touched by anyone they don't want touching them. Your husband may find it erotic, but he should be defending you instead of encouraging you to do something you don't enjoy and is damaging your reputation. End this NOW.

[Marla 1976 16]

what does your husband think of this woman. if she was straight or bi would he want to have sex with her, being out in public with her?

 

My husband finds this lesbian woman our neighbor ugly and repulsive. He says that she looks like a short skinny ugly effeminate man. But he says that it turns him on that this ugly short skinny woman who is basically everything i am not is groping me and rubbing me while i just stand there stiff as a board. He is always talking about it. But before this situation with this groper dyke neighbor he wouldn't come near me for almost a month. Now we have sex a couple times a day sometimes. He says that seeing me getting groped makes him to want me in a really intense way. He gets rock hard erections. Our sex life is better today than ever before. I don't know what to do. Is behaviour like this normal with many men?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . Is behaviour like this normal with many men?

Unhappily, yes, it is. You are allowed, however, to think of yourself and to think for yourself. Tell him.

[Jane1902 476]

I have never encountered such behavior in a man before so I don’t believe it is normal. What is not normal is you’re allowing this. You two cannot have really great sex without you being degraded? That is another kink altogether.

[Marla 1976 16]

I have never encountered such behavior in a man before so I don’t believe it is normal. What is not normal is you’re allowing this. You two cannot have really great sex without you being degraded? That is another kink altogether.

 

My husband says that this lesbo groper neighbor is just showing appreciation for my curves, height and clothes. He says that she admires me and as long as she is not really harming me in any way i should let her to touch me and grope me for his pleasure. Also he says that she is physically completely harmless. I guess he is right. This lesbo groper neighbor is creepy,repulsive and masculine, but she is just a tiny short skinny 55year old woman. She is not tough and strong. She is not intimidating. I just don’t know what to do?

 

This has been going on for over two months now. I guess the point of writing this is to see if anyone can relate and set me at ease -- even for a little while! I feel so dirty. Is my husband manipulative and selfish person? Either i take it the way it is, or i just tell my lesbo neighbor groper to stop, which of course involves the risk that it ruins my sex life with my husband. I know it's really weird and probably sounds ridiculous. This creepy short skinny woman my neighbor hasn't pushed me into having sex so far. It's just the obsessive touching me and groping me. Like she can't keep away from me. But i am aware that she is taking advantage of me, and i am afraid that she will just go even further. She frequently invites me over. Also she texts me at random times. Also she is always asking my husband for help. She keeps popping round to borrow a tool and then coming back a little while later to say she needs help because it's too heavy or it's too hard. But she doesn't know that my husband watches from behind the window while she is rubbing me and groping me. I feel very creeped out and fearful that something strange will happen.

[Out-N-About 52]

If you are allowing it to happen, then she thinks you enjoy it on some level and that it might go even further at some point. If you really don't like it, put an end to it. Period.

[Marla 1976 16]

If you are allowing it to happen, then she thinks you enjoy it on some level and that it might go even further at some point. If you really don't like it, put an end to it. Period.

 

You are right. This lesbo midget groper neighbor at this point believes anything is acceptable to me. I am being treated as a sex object by this creepy ugly woman neighbor. She even invited her friend to do the same. And yet somehow i am transfixed and i don't repel it. What is wrong with me and what is wrong with my husband? My husband says that this lesbo groper neighbor is is just showing appreciation for my curves, height and clothes. He says that she admires me and as long as she is not really harming me in any way i should let her to touch me and grope me for his pleasure. Also he says that she is physically completely harmless.

[Marla 1976 16]

I have never encountered such behavior in a man before so I don’t believe it is normal. What is not normal is you’re allowing this. You two cannot have really great sex without you being degraded? That is another kink altogether.

 

Yesterday i had a long conversation with my husband about this. He explained to me that he finds it highly erotic that this ugly short skinny woman who is basically everything i am not is groping me and rubbing me while i just stand there ,passive and cringing stiff as a board. He said that he is turned on by my cringing reaction. He said that this lesbo groper neighbor is physically completely harmless.

[padoc 1,703]

In a nutshell time: If this story is true and you're uncomfortable, uneasy, and weirded out by this contact, your husband should be protecting you rather than standing there spanking his johnson while you're being groped. They're BOTH abusing you, her for the unwanted contact and him for enjoying it and allowing it to continue. On a side note, what she's doing is actually a criminal offense in most states. Its called Indecent Assault and in some states it's a felony.

[Fitlakecouple 451]

Frankly, it has sounded like pure BS from the start...

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

I think so too.

[padoc 1,703]

Funny to note that when someone calls "troll", the troll disappears.

[Marla 1976 16]

Funny to note that when someone calls "troll", the troll disappears.

 

I just want to discuss about my situation. What is wrong with that? Don't assume i am a troll. Why don't you just ignore my thread on this forum. i mean everyone is just shitting on me on this forum. I love my husband.I try my hardest.I am so lonely having no one to talk to about this situation with this lesbo groper neighbor. Coming on here was a first huge step. I barely have any friends. I just want someone to understand, hear me. I don't know where I'm going to find that. I don't know what to do my life is completely messed up.

[padoc 1,703]

If this story is true then you've received ample advice. Act on it and quit whining about it. If you are a troll, quit wasting our time.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

So, what have you done to stop this? Just say no!

[Jane1902 476]

I find the repeated description of this woman offensive. Such language may impede your ability to build friendships with people just meeting you. Try lesbian or gay instead of “lesbo”, and say she is your physical opposite and you are not attracted to her instead of “ugly, short, skinny.” It’s hard to be sympathetic, and thus far your choice has been to keep allowing it because you say your sex life is better. Your husband comes across as rather creepy.

[EastInWest 1,524]

I find the repeated description of this woman offensive. Such language may impede your ability to build friendships with people just meeting you. Try lesbian or gay instead of “lesbo”, and say she is your physical opposite and you are not attracted to her instead of “ugly, short, skinny.” It’s hard to be sympathetic, and thus far your choice has been to keep allowing it because you say your sex life is better. Your husband comes across as rather creepy.

 

It seems like it's very important to the OP to tell us how much she hates this woman and finds her unattractive, rather than just telling her husband she's not into it and is stopping it.

[Marla 1976 16]

I find the repeated description of this woman offensive. Such language may impede your ability to build friendships with people just meeting you. Try lesbian or gay instead of “lesbo”, and say she is your physical opposite and you are not attracted to her instead of “ugly, short, skinny.” It’s hard to be sympathetic, and thus far your choice has been to keep allowing it because you say your sex life is better. Your husband comes across as rather creepy.

 

Why do you think that my husband is creepy? Please explain that to me. Please be brutally honest. I need your opinion.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Why do you think that my husband is creepy? Please explain that to me. Please be brutally honest. I need your opinion.

 

What comes across as creepy is that he enjoys that you don't like it.

[Marla 1976 16]

So, what have you done to stop this? Just say no!

 

My husband's response and the resulting good sex are the direct reason's why i let it go on. My husband is enjoying this. Is this cuckolding?

[Marla 1976 16]

What comes across as creepy is that he enjoys that you don't like it.

 

My husband is enjoying this. He says that i should now embrace the situation. He says that i should enjoy the attention and keep letting this woman our neighbor to grope me. He says that It is a safe unique sex experience.

[padoc 1,703]

The term "lesbo" is one of the red flags that leads me to believe that this may be a troll, some creep wishing something like this happened to his wife or a teenage in mom's basement typing with one hand and jerking off with the other. I have NEVER heard a woman refer to another woman as a lesbo. That kind of comment generally comes from an uneducated and no class male. The words short skinny creepy old woman as descriptors also rings of maleness.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

My husband is enjoying this. He says that i should now embrace the situation. He says that i should enjoy the attention and keep letting this woman our neighbor to grope me. He says that It is a safe unique sex experience.

 

I would NEVER NEVER NEVER make Ms Gold do anything I thought she even remotely didn't like. That he is enjoying your HUMILIATION (which is exactly what it is) and knows it is damaging your reputation and standing in the community just says he doesn't respect or loves you. This is nothing more than a cheap thrill for him but he thinks it is more important than your feelings. THAT is what makes him a creep.

 

STOP THIS NOW and start working on fixing your relationship. If he thinks this little of you, then the relationship is in dire straights.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Also, keep in mind that the things you are being told are being told by people who don't have a problem with their spouses having sex with others, yet we still think what he is FORCING you to do is creepy and wrong. We should be the MOST ACCEPTING group of people to allowing a wife to be touched by people other than her husband, yet we seem to think what he is doing is still inappropriate and disrespectful. Think about that for a minute...

[Marla 1976 16]

Also, keep in mind that the things you are being told are being told by people who don't have a problem with their spouses having sex with others, yet we still think what he is FORCING you to do is creepy and wrong. We should be the MOST ACCEPTING group of people to allowing a wife to be touched by people other than her husband, yet we seem to think what he is doing is still inappropriate and disrespectful. Think about that for a minute...

 

Thanks for your reply. My husband enjoys the thrill of dominance over me which this woman groper neighbor gives him. He says that his reaction is easy to understand. He says that cuckolds have the same lust, to see their wives fucked hard by another man. Is this normal? What is wrong with my husband? I don't know what he is. I really hold little hope there is anyone here in a similar situation. Just needing some advice here guys. Not sure how to bring this up with anyone.

[luv2was 117]

.... Is this normal?

I am going to go with "No".

(Yeah, there are a lot of "perverted" people out there, which can be harmless to each other, but the situation unraveling here seems totally "over the top".)

Normal people do not shame, humiliate, and disrespect others for their own pleasure. Even in a D/s (Dom/sub) relationship there are rules, and some kind of mutual exchange. Maybe you do qualify here, but unless this is all part of the act, your repeated expression of discomfort with the situation makes me think not.

 

.... Just needing some advice here guys. Not sure how to bring this up with anyone.

Get a therapist first, then possibly a lawyer. Both should probably have in-depth experience with sexual battery / assault.

 

If that sounds like too big a leap, then at least try the:

National Sexual Assault Hotline

... confidential help is available online, and via telephone. If you want to remain anonymous for now, this may be your best start. If nothing else, they have trained personnel who will help you sort your situation out, so you can make a healthy and informed "next step".

 

To put it briefly, and very simply (and laws can vary between states)...

 

Battery = Touching someone without their consent.

 

Sexual Assault = Fondling, kissing, or making unwanted bodily contact (among other things).

 

As mentioned earlier, in some states Sexual Assault is a Felony. If you are not sure what that entails, with a conviction it effectively means that you are stripped of many of your basic citizenship rights (including "freedom to vote")... for life... so nothing to trifle with.

 

:-|

 

Nobody should have to live a life of continual shame and disrespect, and my feeling / opinion is (based on all your posts being truthful) that you have lived this way for so long you have become at least partially detached from reality.

 

There has been a lot of good advice and observations made in this thread so far. Please pay attention to it.

 

I sincerely hope that you can get some effective help with this soon.