Well, that happened!

[SurprisedWife 21]

Hey, all. My husband and I just had our first swinging experience, and it's kind of blowing my mind. It wasn't planned, though we had talked about the idea of bringing another man into the bedroom. My husband is bi, and to be frank, I love dicks, so this is a topic that had come up a lot for us. We've been together for a very long time and our sex life is better than it's ever been, so I think that factored in to things going the way they did this weekend. Now I'm trying to make sense of it all!

 

As we often do when we have a chance to get away, we went to Atlantic City for a couple of nights. We love having great restaurants and entertainment right there and walking the boardwalk, as grungy as it can be. There's something about AC that's just pure indulgence. On our second day, we hit the pool and had a great afternoon fuck and went for an early dinner. Dinner was wonderful and done early enough to hit the tables for a few hours. I like to play blackjack. My husband plays poker. Anyway, I sat down at a table that seemed to have a good vibe and got chatty, like I always do.

 

There were guys sitting on each side of me, which is par for the course when you're gambling. Guy on my right was a douchebag. Guy on my left was charming and equally unimpressed with guy on my right. Time went by and I got on a good run. Most of the table was winning. Douchebag guy eventually bottomed out and left (yay!) and I got to know the other guy better. We had a lot in common, especially 100% sarcastic attitudes. We started playing each other's hands when one of us went to the bathroom, and before I knew it, it's 1am and my husband comes back from poker.

 

I ask Blackjack Guy if he'd like to go grab some food because I'm fucking starving (this always happens at the tables) and we end up stuffing our faces with pizza slices. Now, hubs and I had talked about the idea of inviting a guy to our room, so I discreetly asked hubs if he was into it and he said YES. I felt like I was having an out of body experience, but I made myself just do it and asked Blackjack Guy if he'd like to have fun with us. Turned out he wasn't bi, but he was into the idea of sharing me with my husband. Seriously, I thought I would faint.

 

We grabbed some mixers and protection and headed back to our room. They undressed me together, which was fucking amazing. A few minutes later we were all in bed and getting acquainted and shockingly, it felt so normal and natural. Blackjack Guy turned out to be really kind and thoughtful, and wasn't in any kind of rush, so we really enjoyed the hell out of each other. By the time we were done, the sun was coming up and I needed a shower, LOL.

 

While I know it's probably not much of a feat to find a guy who wants to have sex, it really felt like we hit the jackpot with Blackjack Guy and now I'm wondering how we ever get to that place again. Honestly, the idea of soliciting people online or in apps freaks me out. I don't want strangers to use me. I want to have fun with people who give a shit about the people they're with...so I guess I'm wondering what we do now. We told Blackjack Guy he was our first, and he was surprised. He thought we'd done it before, but we were just winging it. I'm nervous about winging it again, but I'd love to find a bi guy for my husband.

 

Would love insights from others who've ended up in similar position (pun intended).

 

[padoc 1,704]

Most people end up kissing a lot of frogs before finding a prince. You drew an ace and a 10 on your first hand. Good for you! If you continue to explore you'll find, like blackjack, that the cards don't always fall your way. Keep playing, you have a reasonable chance of 2 10's or a 10 and a 9.

[SurprisedWife 21]

Points for the cards metaphors

[cplnuswing 4,713]

First off, sounds like a great night, congrats on getting of to such an excellent start!

 

Totally understand your concerns about finding people, getting used, etc. Same here. But, funny thing is, having gone the other route with finding people online and at swingers clubs, that sort of picking someone up in a vanilla setting gives us the willies a bit just like the other does you.

 

I think maybe the moral of the story there for everyone is take success when and where you can find it! Won't lie, like Padoc said, sure to be some frogs in your future but those you just kind of learn from or shrug off and move on. Having started so good, yeah, there may be some let down next time or the time after that and so on. But, looking on the bright side, you swinging reservoir is full up of good juju right now that will carry you through some experiences that don't completely live up to that first one. I think that makes it easier than the opposite, and that's starting off with some not so great experiences, which I think is what happened to most of us. A couple of those is enough to make you want to give up the whole thing. But, like you found out, when either sooner or later it all comes together, it's pretty freaking awesome

[padoc 1,704]

You had points right off the bat cause what eastern Pa guy doesn't have a Jersey Girl memory or two from summer evenings "down the shore"!

[SurprisedWife 21]

LOL padoc!

[SurprisedWife 21]

First off, sounds like a great night, congrats on getting of to such an excellent start!

 

Totally understand your concerns about finding people, getting used, etc. Same here. But, funny thing is, having gone the other route with finding people online and at swingers clubs, that sort of picking someone up in a vanilla setting gives us the willies a bit just like the other does you.

 

I think maybe the moral of the story there for everyone is take success when and where you can find it! Won't lie, like Padoc said, sure to be some frogs in your future but those you just kind of learn from or shrug off and move on. Having started so good, yeah, there may be some let down next time or the time after that and so on. But, looking on the bright side, you swinging reservoir is full up of good juju right now that will carry you through some experiences that don't completely live up to that first one. I think that makes it easier than the opposite, and that's starting off with some not so great experiences, which I think is what happened to most of us. A couple of those is enough to make you want to give up the whole thing. But, like you found out, when either sooner or later it all comes together, it's pretty freaking awesome

 

I totally see what you're saying. Thank you for framing it that way.