Talking about a threesome

[natsfan69 16]

My wife and I have been talking about a threesome with another woman. This is going to sound strange but the idea doesn't make me go completely crazy. Our sex life is fantastic. We've been married over 10 years and I feel like it's better than it was in the beginning. I guess my issue is that the idea of having sex with another person doesn't really get me going. And I'm not sure how I would react to seeing her with another person. It sure sounds fun and I'm wondering if I am over thinking it. She had two lesbian experience in high school but she didn't doing anything to the other girls they went down on her. With that being said, is it common that when engaging another female that she wouldn't get any attention from my wife in the way of oral? I've never been on a site like this. I thought this might be a good place to ask people what they have experienced. I apologize for being such a newbie...

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

Some people don't get turned on by the idea of their spouse having sex with someone else. Strangely, it doesn't mean you're not compatible with swinging. Some couples are fine with their spouses having sex with others, but don't get much out of their spouse doing so.

 

Keep talking with your wife. Keep the communication 100% open and honest.

 

No apologies needed for being a newbie! Welcome to the board! We're glad to have you here!

[Numex 2,459]

.., is it common that when engaging another female that she wouldn't get any attention from my wife in the way of oral? ...

Common? No. Does it happen? Certainly.

In our group one of the women is like that. My wife and the other wives are happy to go down on her without any reciprocity.

[NC_Seniors 519]

I apologize for being such a newbie...

Why? Everybody who’s ever taken up ANYthing — golf, piano, beekeeping, swinging — was a newbie at one point.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Just realize that finding a bisexual single woman is not going to be easy. It does happen, but there is a reason that they are called unicorns...they're about as common as a unicorn. This is also why lots of couples end up looking for other couples. Mainly because it is easier to find another couple for the women to be able to play with each other. We wish you luck, but it will require some work on your part to find one.

[couplers 4,717]

Just realize that finding a bisexual single woman is not going to be easy. It does happen, but there is a reason that they are called unicorns...

After two years of hubby allowing me to have a boyfriend, I decided that I could tolerate the idea of him having sex with another woman, so long as I got to choose. It wasn't difficult among my friends and acquaintances finding a woman willing to have sex with my husband, but more difficult to find one that would even let me watch, let alone be interested in pussy licking either way.

[MrandMrsA 76]

Just realize that finding a bisexual single woman is not going to be easy. It does happen, but there is a reason that they are called unicorns...they're about as common as a unicorn. This is also why lots of couples end up looking for other couples. Mainly because it is easier to find another couple for the women to be able to play with each other. We wish you luck, but it will require some work on your part to find one.

 

Actually, unicorns, like anything else are easy to find - you just have to know where to look. We found three in the first month of our LS journey. Unfortunately, if I give up our secret, I give up our identity.

[Napoleon 230]

If you you don't want her or you having sex with other people, tell her. If she's still insist on sleeping with other people, divorce her.

 

Man, a lot of you men nowadays are a bunch of spineless chumps who are afraid to say "NO" to women or decisively tell women what you will or will not tolerate. If one of my girlfriends insist on doing anything that she know I will be in disagreement with, I'm going to dump her on the spot. I've never been afraid of losing any woman.

[Jane1902 476]

I don’t see anywhere in the OP where the wife is insisting on sleeping with other people. So it seems to me advice on getting a divorce from someone who plans on never marrying is off base. The comment on never being afaid of losing any woman feels like little value is placed on the individual or the relationship. Different strokes for different folks but at least you know yourself well enough and are upfront on your limitations. To the OP welcome and lots of good advice here. Encourage your wife to read too, continue talking, enjoy the fantasy.

[Napoleon 230]

@Jane1902

 

I value highly my relationships and my girlfriends past and present. But I've never been afraid of any woman walking away not wanting to be with me anymore. If all three of my girlfriends left me today I could replace them within months with three or more than three women. Men who are afraid of losing their woman are men who dont have easy access to other attractive quality women to have sex with or form a relationship with. And just because I have no desire to get married doesn't mean I can't give my "opinion" on marriage. If he 100% isn't sure about him and his wife sleeping with other people he needs to tell his wife "I don't want you or I sleeping with other people". If she doesn't agree with his decision more than likely "the way most wives are nowadays" she'll cheat on him anyway behind his back.

[Guest]

My first husband enjoyed talking about bringing another woman or man to bed with us, especially as part of foreplay. We would even do a bit of role playing, him telling me how he would like for me to climb on top of this guy or that and have me do it to him. He would get very turned on if he mentioned specific guys and I would say yes, and this is how I would suck his dick and show him. But, it never happened. With my current husband, we never even talked about it but had our first MFM, just by chance, while we were still dating. Strange how those things work.

[kittyswinger 261]

It sure sounds fun and I'm wondering if I am over thinking it. She had two lesbian experience in high school but she didn't doing anything to the other girls they went down on her. With that being said, is it common that when engaging another female that she wouldn't get any attention from my wife in the way of oral? I've never been on a site like this. I thought this might be a good place to ask people what they have experienced. I apologize for being such a newbie...

Usually there is an expectation to return the attention if another woman gets down on your wife. In one of my experience with another couple, the wife gave me an oral and told her that I'm not sure if I'm bi. She said it's ok, just enjoy. I just let her and it was good. Just be honest.

[TricianMike 788]

Your wife is like many others starting in the LS, not sure how far she will go. If she has no bisexual desires having oral is very foreign. If she lets the other woman go down on her she may feel no different from a man doing that. Being with you can be comforting. Your wife going down on a woman will be very different. Even men sometimes find it too strange. My advice, if you can find a woman let what happens happen. Let it be spontaneous and enjoy.

[adamgunn 1,461]

My wife is not bi. Every once in awhile, she'll let a girl kiss her and go down on her, and she says she enjoys it, not much different from a man. Only one time has she returned the favors for another woman, she said it was okay, but not her thing.

 

Everybody likes different things. What fun would it be if everybody liked the same thing?