Ready to take things further?

[JasperSmoker 15]

Hey

 

My Wife & I fantasize a lot about a 3rd person / couple. We have sex talked it for a long time and in the past, my Wife has nearly had 2 occasions where she wanted to try out with another woman but then it didnt happen. It went as far as pants down, touching and french kissing but that was it. From my perspective, its sexy as hell. I am very happy to watch my Wife with another woman or man. I do think a lot about watching my Wife with another guy and it turns me on more than anything. My wife really likes the idea but leans more towards a woman. When we have sex, she role plays eating pussy and talks about it non stop.

 

Overall, we have been like this for about 7 years now with the fantasies & sex talk but the question is, should we move to the next step and actually invite someone in? I feel that i am very much ok with watching my wife and im certain she wants it but..... with all the the talk during sex, i dont want to upset her by asking. during sex, she tells me what she wants and sh doesnt hold back.

 

Are we ready (in your more experienced opinions)?

How should i raise the questions?

 

Thanks

 

JS

[BlueStagg 57]

Hey

 

My Wife & I fantasize a lot about a 3rd person / couple. We have sex talked it for a long time and in the past, my Wife has nearly had 2 occasions where she wanted to try out with another woman but then it didnt happen. It went as far as pants down, touching and french kissing but that was it. From my perspective, its sexy as hell. I am very happy to watch my Wife with another woman or man. I do think a lot about watching my Wife with another guy and it turns me on more than anything. My wife really likes the idea but leans more towards a woman. When we have sex, she role plays eating pussy and talks about it non stop.

 

Overall, we have been like this for about 7 years now with the fantasies & sex talk but the question is, should we move to the next step and actually invite someone in? I feel that i am very much ok with watching my wife and im certain she wants it but..... with all the the talk during sex, i dont want to upset her by asking. during sex, she tells me what she wants and sh doesnt hold back.

 

Are we ready (in your more experienced opinions)?

How should i raise the questions?

 

Thanks

 

JS

 

You have to have the conversation with the clothes on... just sit down and talk about it.. if you can't communicate about it, you aren't ready

[bbarnsworth 2,640]

Concur with BlueStagg. Have a discussion outside of the bedroom, and see where you are. Openly communicate and trust each other.

[adamgunn 1,460]

Well, I"m going to assume you've already had that conversation with your wife, and she's probably saying, "Yeah, in the right circumstances I might do that." If that's not true, and she's not to that point, wait until you get there.

 

But, if she is, I'll try to answer your question, 'Are you ready?' I think the two of you are ready to take it to the next step. Which is, find a playmate, male or female, and invite them into a make out session with your wife. Your wife should feel perfectly free at that time to go as far as *she* feels comfortable with. Make sure she knows you'll support her whatever her decision is. Then, let what happens happen.

 

Best of luck.

[Numex 2,420]

... I am very happy to watch my Wife with another woman or man. I do think a lot about watching my Wife with another guy and it turns me on more than anything. My wife really likes the idea but leans more towards a woman. ... I feel that i am very much ok with watching my wife and im certain she wants it but..... with all the the talk during sex, i dont want to upset her by asking...

You don't ask, you tell. Take her to dinner and in a romantic but nonsexual moment, you tell your wife that you love her and that she is free to pursue her sexual fantasies in any way she wants. It would make you happy for her to be happy. Since you are open to her being with a man or woman, there shouldn't be a problem with whatever she chooses.

Just be prepared to accept if to start she wants something that you don't think is perfect in your mind. Letting your wife be in total control and with your support and no criticism. Enjoy the journey.