First time, great time.

[Blissfulx2 23]

I first brought up the subject of gong to a club about 3 weeks ago. I never thought about it at all until a guy that works at the local club kept calling a local radio station offering he the DJs free admission.

So one night on a regular date night after a few glasses of whisky I asked the wife, who is an avid reader of romantic fiction, “what is the hottest thing you’re read in your books?” She proceeded to tell me about all the MFM and swapping she’s read, and that it turned her on. There was my opening.

I told her about the calls to the station and said it might be fun to go check out. She was all in. Fast forward to last Friday. We were offered an unexpected babysitter for Saturday night and we accepted. When we woke up Saturday morning we had the same conversation we usually do on a date day.

What do you want to do?

What do you want to eat?

Where do you want to go?

After doing normal everyday chores, I finally said “let’s go check out that club” She said “Thank God. I wanted to say it but didn’t know how you would react”. The plan was set in motion.

I found a restaurant within a couple miles of the club and made reservations. Once at the restaurant, we had a long talk about what we thought we’d expect. What the rules of engagement were going to be and what the limits were. All said and done we agreed that we would go have a few drinks and watch. We love to people watch in everyday life anyway.

Finally 9 o’clock comes and we enter the club. It was nice. Bar area was dimly light and quiet enough for conversation. Since we arrived at opening time and because it was our first time we were given a pretty extensive tour by the hostess, deliver our drinks of choice to the bar and had a seat.

At first we kept to ourselves as I’m sure most do in this situation. After about 45 minutes we were approached by a couple a bit older then us (wife is 40 I’m 47) who had obviously had too much to drink. The female kept asking my wife to dance and she finally agreed. The husband started talking to me about his work and asked what I did. We had a little more small talk and the women came back. We made our exit as we weren’t really interested in talking with a drunk couple all night.

We sat in the upstairs public area and watched as other couples started to file into the semi private areas. Some pulled the blackout curtains closed. Most only the sheer but a couple left the curtains open. This was our very first exposure to the lifestyle. People having sex, great sex, without worry of shame or embarrassment. We were hooked. It wasn’t long before we decided to five it a run.

At first we were nervous. What would people say when they saw us? I’m a big guy (6’4 255lbs with a few extra pounds) my wife is a beautiful 5’9 185 and we both have a bit of body shame. We climbed in the bed pulled the sheer curtains and undressed. We were both super excited. This is crazy we said, but fuck it. Let’s do it. It wasn’t long before we didn’t even realize that people were there. And in a matter of minutes we opened the curtains all the way. Was this what we have been missing out on all our lives ( we’ve been married 18 years and together 22)? It was amazing. We finished got dressed and left the room.

We made our way to the theater and found a seat near the open beds. We poured another drink and struck up a conversation with another couple. They were very friendly and sober. Our conversation was pleasant and soon turned to if we had been to the club or any club before. Both answers were “no” then we were asked if we had been approached by anyone yet. We said not really and told them of the previous couple. They then said that they were going to the couches in the theater area and that there was plenty of room.

We were a bit apprehensive but said what’s the hell. We’re here, let’s see what happens. We followed to the theater where they took a couch and us the couch behind. There was open playing on the TVs and we watched as the other couple started. We still couldn’t believe what was happening and after about 15 minutes in the theater they announced they were going to a room. My wife asked if we could watch and they agreed.

Then all the planning, thinking, worrying and anxiety went right out the window. As luck would have it the bed next to them was open. My wife and I climbed in and undressed. We opened the curtain between our beds and watched as the other couple engaged in oral and moved on from there. We couldn’t help it. My wife started giving me a blowjob to end all blowjobs. There we were. In a room with another couple having sex. Within what seemed like seconds the other wife asked if she could touch my wife. We agreed. My wife asked me if she could suck the husband and everyone agreed. Then the other wife said if my a wife got to blow her husband it was only fair that she sucked me.

WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED? 2 hours earlier we were just going to watch. Now here we are in a soft swap with total strangers. It was beyond a doubt the most exciting thing we have ever done as a couple. It was so mind blowing for us that you couldn’t have knocked the smoke off our faces with a 2x4 yesterday.

It seems odd to say but the experience has brought us closer together as a couple. There was no jealousy which was my wife’s biggest concern. There was freedom and love between us unlike any we have had before.

We don’t know if we were just lucky this first time out or if it’s normal but we can’t wait to find out. There is much more to the story but I’ve droned on long enough. Sorry for the length of the post but I had to tell someone and this isn’t something you can share with your coworkers.

[lcmim 1,086]

Now here we are in a soft swap with total strangers. It was beyond a doubt the most exciting thing we have ever done as a couple. It was so mind blowing for us that you couldn’t have knocked the smoke off our faces with a 2x4 yesterday.

It seems odd to say but the experience has brought us closer together as a couple. There was no jealousy which was my wife’s biggest concern. There was freedom and love between us unlike any we have had before.

We don’t know if we were just lucky this first time out or if it’s normal but we can’t wait to find out.

 

Our first time circumstances were different except the fact that we also found the right couple.

 

The day after was very much the same as yours.

 

The only time we have looked back is a planned break one year in to reevaluate and take an inventory of our relationship.

That little exercise affirmed our journey in the LS.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Shhh, don't tell anyone else or everyone is going to want to do it!

 

Congrats! Sounds like you were ready and went in with the right attitude. When it's good, it's great!

[Blissfulx2 23]

Guess we weren’t too bad. We have another date set with the couple we met. Looks like more playtime.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

It seems odd to say but the experience has brought us closer together as a couple.

 

It's not at all odd. Most first time swingers reported a similar feeling. It's definitely true for my wife and I. It seems counter intuitive to feel that way, but really when you think about it, it isn't. You've shared an AMAZING experience...together. Ok, you playing with other people, but you were doing it together. You've done something taboo...together. You've done something few couples get to do...together.

 

 

...but I had to tell someone and this isn’t something you can share with your coworkers.

 

Aww come on, why not? I mean, nobody would believe you

[EastInWest 1,524]

It seems odd to say but the experience has brought us closer together as a couple. There was no jealousy which was my wife’s biggest concern. There was freedom and love between us unlike any we have had before.

 

It isn't odd at all. Sexual openness is hugely stimulating in relationships and something so many people don't have. (I don't just mean swinging, but even being able to talk honestly about sex.)

 

Swinging does take it to another level. I've learned that every time we play with others, no matter the arrangement, I need to prepare for a sore cock for a few days, because we're going to be on top of each other like we just met. It's good stuff. Glad you have such a hot and pleasing experience.