How old is too old?

[bluechips 15]

What is the biggest age difference full swap that you ever experienced? We are a young swinger couple, I am 25 and hubby is 27. Last week we met a nice old couple in South Beach, the husband is 64 and the wife is 55. They are very fit so looked much younger than their real age. Anyway, it was my first time having sex with a man this old (he is 10 year older than my dad!) and hubby said the same his first time with a lady over 50! We both thought this is pretty unusual so wondering if this happens more often than we thought.

[NC_Seniors 518]

What is the biggest age difference full swap that you never experienced?

 

Our M half has played with a woman probably 35 years younger ... the other man was probably 10 years younger than our F half. Our F half has played with a man 16 years younger ... the other woman was 23 years younger than our M half. So the biggest difference for us with one couple was 23 and 16 years, but the biggest difference for either of us with a single play partner was 35 years. Hope that makes sense.

[MrandMrsA 76]

We are early 50's. Males youngest - just turned 30, females youngest _ 40. Makes oldest - about 50'ish, females oldest - 62.

 

We'll both agree that the youngest was not the best!

[Numex 2,416]

Gives me hope for the future.

[sandyman6900 25]

Age is just a number. I am 77 and my wife is 68 and we have played with two couples, on separate occasions, in the last month. One couple was in their late 60s and the other their early 60s. We have both been told that we look and act at least ten years younger than our ages. We have been approached by couples very much younger than ourselves. Maybe we are less ageist in Europe.

 

In December I will be celebrating 50 years in the lifestyle. My first wife and I started, unplanned and almost by accident, in December 1969. We enjoyed it and 50 years later I am still enjoying it. So, there is hope for the rest of you!

[Napoleon 230]

Single childless women age 20 to 25 is my target. They're the most compatible to my personal preference in the opposite sex and my lifestyle.

[Sawman 84]

I am 71 and am active in the Lifestyle. The line is the ability to give consent. Other than that age is whatever the players decide. I accept that I am outside many women's demographic and I respect that. I can still consent and the answer is yes.

[ViSexual 1,008]

I've always felt that swinging was about variety. And age difference is a lot like size, race or even gender difference. You love your spouse and probably picked them because they were your best pick for a life partner. But when you swing, you're exploring differences.

 

I remember one couple that we had an opportunity with and passed on it. Now, honestly, I was a little disappointed because I thought the wife was hot as hell! And I knew my wife liked the husband but it was her decision to pass the opportunity up.

 

When we were on the way home, I asked my wife why she didn't want to play with them. She told me that the other husband was just too much like me, in both appearance and personality, and it wouldn't be different enough.

[couplers 4,640]

... The line is the ability to give consent..

An interesting point. When Sandra Day O'Connor retired from the Supreme Court, the primary reason was that her husband was suffering from mental decline and was in a care facility - where he had struck up a sexual relationship with another resident who was also suffering from senility, for lack of a better word. An article I read around that time, in Slate I believe, said that such a thing was not all that uncommon among institutionalized old people. The article went through all the moral, legal, and ethical issues of such people who do not recognize their decades-long spouses, but are having a torrid affair with new acquaintance. Some try to stop it, some say let them live their last years having this fun. Overall, though it was sad; and reinforced how strong our sexual needs are.

[PeterJ 948]

When Sandra Day O'Connor retired from the Supreme Court, the primary reason was that her husband was suffering from mental decline and was in a care facility - where he had struck up a sexual relationship with another resident...

 

I followed this story contemporaneously, and my recollection is that O’Connor’s husband was in the middle stage of dementia and that O’Connor was in fact supportive of her husband’s relationship with his fellow resident.

[couplers 4,640]

I followed this story contemporaneously, and my recollection is that O’Connor’s husband was in the middle stage of dementia and that O’Connor was in fact supportive of her husband’s relationship with his fellow resident.

That is my recollection as well. It does make me realize that our need for sex is part of our need for love and companionship.

[padoc 1,703]

The O'Conner experience is not unusual in extended care facilities. My ex wife is an RN who worked over nights in one of those places in the early 90's. They had to count noses several times a night to make sure patients were in their own rooms. Both men and women would wander off end end up in someone else's bed, often naked. At the time I thought "ewwww" but as I've gotten older, I now lean towards, "good for them" with a smile. Of course that presupposes that both parties are capable of giving consent.

[Fundamental Law 2,885]

An interesting point. When Sandra Day O'Connor retired from the Supreme Court, the primary reason was that her husband was suffering from mental decline and was in a care facility - where he had struck up a sexual relationship with another resident who was also suffering from senility, for lack of a better word.

I think the same thing happened with Sargent Shriver, who set up the Peace Corps. His wife, Eunice Shriver, supported him in his 'new' relationship when she visited him at the custodial facility.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

This question arises often at Swingersboard: GREATEST AGE DIFFERENCE