benvaz43 15 Posted July 12, 2019 The following is 100% true story I get the feeling that most stories on here are either very exaggerated or not true at all but mine's is. Me and my wife will celebrate 34 years of marriage later this year and at the time that this story took place we had been married 28 years and up to that point I was your typical jealous husband who could not stand the thought of my wife being with another man. One secret to a long marriage is that we love to party we love going out and drinking and we love partaking in let's just say recreational activities that get you high. During the time that the story took place we used too often go out with the person that used to sell us the product that made us High he like us and we liked him and even more importantly he was very generous when he was out drinking and having a good time with us. On this particular night Not only was I very very high but I was very very drunk so drunk that I sat at the table most of the night while my wife and our friend danced The Night Away. As I think back on that night obviously some heavy flirting was going on in the dance floor and I was ignorant to it all if I got shit-faced. Late in the night my wife said she wanted to go outside and get some air and my friend said he would join her as he wanted to smoke a cigarette again I was so messed up that I just stayed at the table. It took a while but even in my state I eventually realized that they were taking a very very long time to come back so even though the last thing I wanted to do was get up off that chair I force myself to go outside and see if anything was wrong. They were not standing in the spot they should have been with all the other smokers in fact as I look around this small parking lot I could not see them at all but I saw our two cars parked on the opposite end of the parking lot sitting alone no other cars around them. I figured they must have gone to either my car or his car where he was probably hooking my wife up with a little more you know what so I stumbled across the parking lot and look into my car first which was empty. I then looked into his car and at first I don't think my brain was able to register what I was seeing it didn't make sense but the more I looked the more I realized that my friend was fucking my wife doggy style. This should have sent me into a jealous rage but it had the exact opposite effect on me I immediately got turned on so turned on I was literally not able to control my actions I fumbled at my zipper pulled out my cock and jerked off right then and there coming almost immediately as I watched him ramming my wife from behind. As I clumsily tried to clean myself I realized that he was flipping my wife over and now fucking her missionary I was looking in at an angle and if they turn their heads they would have seen me but they were so into each other that they didn't and they never noticed me there. I can't tell you how long he fucked her for I can only tell you that I jerked off twice more as I watch them I stumbled back to the bar and sat down and maybe 20 minutes later it's hard to tell cuz time was very fuzzy for me that night they finally came back. My wife was disheveled and acting funny and he was acting very happy I never let on what I saw that night not to him and not to my wife although I have jerked off many many times at that memory all these years later I want nothing more than to watch my wife get fucked again by another man but I don't even know how to broach the subject. I have tried to start conversations as we fuck and lead her towards confessing if she had ever fucked another man but she will never bite no matter how much I beg. I am a frustrated cuck that does not know what to do. Obviously when we got home later that night all I wanted to do was fuck her as I thought about what happened in that parking lot and although I don't know for sure about where he finally came I can tell you that she absolutely would not have sex with me until after she had brushed her teeth and gargled with mouthwash which leads me to believe strongly that he came in her mouth and although at first I was worried I would not be able to perform as I had already come three times that night not only did I not have a problem performing but I didn't have any trouble at all coming really really hard. Quote Share this post Link to post
Manitobacpl 81 Posted July 12, 2019 For my two cents worth . We wouldn’t consider this swinging .. just our take on it but we believe swinging should be open and honest ? Or am I looking at this wrong ? 6 Quote Share this post Link to post
JandKinBoise 859 Posted July 13, 2019 You probably just have to keep an eye on her movements. Fucking a guy in the parking lot with hubby inside isn't something most people that have never cheated would do. Catch her, tell her you don't mind her fucking around but want to watch or hear about it. Quote Share this post Link to post
lcmim 1,086 Posted July 13, 2019 Manitobacpl. I agree. Regardless of his reaction. She went behind his back. That is not swinging. The only exception I can see is if they had a prior agreement that allows unilateral escapades on her part. It does not sound like that is the case. Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,459 Posted July 13, 2019 .., tell her you don't mind her fucking around but want to watch or hear about it. That would be the best possible arrangement. Quote Share this post Link to post
padoc 1,704 Posted July 13, 2019 You can call it whatever you want but the reality is that your drug dealer got you stoned on your ass and then fucked your wife in a car. Lessons to be learned from this are: 1. Your drug dealer isn't your friend. 2. Drug dealers are not to be trusted. 3. Your wife fucked your drug dealer. She cheated on you, she was NOT swinging. 4. Protecting your wife should ALWAYS be your first priority. 5. You failed to behave like a man and stay sober enough to protect your wife. 6. If your still doing business with that guy, he's probably still doing business with your wife. This may have been the first time she cheated but I seriously doubt it and I seriously doubt it will be the last time. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,652 Posted July 13, 2019 I strongly agree with others here. In no sense was this swinging. You might have gotten a seriously erotic high off of it, as many men in swinging seriously enjoy watching their wives have sex with other men. But, it's not swinging. Cheating and swinging are 180 degrees polar opposites of each other. You get a far, far, far greater erotic high off of it when you're both on the same page, both open and honest with each other, and both supporting each other having sex with others. Cheating is destructive, dishonest, and destroys relationships. I for one could never, ever accept my wife cheating on me. Trust and loyalty are incredibly important to me. Ironically, that's a big part of the reason why being a swinger makes me closer to my wife than ever before; being so trusting of each other to enable her to have sex with other men. This isn't at all what happened here, and I would never in a million years tolerate my wife doing this. I agree with padoc that this drug dealer is not your friend. He's an utter asshole. If he's still in your life, these many years on, get him permanently out of your life. I agree with others that it's not likely this is the first time or last time your wife cheated on you. It might not be with this guy, but there's a fair chance it's still happening to this day. Your wife showed absolute disrespect for you, and to this day likely has no respect for you at all. Swinging is about being 100% honest, having 100% trust, and engaging 100% in communication. You have none of that with your wife. You're a million miles away from being a swinger with her. Her having sex with other men while you watch should NOT happen in the current state of your relationship. You have a very long road in front of you to rebuild trust just to get to the point of having a healthy relationship, much less ever consider swinging. Some men like being true cuckolds; their wives having sex with whomever they want without their husbands consent but with his knowledge. This is 100% repugnant to me and I would never in a million years allow myself to be in such a situation. It most emphatically isn't swinging. If you like this, that's your business, but I couldn't look myself in the mirror. Such a relationship is utterly destructive of anything that a good relationship is based upon. All of this isn't to say you aren't welcome here. We're a helpful bunch here, and if you have questions I'm sure we'll answer. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,068 Posted July 15, 2019 I actually believe most of the other stories that people are kind enough to post. This one...not so much. Cheating will never be swinging. Swinging is something that a couple does together (or at least with both having complete knowledge about what is going on). Cheating is done without the knowledge of their partner and usually with no consideration as to their partners feelings. Then again, cuckolding usually has more than a bit of male humiliation involved, but usually both parties have agreed to what happens in advance. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post