Pub/Club game

[Langtowncup 18]

Sometimes when we go out to a pub or dance club, we like to go in at separately and pretend we don't know each other. We make sure we can always see each other and watch each others interactions with people. We find it a big turn on to see each other get hit on and and tease each other. Do any other couples like this kind of play? Is there an actual name for this game?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Oh, my wife has done it while I hung around and watched. She's been semi-successful with attracting guys and getting invited to their place or a hotel. She then told them I was in the audience (she wouldn't point me out,) and that if the guy wanted to take her home, I was invited just to watch. The guy was only willing once, as I remember he was a bit of a dud.

 

On the other hand a few times she went out without me (of course I knew about it and was fine with it; I usually had other non-LS plans,) and she was successful. She'd text me when they were leaving the bar, a picture of him and his address. Then she'd text me again when they were done.

 

Lots of fun, don't know if there's a particular name for it. We called it 'going to the bar to get picked up.)

[Langtowncup 18]

Awesome! Thanks for replying. We just find it really hot. The whole social aspect of it.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Sure. We've been doing this for a while and been open to turning it into play for about a year or so, as Mrs. E started "getting" why I like her to dress sexy when we go out.

 

Finding someone who will turning it into a session is a pain in the ass, but it's happened a few times. It's a lot easier to just strike up a flirty conversation solo and felt up/make out at the end of the bar then it is to say "here's my spouse, let's go somewhere and they're going to watch".

 

This is a pretty common form of play even with vanilla couples.

[kittyswinger 260]

I certainly would like to try this "game" alone or with my partner. For the alone part, Im excited with the idea but scared to try it with a very random stranger for safety reasons. Ive been into ONS but usually with a person that I have some prior knowlege beforehand. I suggested it to my partner that we do it together but we thought the challenge will be how to convince a guy to invite him too to watch us when we get into the room, whether his or ours. Any suggestions or tips on how to go about this (alone or together)?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Kitty, I think you're right about feeling concerned for your safety about doing it alone. Until we were *very* active in the Lifestyle, my wife wouldn't even think about trying that.

 

How do you do it with your husband? First, dress to the nines. Have everything perfect. Mary used to spend at least an hour and a half getting ready for this game. You need to wear a dress or blouse & skirt that’s nice, but has some sexiness about it. Mary used to wear a button down blouse, at the start she'd have only her collar showing, if she caught a prospect she might casually unbutton the top button, and another . . .

 

We had our best luck either at airport hotels during the week, or hotels around the convention center when a show was in town. Later, say 10:00 at the earliest, is better.

 

I usually went in first, found a seat where I could watch the bar. She'd come in five minutes later, never even look at me, sit at the bar. She'd start flirting - she was good at that, that's how she picked me up the first time. Guys would flirt back, she'd strike up a conversation. If she was interested and they’d gone through the first few maneuvers, she’d put her hand on their knee. That seems to be a universal sign that she’s ready. The few times she was successful, she’d say, “I’d love to go up to your room with you. You know I’m married, right?” She was wearing her ring, of course they knew. Then she’d reveal, “And my husband has a kink. He likes me to screw around.” If the guy was still in it at that point, she’d then say, “In fact, he’s sitting in this bar right now, watching us.” Again, wait a little bit, gauge the prospects continued interest and lack of it. Then she’d lean in a whisper, “If you want to take me up and fuck me, I’m yours. But my husband comes with us, and he gets to watch.”

 

Like I said, if we played that game twenty times, eight of them wound up without her finding anybody she wanted to play with, in ten of them the guy wouldn’t go for it, but the other two . . .

 

But the neat thing was, even for the times we didn't find anybody, it got us both so hot that we couldn't wait to get at each other.

[kittyswinger 260]

Thanks. @adamgunn that sounds like fun! ? why is it most single guys wouldnt go for a married woman but is more inclined for women who is married but cheating? Are they intimidated that the hubby knows abt it? Or they have that false assumption that the hubby who shares their wife is bi or gay and may be interested in them?

[adamgunn 1,460]

I think it's because it's 'out of the ordinary.' The majority of people, both male and female, have had their ideas about sexuality shaped as children and teenagers by their parents, their peers, their church, television, etc. That's what's 'right' to them. So wives, if they're not going to be pure and monogamous, must be cheaters. There's simply no room for open marriages and hotwifing in their limited world view.

 

By the same token in that world view any man who's wife cheats on him is a cuckold and less of a real man - because if he was a real man she'd be satisfied and wouldn't want to have sex with anyone else.

 

In many men's views, if a married woman comes on to him a bar, he knows she needs sex because her husband isn't providing it. And then when she says, 'Oh, he's fine with me doing this, in fact he wants to be right there," it throws their world view and they don't know what to do. So they decline.

 

Free Love!

[padoc 1,703]

Adam, that was a VERY astute answer and right on the money!

[kittyswinger 260]

That must be true. Hooking up with a "cheater" is more acceptable to their world view.

[kittyswinger 260]

Will using technology ok in this club/pub game for safety? (Hidden micro cams in the room if one's partner cant watch personally)

[adamgunn 1,460]

Kitty, with the suggestion of hidden cameras, you're bringing up ethical issues. Is it right for a person to be filmed without their knowledge? There are laws about this, they differ from state to state. Would you want a person filming you doing the deed if you didn't consent to it? Why should a man feel differently? Of course if you tell the other person they're being watched and they agree, the ethical considerations cease.

 

Having said that, there are new technologies that can help. I have tracked my wife's phone, with her knowledge and permission, as she's out. Let's suppose she meets a guy and he invites her home. Before she gets in his car she first texts me a picture of his license plate and the address he says they're going to. If the place where her phone stops isn't the place he said it was, I'm going to get a little worried. (BTW, it's never happened.)

 

I'm sure there are other uses for develping technologies. How cool would it be to listen to your spouse through a smart speaker?

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We've done this also in bars.

[Erik13 157]

We haven't gone as far as picking up strangers, but my wife will meet guys from SLS alone.She gives me name, number and address. Then will text me pics of the action as the night goes on. It's such a turn on.

[kittyswinger 260]

@adamgunn of course I won't! but can I bring a gun instead? Just kidding! Perhaps, the pub/club scene game is not for me I will stick to persons I know or have interacted with for some time