Single male got stood up by a couple

[cronos 17]

2 days ago, an out of town couple contacted me to see if I was available that night. I told them I wasn’t available, but I would be available the next day. Well the next day came and they told me to meet up in their area. I told them sure and asked for the exact location for meet up. Well they responded by saying “meet in the area, try to get to know each other and then take it from there”. I then drove a little over an hour to the area, attempt to contact them through SLS b/c they don’t use kik, but got no response. I waited for 20 minutes and they didn't show. They were paid members and had pictures in their profile. Any advice and tips to try to avoid something like this? From what I hear is that couples often get stood up by single males, not the other way around. I might be wrong about this?

[adamgunn 1,460]

Sorry for that, it's just not right.

 

We've cancelled on couples and single males from time to time, but letting them know as early as possible.

 

Only once have we stood a single guy up. It was early for us in the LifeStyle, we'd had a couple MFMs to that time, were looking for another one. This guy contacted us, after a few emails back and forth we agreed to meet him at a bar near our home, we told him it was just a meet and greet, no sex. (But we broke that rule more times than we kept it, it was just to give us an easy way out if the wife didn't like him.)Of course he never showed, never responded to our question 'where were you?'

 

A couple months later, he contacted us again, under a different profile name. (This was back in the days when free members could email.) It was obvious it was the same guy, same pictures, same stuff. I politely told him, 'no thank you.' And by the way, we hadn't changed our screen name and still had some of the same pictures of us on it, he had to know it was the people he'd stood up.

 

Six months go by, again he contacts us, another new profile. I string him along for a couple of weeks, assuming that sooner or later he'll figure it out. He never did, finally got around to asking if we could meet. I told him sure, late on a school night, promised that the wife was in the mood, sex was assured. Of course we were snug in our beds at the appointed hour. I got an email from him the next day, bitching about how he'd driven an hour only to get stood up, WTF? I wrote back, told him that he'd stood us up months before, that he deserved it, GFY. Then I blocked him.

 

As far as I know, we never heard from him again. I'd say he deserved what I did to him, you're welcome to disagree.

[Sawman 84]

You never know it is real until the door opens. Stuff happens particularly in The Lifestyle. If it comes even to a meet and greet I ask for a number for texts for last minute changes. If not, then I am careful not to drive an hour.

[cronos 17]

That's some shady dude. I'm glad you guys taught him a lesson!

[cronos 17]

Good point, I'll have to ask for their number next time. I thought they would respond back on SLS, so I didn't bother getting their number.

[Napoleon 230]

Single men are viewed as second class citizens in the swinger world and should stay out the swinger world.

 

Vanilla women are better looking anyway.

[padoc 1,703]

Stuff happens OP. We've been played by couples but we learned from it and refined our selection process. You should too.

 

BTW…another brilliant and insightful post by Nappy.

[njbm 2,871]

We were stood up on a Friday and met the couple at a group event the following Monday. I don’t think they put it together. We’ve also had last minute cancellations, usually a cold. A lot of flakes. Part of the vetting process.

[shy_couple 459]

Single men are viewed as second class citizens in the swinger world and should stay out the swinger world.

 

Vanilla women are better looking anyway.

 

This is coming from a single male.....

[Napoleon 230]

This is coming from a single male.....

 

I'm not single,I have three beautiful girlfriends. Read my profile first before making a comment about me.