Thinking about MFM with single males

[njbm 2,901]

We have always played with couples, but we find it difficult to find matches. We were thinking of playing with a single male. I (the husband) want to be involved in the play, also. Is that typical?

[BlueStagg 57]

We have always played with couples, but we find it difficult to find matches. We were thinking of playing with a single male. I (the husband) want to be involved in the play, also. Is that typical?

 

That's what I do.. it's great

[Bluespruce1 707]

We love single males. Lately we have picked them up at the beach or at the pool at the resort. After some small talk and flirting, I'll ask them to apply suntan lotion to my tits. It's a fun way to break the ice. This weekend the guy was incredibly sexy - he knelt in front of me and as he rubbed my tits his cock got hard. He was in the perfect position that the tip gently touched my opening. We immediately went to our cabin and he and my husband spot roasted me for over an hour. We love MMF.

[Guest]

Yes, you are that 2nd MFM or even the first, in MFM. Our first MFM was our first swing experience, it was with a guy we had met before, just kind of happened. After that, I came to realize that when a guy sits down next to us in a bar, or across from us or whatever and starts to chat, with a little flirt and seduction I can turn it into an exiting evening and yes, my husband is always actively involved. I bring him into and out of the chat as it progresses but he is always an actively player, even leader when we get to the bedroom.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

Yeah, that's most of our MFM experience too. Our standard was usually find a guy, she flirts, he is encouraged to touch, eventually he takes one side of her (often her lower half) and I take the other... swap sides as desired. It's fun.

[JandKinBoise 859]

It's a good idea, especially if you are getting frustrated with the work that goes into couple swapping. Just be aware that it's the exact opposite of looking for a couple. Advertise for a single guy and you will be flooded quickly. The tough part is weeding out the fakes and flakes and finding the gem in the pile.

[adamgunn 1,461]

We do MFMs, it's very pleasant for my wife to be pleasured by two men at the same time. The first episode or two may be a little odd, but pretty soon you'll find your rhythm.

[Numex 2,459]

.., eventually he takes one side of her (often her lower half) and I take the other... swap sides as desired. It's fun.

Interesting, when we're in an MFM situation with one of our other play couples, we usually split the woman along the two other axes. We guys each take a hole, but one is not her mouth. Instead we DP her, one in her pussy one in her ass. Also each guy takes one breast for himself. We're all right handed, so the guy in front plays with her left tit and the guy behind her right.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

Interesting, when we're in an MFM situation with one of our other play couples, we usually split the woman along the two other axes. We guys each take a hole, but one is not her mouth. Instead we DP her, one in her pussy one in her ass. Also each guy takes one breast for himself. We're all right handed, so the guy in front plays with her left tit and the guy behind her right.

 

That's another good approach. My wife, however, has no interest in anal sex at all, so we do oral and vaginal. It's all down to what works best for your group.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

njbm, it's entirely typical. MFMs in the lifestyle are quite common.

[couplers 4,717]

... My wife, however, has no interest in anal sex at all,.

Not even a finger a little?

[njbm 2,901]

I would like to try DP. I almost tried DVP. I was “in” a friend, another man asked if we wanted to try DVP. I got so turned on by the idea that I came immediately.

[couplers 4,717]

I would like to try DP. I almost tried DVP. I was “in” a friend, another man asked if we wanted to try DVP. I got so turned on by the idea that I came immediately.

Did you ever get to try it later?

 

I don't mind anal, but I can't orgasm from it. DP, however, is really good for me. But in either case, the guy in my bum (or Clair's or Lora's bum) usually cums more quickly than the guy in the vagina, which is ok since I still cum good.

[EastInWest 1,524]

That's another good approach. My wife, however, has no interest in anal sex at all, so we do oral and vaginal. It's all down to what works best for your group.

 

Mrs. E is the same way, not into anal at all. I'd say most of the time, if it's not serial/taking turns, we end up with her starting by warming up with the new male and then I take the other end. It's almost always some variation of a spit roast and the exact configuration decides who plays with her breasts, etc.

 

"Ski-poling" can happen and it's natural to take opposite sides, but it's usually in more comfortable MFMs with familiar males where we might get into something creative where we're all more physically comfortable.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

When we started it was the three of us on the bed. She loved having our hands all over her. Having both of her nipples sucked at the same time. It was awesome kissing her or holding her hand as he fucked her.

 

Over time it was more comfortable for her to focus on one of us at a time. I got off the bed to give them more room to play and just watched. I took my turn when he was finished.

[Fla-swing99 136]

This response is being constructed by both Mr and Mrs. as we type it in. When we first started in the LS the Mrs. was not interested in an MFM, never had even thought about it. In fact she only wanted some soft play with others males because she was more interested in seeing me with another woman. Honestly, I was great with that situation because I honestly was not sure I was ready to or wanted to see her going full on with another guy. I know, I know it was a selfish position on my part but that was the honest truth and we always tell each other the truth. Then the time came when she had the desire to try an MFM and asked to set one up. I did exactally that after we had a lengthy discussion about what the situation could turn into, what both our boundries would be, what would be ok or not ok for us both and with the understanding that I was not sure how I would feel once things got started. She agreed that if for any reason at anytime during any play with the other guy If I was not comfortable with things she would gladly stop. This was the same agreement we had when she was to first see me with another woman. She found a guy she was interested in having me share her with and I set it up for a specific night. Also, neither one of us wanted me to not be involved, for us, my involvement was a necessary part of what she and I both wanted.

 

The night came, the guy came over, things started to happen in our hot tub which then led to the bedroom and the night and play continued on for a decent abount of time through the night. I'll tell you the honest truth, at the end of that night I was so dumbfounded and beside my self trying to understand one simple thingsthat I NEVER expected to feel, I could not understand why I was so incredibly turned on at watching my wife interact with the other guy. I did not feel jealousy in any way, what I felt was total ecstasy. The other guy and I focused on her completely, taking turns and doing various positions where he and I were both involved in some way with her at the same time. Also, we agreed that she would not hold back in anyway with anything she did with the other guy, something we have seen with other couples. He and I made sure to please her as much and as many times possible and she in return made sure he and I both received a fair amount of he attention and pleasure. It was fantastic and she and I both loved every second of it.

 

 

Its our feeling that yes, I be involved during an MFM where I am sharing her with another guy. Since that first time, there have even be occasions in other MFM's where I chose to step back briefly simply to enjoy watching the two of them, then rejoin in the fun. This is MY choice as I find it very erotic to watch her with the other guy. Since that first MFM we had I have always said to her that its like watching your favorite porn star in action but being lucky to actually be married to her. I would not ever want an FMF nor would she ever want and MFM where we are both not fully involved. For us, thats the main turn on of the situation.

 

Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong here. Its all based on the two of you and what your comfort level is, what turn you both on, what you both talk about before hand and agree on before things happen. Trying to talk through all possible situations and how you each would handle them if during the time if play were to happen. What your boundries are, what is and is not acceptable to you both. Try to think of all possible scenarios of what "could" happen and how you both would handle it so as not to have an awkward "ah shit" moment that you have to try and work out later between the two of you.

 

So, our view on this issue is yes, be totally involved in the activities unless you chose to step back for a moment to observe. Share in the experience together and most importantly always, always communicate and talk about as many scenarios as possible and how you would each feel before you find yourself in the situation. Communication is key.

 

Sorry for the short novel of an answer, as I said, we are both answering this question together from both our perspectives.

 

Good luck to you both and we wish you the very best.

[padoc 1,704]

Excellent response! You were very lucky to find an attentive single guy who accepted and played within your parameters. I hope you kept his number, this kind of single guy is not easy to find.

 

@NJBM, have you considered the male half of one of the couples with whom you've played? Mrs Doc has "loaned" me out to friends who wanted a 3-some and we have occasionally "borrowed" a husband for ours. It has worked well for us, we're familiar with the husbands and there are no unpleasant surprises and, the guys (there have been 3) know what Mrs Doc likes and they understand that the 3-some is primarily about her.

[njbm 2,901]

Did you ever get to try it later?

 

I don't mind anal, but I can't orgasm from it. DP, however, is really good for me. But in either case, the guy in my bum (or Clair's or Lora's bum) usually cums more quickly than the guy in the vagina, which is ok since I still cum good.

 

DVP and DP are on my “to do” list.

[Bluespruce1 707]

I love it when the guys start out by undressing me completely while they are still dressed. I let them put their hands all over me and when I see their cocks are getting hard I start to touch them back. Once we are all naked I want their full attention - hands and mouths but no penetration. When I am ready I get on all fours and let them take turns fucking me - one in my pussy and one in my mouth. I ask them to switch when they feel the urge to cum. This way - I get a nice long fuck while they keep edging. After a nice long fuck and a couple of orgasms I am usually ready to take them both inside me since i’m soaked and loose. They guys usually don’t last long because of the intense stimulation and I love feeling them both flooding my pussy. I let them continue if they want and can get hard again. Lately MMF has been our go to.