jeff111 44 Posted August 24, 2019 Hi All, This question is directed towards the wives experience, but guys feel free to comment on their behalf. Has anyone found that they’ve become (for the women) or that their wives have become multi-orgasmic since taking on multiple partners or the excitement from encounters? If not multi-orgasmic, found they had the desire for more orgasms or were able to have second and subsequent orgasms more readily? If you already were capable of multi-O’s, did the frequency or intensity change. Any thoughts on what caused these changes if there were any? How do you have the most intense and satisfying orgasms now? With hubby or play situations? T.I.A. PS, come to think of it, hubbies if you’ve found that you’ve been able to regularly recover more quickly, it’d be interesting to hear about your experience also. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
lovefest04 700 Posted August 24, 2019 As a man I haven't been able to recover more quickly. But I can tell you my wifes' most intense orgasms have been during swingers play. Like practically passing out, eyes rolling back in her head kinda orgasms. Why, I don't know for sure, but If I had to bet, I'd bet it's a function of a few things. Multiple men paying very close attentions, multiple hands and cocks to play with, the excitement of a "new" lover, the taboo, the sex while staring into your partners eyes. All of it is quite arousing. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted August 26, 2019 With multiple women available, I am able to recover much more quickly than with one, even very willing woman. The second and third orgasms are increasingly difficult to achieve, but are much more intense. My balls and prostate ache for several hours afterwards. My wife calms down after two orgasms, which usually consists of me fucking her then eating her, but in a group situation she can go and go after two Os so long as someone is trying to arouse her. Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest Posted August 26, 2019 I think I have always been multi orgasmi. I can remember when I was still in my teens masturbating and taking myself through several. The problem is that, at best, men tend to take you to the first one and use the opportunity for intercourse which may it may not get you into multiples. My husband (2nd husband) is quite good about going down on me and staying down taking me through several rounds until I just can’t stand any more and only then proceeding to intercourse which is then much more intense. Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted August 26, 2019 .. My husband (2nd husband) is quite good about going down on me and staying down taking me through several rounds until I just can’t stand any more and only then proceeding to intercourse which is then much more intense.Interesting. My wife prefers the other way around, fuck until we both cum then lick her until she's done. Sometimes we'll fuck again immediately, but usually that only happens in group play. Quote Share this post Link to post
PSULioness 859 Posted August 26, 2019 Orgasms happen or don’t happen for me. I am capable or multi though it doesn’t happen all the time. I am less likely to have multi if having sex with a second of third person at a party. Also less likely if I had sex with the same person more than once. I think it is more common for me during oral sex and especially if having mutual oral with a girlfriend who is having multi orgasms. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
LaidBackFun 36 Posted August 26, 2019 My wife never orgasmed from PIV with me. Her first time was with a guy at a party we attended. She was really into it. She said it was because of all the foreplay and being with someone new that was a very skilled lover. Since then she orgasms about a third of the time with different men. Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,656 Posted August 26, 2019 I too have multiple orgasms more easily when I switch partners. The most intense is in a situation with at least one guy, David or Red, and at least one woman, Clair or Lora. It doesn't matter how it starts, who does what, or how it ends - that is the best for me. It has become that I have the most, and most intense, orgasms when I get jealous for seeing the other two and then satisfy both my hetero and Lesbian sides. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
padoc 1,703 Posted August 26, 2019 Mrs Doc was multi-orgasmic when we met and has remained so throughput our marriage. When we started swinging, she was happy with 1 orgasm with a new partner, if it happened at all. Over the years, her confidence and comfort level with new partners has increased to the point where multiples happen frequently with swinger sex and multiple partners. Her sexual evolution has been an erotic pleasure to watch. Quote Share this post Link to post
dazanconfsd 84 Posted August 27, 2019 My wife has been multi orgasmic on occasion before. In my experience with us swinging it depends on the skill of the lover, and the attraction. She has had multiple much faster and usually more intense with a new person. I can go again faster but I usually take viagra or another E.D. med to speed things up and have fun longer. However, ironically, don't orgasm every time with another person but I always have a blast, then of course finish with her. Quote Share this post Link to post
Billygoat 443 Posted August 27, 2019 The Queen has never been multi orgasmic. She builds in intensity and has one very intense mind blowing body stiffening...loud (for her)guttural....powerful orgasm. After she is very sensitive and can’t continue with any stimulation. Over the years I learned early on on how to bring her to a very intense orgasm usually followed with needed intense cuddling and weeping on her part. Although she fights it slightly her preference is to be penetrated fully immediately after with rhythmic thrusting until I or the male she is with explodes in her or on her. Several of our play friends have also learned to bring her to orgasm....many with intensity and then the resulting penetration and slow rhythmic thrusting to completion she prefers. She can if handled properly enjoy this process two or three times over an afternoon of play. But for the second or third time you have to be artful with foreplay, not aggressive and build her up. Our issue has been since menopause her desire has diminished quite a bit. Although a very willing partner for me and on occasion a few of our friends now and again....she does not experience the anticipation...the desire....the need....the hornies....that she experience most all her life pre menopause. Quote Share this post Link to post
Shore2Please 612 Posted August 27, 2019 This something I never told my husband and reading the post brought back a memory. The first time we did a swap I had an orgasm I only had a few times before. I don’t know if it was the newness or the excitement or what he was doing. I told my lover that night that it was one of the best orgasms I had in some time. I must have had four orgasms and very intense ones. I felt foolish telling him that or even admitting that it was great. When my husband asked me how that night was I told him it was plenty of fun and he knows I had a great time. I never told him exactly what I said during sex. We don’t swing that often. There is a certain excitement when we do play. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,656 Posted August 27, 2019 This something I never told my husband ... I felt foolish telling him that or even admitting that it was great. When my husband asked me how that night was I told him it was plenty of fun and he knows I had a great time. I never told him exactly what I said during sex... If there is particularly good orgasm I like to talk about or hear about it. Either way, it is something to be shared, not feel foolish about. In fact, I like hearing Red, David, Clair or Lora gasp and say that was good, more than talking about my good orgasm. It makes me jealous and turns me on. Quote Share this post Link to post
Shore2Please 612 Posted August 27, 2019 If there is particularly good orgasm I like to talk about or hear about it. Either way, it is something to be shared, not feel foolish about. In fact, I like hearing Red, David, Clair or Lora gasp and say that was good, more than talking about my good orgasm. It makes me jealous and turns me on. I was with a man for the first time since I was married, not planned, it just happened on a vacation. It happened a few years ago and I still think of that first time. I love my husband and trust him to love me. I did feel a little jealous that he was with someone new. Didn’t want to know all the details of his night and thought he might feel the same. Our second day with the couple was more trying and almost gave up on the the thought of ever doing it again. Alone with my husband I explained my feelings. I even used the word Love in our friend made love to me. I never said we fucked. I said we made love. My husband was understanding after I told him that the second day I felt like I was fucked by a stranger. The man I was with was both a lover and a stranger. The second day I was a sex object, in front of my husband. The first night I was loved and reacted as a woman making love. My husband enjoyed the fact that I enjoyed. Since that first day we have played a few times mostly in separate rooms and a few times in the same room. I have seen him enjoy and he has watched me play too. He certainly knows when I orgasm and has watched me have some intense ones. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
Jane1902 476 Posted August 27, 2019 My experience has been that as I got older the intensity of my orgasms increased. I liked sex before, but even more so after 50! I was celibate for several years and first discovered this playing with myself. Eventually I had a partner that made me squirt (not pee, I have smelled my sheets and usually go before and after sex.) The eyes rolling back, stars around me, out of body orgasms can happen with single or multiple partners, and on occasion by myself with both oral and PIV. I think it has more to do with how comfortable and relaxed I am in the situation. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post
kittyswinger 260 Posted August 28, 2019 I'm multi orgasmic but I noticed it intensifies with multiple partners, like in an mfm. At most, I can have 10 or more even before my partner reaches his first. More so if 2 partners...until Im sored :-) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
jeff111 44 Posted September 1, 2019 Thanks for all your input. Seems like some women aren’t trained or their body doesn’t comply with multi-O’s, and for others it just happens and some the mood has to be right. Anyone else’s experience? Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,460 Posted September 1, 2019 >>>Seems like some women aren’t trained My wife decided when she got to college - she was still a virgin - that she needed to train herself for sex. Luckily, she was assigned to a single room. She read up on the subject, particularly about women's anatomy, and using her fingers and various accouterments, including vegetables of the proper shape, she learned how to have an orgasm. She says that she quickly learned her body and her reactions and became orgasmic and then multi-orgasmic. According to her, she had an orgasm the first time she had sex with a man during her senior year. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted September 2, 2019 >.. My wife decided when she got to college - she was still a virgin - that she needed to train herself for sex. .. According to her, she had an orgasm the first time she had sex with a man during her senior year. Her three years of self-study paid off. But it leaves me wondering if she would have gotten there faster with a tutor. Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted September 2, 2019 Mrs. E tends to have a lot of "small orgasms" from intercourse easily and more or less without really stopping. The bigger ones are more work. To hear her tell it, she's almost always cum immediately when she was penetrated, and always when a man came. Playing with others hasn't really been any different in that respect. I'm not sure there's a pattern for me. Twice a day is pretty typical for me, three times is a stretch, but there's no rhyme or reason to how fast I recover. Maybe I recover more quickly when there are other partners available, but I know sometimes I will be walking around with another hard-on 15 minutes after screwing Mrs. E for no obvious reason, so I'd just be guessing. Obviously, as everybody says, we're both much hornier than usual after playing with others, and fuck and cum a lot more for a week or so after. Quote Share this post Link to post
jeff111 44 Posted September 5, 2019 Mrs. E tends to have a lot of "small orgasms" from intercourse easily and more or less without really stopping. The bigger ones are more work. To hear her tell it, she's almost always cum immediately when she was penetrated, and always when a man came. Playing with others hasn't really been any different in that respect. I'm not sure there's a pattern for me. Twice a day is pretty typical for me, three times is a stretch, but there's no rhyme or reason to how fast I recover. Maybe I recover more quickly when there are other partners available, but I know sometimes I will be walking around with another hard-on 15 minutes after screwing Mrs. E for no obvious reason, so I'd just be guessing. Obviously, as everybody says, we're both much hornier than usual after playing with others, and fuck and cum a lot more for a week or so after. Orgasming when being first penetrated is super hot! Likewise in response to the guy cumming. It seems not uncommon that someone orgasming will set off the other partner - especially for the women that like to be filled with cum. Anyone else find that? Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,656 Posted September 5, 2019 ... Likewise in response to the guy cumming. It seems not uncommon that someone orgasming will set off the other partner - especially for the women that like to be filled with cum. Anyone else find that? Me. I have trained myself to orgasm before or with the guy because men lose their erection and enthusiasm after ejaculating. If it doesn't happen and he can't get it back up with some oral, he's got to go down on me to finish me off. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted September 5, 2019 Likewise in response to the guy cumming. It seems not uncommon that someone orgasming will set off the other partner - especially for the women that like to be filled with cum. I've been with women who had clear cum/breeding fetishes and the orgasm was definitely a reaction to the thought of getting the load. They're the ones who can't help but touch it afterwards or who will masturbate and get off watching you shoot on them. Mrs. E is a little different, it's more a reaction to the anticipation and feeling the cock twitch. We always use condoms with others. Supposing we're doing MFM, she will definitely get off hard on the other M, then keep the low-boil mini orgasms going when I enter her all over again. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,656 Posted September 6, 2019 I've been with women who had clear cum/breeding fetishes and the orgasm was definitely a reaction to the thought of getting the load...That's me, I love cum but not necessarily the thought of becoming pregnant. I get excited by the idea of a living part of the man being in me for a couple of days. It's a little sad for me when a man ejaculates in my mouth or bum, those little swimmers have a short life. Even sadder if he cums on me outside and they just dry up. Quote Share this post Link to post
kittyswinger 260 Posted September 10, 2019 That's me, I love cum but not necessarily the thought of becoming pregnant. I get excited by the idea of a living part of the man being in me for a couple of days. It's a little sad for me when a man ejaculates in my mouth or bum, those little swimmers have a short life. Even sadder if he cums on me outside and they just dry up. I wonder why with some guys cum flows out quickly while others it is retained longer? I find the dried splatter abstract artwork fun to look at on the mirror! ? Quote Share this post Link to post
Bluespruce1 706 Posted September 13, 2019 I am almost always multi-orgasmic. My most intense orgasms happen after a lot of “pregaming.” We simply don’t play with guys or couples that are one and done or who aren’t interested in a lot of foreplay. If we are playing with a guy, I like to watch home masturbate with my husband. Sometimes I want them to watch me. I like it when they take turns and let me cum first. I also cum hard if i’m getting oral while I’m getting fucked, especially if the guy has a bigger penis. My husband can usually keep it up through three orgasms as long as his partner stays attentive. Quote Share this post Link to post
Fla-swing99 136 Posted September 14, 2019 This is the wife replying. I am a multi-orgasmic person during sex to start with. However, there have been times when my husband and I are having an MFM and my husband maybe steps back and decides to watch me and the other male for a bit that I have had multiple orgasms that were very intense due to the heightened sexual intensity at the moment knowing my husband was enjoying watching me being pleased and pleasing him and another man at the same time. Occasionally my orgasms have been a bit more intense during an MFM than sometimes when it's just my husband and myself. There was one time we were roll playing, my husband and I with a vibrator, about a SM I had the hots for and the sex between my husband and I at that moment was so intense, plus the vibrator that it made me gush. It was the very first time I ever gushed. A lot of husbands would have taken offense to that occurring during a roll play situation involving another man, but not my husband. It made him so much more turned on knowing that our roll play about this SM was making me so horny and turned on that it made my body do something it had never done before. The intensity of my orgasms with my husband are always very intense, but at times when he is sharing me with another man they can be even more powerful. Not because the other man is doing a better job, but because I know how turned on my husband is watching me and hearing me getting pleased by another man and me pleasing the other man. For us watching each other and seeing and hearing each other getting pleased by someone else and pleasing someone else is what intensifies our orgasms during that situation. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
jeff111 44 Posted September 14, 2019 This is the wife replying. I am a multi-orgasmic person during sex to start with. However, there have been times when my husband and I are having an MFM and my husband maybe steps back and decides to watch me and the other male for a bit that I have had multiple orgasms that were very intense due to the heightened sexual intensity at the moment knowing my husband was enjoying watching me being pleased and pleasing him and another man at the same time. Occasionally my orgasms have been a bit more intense during an MFM than sometimes when it's just my husband and myself. There was one time we were roll playing, my husband and I with a vibrator, about a SM I had the hots for and the sex between my husband and I at that moment was so intense, plus the vibrator that it made me gush. It was the very first time I ever gushed. A lot of husbands would have taken offense to that occurring during a roll play situation involving another man, but not my husband. It made him so much more turned on knowing that our roll play about this SM was making me so horny and turned on that it made my body do something it had never done before. The intensity of my orgasms with my husband are always very intense, but at times when he is sharing me with another man they can be even more powerful. Not because the other man is doing a better job, but because I know how turned on my husband is watching me and hearing me getting pleased by another man and me pleasing the other man. For us watching each other and seeing and hearing each other getting pleased by someone else and pleasing someone else is what intensifies our orgasms during that situation. Wow. Thanks for your reply. So the physical is important but it’s the mental aspect that gives the most intensity to the orgasms it seems. I agree, it’s the pleasing the other partner aspect which generally gives the stronger or at least more satisfying orgasm. Also, so you’re saying even though you have multiple orgasms, they are intense orgasms each time? Thanks Quote Share this post Link to post
Fla-swing99 136 Posted September 14, 2019 Wow. Thanks for your reply. So the physical is important but it’s the mental aspect that gives the most intensity to the orgasms it seems. I agree, it’s the pleasing the other partner aspect which generally gives the stronger or at least more satisfying orgasm. Also, so you’re saying even though you have multiple orgasms, they are intense orgasms each time? Thanks Hello Jeff, this is the husband typing the response to your questions with the Mrs sitting here next to telling me what her answers are. Yes, her orgasms in swinging situations can be and are often more intense then when it’s just her and I. The reason for this is due to the heightened level of eroticism and sensuality. Some situations are much more erotic then others so it’s not in all cases. The same goes for me. The hotter the situation, the more erotic things are, the more everyone’s level of eroticism is heightened. The Mrs. says the main reason for very intense orgasms in those situations has a great deal to do with the fact that I am there with her sharing in her experience and me being very turned on by watching her with another getting pleased and pleasing them, huge turn on for me which she feeds off of which makes things so much hotter and intense for her and/or me. For us, it’s all about us both sharing in each experience together, enjoying every part of it together and being very turnd on watching each other. Hope that helps answer your questions. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
jeff111 44 Posted September 14, 2019 It does - thank you. That’s a great way of it working in together for both of you! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
adamgunn 1,460 Posted September 14, 2019 Fla-Swing, thanks for the explanations. My wife also often has more intense orgasms in MFMs than she has when it's just the two of us, or even when we're in foursomes. For her, like you, it's the erotic atmosphere. It had to be learned. Our first few MFMs were good, but not the mind-blowing times she's having now. She had to get it into her mind that it's okay to be having sex while I'm just watching; that's a leap. Even when you're doing foursomes, nobody is really watching you, everyone's engaged. Only after we talked it out a few times, and she came to the realization it really is all about her, did she figure out that she can allow herself to just let go. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted September 14, 2019 . There was one time we were roll playing, .The image that conjures up in the mind... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
EmilyMoore 20 Posted September 20, 2019 I used one day some kind of viagra, and I had with my wife and a young girl a 3some. We had 3 rounds of sex, both of them squirted 2 times. I want to mention that this was the first time in my life. Quote Share this post Link to post
older couple 132 Posted September 27, 2019 I'm the wife. With me it has to do with my chemistry with my partner or partners. If the chemistry is great and I stay lubricated, I can multiple orgasm for hours and the longer it happens the more sensitive I become and quicker I orgasm and more intense and powerful the orgasms become. I have past out before because my orgasms were so fantastic and tense that I was breathing so little or not at all. A few times the chemistry was so bad, I didn't orgasm at all. Just wanted it over with. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
jeff111 44 Posted September 28, 2019 I'm the wife. With me it has to do with my chemistry with my partner or partners. If the chemistry is great and I stay lubricated, I can multiple orgasm for hours and the longer it happens the more sensitive I become and quicker I orgasm and more intense and powerful the orgasms become. I have past out before because my orgasms were so fantastic and tense that I was breathing so little or not at all. A few times the chemistry was so bad, I didn't orgasm at all. Just wanted it over with. Wow, are you saying if the chemistry is right, you can have continual orgasms for hours? That sounds very hot. The right setting atmosphere and mindset seems to be a factor for many. Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,656 Posted October 2, 2019 My experience has been that as I got older the intensity of my orgasms increased. I liked sex before, but even more so after 50! .Really? Clair, Lora and I all ramped up after 30 and was the reason we found a boyfriend to share who supplements what we get at home from our two guys. Fifty doesn't look so dreadful anymore! 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
padoc 1,703 Posted October 2, 2019 50 sounds worse than it is if you keep yourself in reasonable shape and remain healthy. Menopause presents a bigger impediment to good and frequent sex than does a birthday number. HRT can address that in both women and men. I agree with Jane on this, Mrs Doc's orgasms generally became more intense, happened more easily and more frequently after 50. I don't know if there is a direct connection but it seems that change in orgasm patterns seemed to correlate with our increasing comfort with swinging. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
PeterJ 955 Posted October 3, 2019 Fifty doesn't look so dreadful anymore! Level and frequency of desire may diminish as a person ages, but in the case of my wife and some other women I know the orgasmic response increases, at least subjectively, well into their 60s. Unlike most other sports sex may continue to improve pretty late in life. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
bbarnsworth 2,642 Posted October 12, 2019 I have a former fiance with whom I am still very close. When we were together back in our 20s, we had a good sex life. We weren't two sexed crazed maniacs or anything, but it was good. She enjoyed sex, but it wasn't by any means a focus for her. Some years after we broke up, she and I and another friend of ours were camping together. She said at the time (this was in our 30s) "With sex, I could take it or leave it". Now, 20 years on, she tells me her sex drive is much stronger now, and she enjoys it much more than she did in the past. I don't know if she's multi-orgasmic now though. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
ToeDippers 83 Posted October 15, 2019 I noticed my wife had a few orgasms with the first man she played with. She sounded even more aroused with the first woman who she has oral with. On nights she had more than one partner she had less orgasms. Quote Share this post Link to post
LaidBackFun 36 Posted October 16, 2019 My wife experiences more orgasms during MFM then just the two of us. She feels it is due to all of the foreplay and heightened sexual excitement. She also has said that she orgasms more with other partners than with me due to the increased sexual excitement of a new partner. Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,420 Posted October 16, 2019 .. She also has said that she orgasms more with other partners than with me due to the increased sexual excitement of a new partner.Both my wife and I can go longer, have more orgasms and get excited to go again when engaging with a new partner. Quote Share this post Link to post
oc1234 435 Posted October 26, 2019 After we started playing with others, my wife found it very easy to have multiple orgasms. Before that she often didn't have orgasms at all. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Lee714 82 Posted October 28, 2019 Do you do DP? I would think that would increase the orgasm "count". Quote Share this post Link to post
oc1234 435 Posted October 28, 2019 Do you do DP? I would think that would increase the orgasm "count". We have done DVP a couple times. Quote Share this post Link to post
venusshaw 123 Posted October 28, 2019 I orgasm regularly, rarely multiple. Yes, I find it easier and effortless to orgasm with new partners or someone I am meeting again after sometime. I do come with my husband - usually accompanied by a fantasy about someone I have been with or would like to be with. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
njbm 2,881 Posted October 28, 2019 What's a DVP? Double vaginal penetration. Two penises in one vagina. As opposed to DP, which is one penis in vagina, one penis in anus. Quote Share this post Link to post
venusshaw 123 Posted November 5, 2019 With a new lover, I can get penetrative orgasms due to the excitement. If the guy is giving oral, whether husband or a new/old lover I always have an orgasm. I have had a couple of lovers who don't do oral, but are so good and last so long inside me, that they can bring me to orgasm. Oral sex can make me cum in 5 to 10 minutes. In penetrative sex I need the guy to hold for 20 minutes or more to set off the orgasm. I can come multiple times with multiple lovers on the same night. Couple of guys who don't like oral, and can't last long enough, have shagged me to orgasm. Everyone has a specific mastery to please a woman, it is for me to bring forth that quality and use it for mutual pleasure - but I cum first. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,656 Posted November 6, 2019 ... Oral sex can make me cum in 5 to 10 minutes. In penetrative sex I need the guy to hold for 20 minutes or more to set off the orgasm..For me, the big difference isn't the time itself, but that a guy (or woman) can keep going with oral and I can let it run, if we have the time, and enjoy being licked (either before or after fucking) for quite a while before I orgasm. When were fucking, I know that once he ejaculates it's over for a while. So I've become adept at being able to speed up my cumming to beat or match his (position - missionary, cowgirl, doggy - matters too, for both me and him). If he does cum first, if I'm close and he stays in me I can occasionally orgasm on a soft dick before it slips out. I like sucking a sloppy used dick, so sometimes that will get him back up (something I especially like in the context of FMF, where I'm going second with him and I get excited by tasting their mixed juices). Or, he can go down on me while he's recovering. In my situation of only playing with three guys though, I have the advantage of knowing them well and how they work their way to orgasm. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post