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A non-lifestyle co-worker asked me how do you not stare when on a nude beach? She knows I sometimes go to a nude beach, she wants to go to one and doesn’t know how to act.

 

Without telling her major details I told her we went to our first naked beach with people we just met on a cruise. Both couples were attractive fully clothed. Both claimed it was their first time. I tried not to look even though you just have to. I admit even though being straight I had to look at the women too.

 

Told her to wear dark sunglasses. I told her if you are like me it is difficult not to look. I even find myself looking at people who aren’t attractive. I said she will see many more unattractive bodies than people who are models. Very very few perfect bodies.

 

Where do you look? Am I the only one looking at genitalia? Male and female? I honestly don’t think about sex outright. I might look at men as sexually attractive and jealous of women with flat bellies.

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Just like in real life when people are clothed, I tend to look at the total package.

 

Of course I look at breasts and pubic areas of women, that's to be expected. But I also look at faces, necks, arms, torsos and legs.

 

The biggest thing is not to stare.

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Just like in real life when people are clothed, I tend to look at the total package.

 

Of course I look at breasts and pubic areas of women, that's to be expected. But I also look at faces, necks, arms, torsos and legs.

 

The biggest thing is not to stare.

 

I told her not to stare. I think I overtried not to stare my first time. It’s even harder than when I was in a locker room at the gym. Of course no men in the locker room. You also become self conscious and I didn’t get used to it quick.

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It's hard (pun not intended) to not stare as a newby. After a while you will one day realize that you haven't been staring. That is when you can complement someone on their appearance, or their tats, or their flat stomach without sounding like a pervert. Welcome to naturism.

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We both wear sunglasses. No one else can see where our eyes actually are.

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I look at the whole package, women and men. I'm a people watcher. I'll sit for an hour on a flight layover or delay and just watch folks. I find people very interesting. I find naked people interesting and erotic. I like to see genitalia in all forms.

 

I do try NOT to stare.

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It really doesn't take that long before you notice that since everyone is nude, there really isn't that much to look at. After the first 30 minutes, it's just more of the same. Only hard rule is if you are talking with someone, look them in the eyes.

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It really depends. I love to look at guys and am comfortable with them looking at me although most do try to hide it. If we get to talking and it becomes clear that he or she are swingers, we will even comment about their “parts” if it comes up in conversation. I have told guys that I liked the way their cocks look or like the way they have groomed. If they are pure nudists we don’t go there.

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.. I admit even though being straight I had to look at the women too. ..
I would say that I am 50/50, but look at women way more often. They are just prettier and more fascinating. To me, there is just one standard for a sexually attractive man, but for women there are lots of variations of beautiful.

 

. .. Am I the only one looking at genitalia? Male and female? .
No, I'm looking at both. I admire testicles, which are easily seen. Female genitalia is usually hidden except for the occasional spread legs or larger/puffier labia, like mine.

 

.. . I honestly don’t think about sex outright..
Many times I don't as well.

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I would say that I am 50/50, but look at women way more often. They are just prettier and more fascinating. To me, there is just one standard for a sexually attractive man, but for women there are lots of variations of beautiful

 

No, I'm looking at both. I admire testicles, which are easily seen. Female genitalia is usually hidden except for the occasional spread legs or larger/puffier labia, like mine.

 

Many times I don't as well.

 

I think men have many standards of attraction to look at. I want to say a penis is way from the first thing that attracts me to look at a man. I am thinking, I’m not looking at a penis unless something else attracts me first. Clothed or not clothed men can be attractive enough to look at. On a nude beach I will look at a great body, then look up at the face. I think I check a butt before a penis. Not saying I don’t notice a penis. I will also look at a woman who is physically attractive. Breasts. A butt too. I will notice if she is shaved or not. I great looking woman is just that great looking. A good body makes me make comparisons to myself.

I certainly would not say there are fewer criteria on looking at men.

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I don't lie, I tell people that I look at the nude beach goers from head to toe, and I think most enjoy being looked at. I have had women even position themselves to give you a better look, if it's bending over right in front of you or spreading their legs when they notice you are looking. My gal when she knows guys are looking at her, she will stand up and put on a show by applying suntan lotion. A British lady used to put on one hell of a show at the poolside shower.

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Hubby and I both wear sunglasses at the nude beach. I’d be disappointed if men weren’t checking me out as thoroughly as they wanted to. That’s a turn on for me.  And in turn hubby and I both enjoy the views. 

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On 9/6/2019 at 6:08 PM, Shore2Please said:

 

I told her not to stare... It’s even harder than when I was in a locker room at the gym. Of course no men in the locker room.

I've never been to a nude beach, but to nude spas in Europe.  The one I go to most often has only one locker room for men and women. 

 

51 minutes ago, Twilighttap said:

I’d be disappointed if men weren’t checking me out as thoroughly as they wanted to. That’s a turn on for me.

I'm not an exhibitionist, I'm more of a "look if you want" type of girl.  If you find something interesting with my naked body, check it out. 

 

On 12/1/2022 at 11:11 PM, let's do it again said:

I have had women even position themselves to give you a better look,.. spreading their legs when they notice you are looking.

Women's genitalia is more tucked in, so I'll spread if someone is looking.  As many women as men do.

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3 minutes ago, couplers said:

I've never been to a nude beach, but to nude spas in Europe.  The one I go to most often has only one locker room for men and women. 

My favorite is the Friedrichsbad in Baden-Baden, Germany.  There are times for men alone, women alone and coed. I've always been there during the coed times.

 

The website is http://www.carasana.de/en/friedrichsbad0/.   

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Staring is rude, but lots of nudies (like us) enjoy watching and being watched so no need to avert your eyes.  Look around and enjoy!

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21 hours ago, AdamGunn2 said:

My favorite is the Friedrichsbad in Baden-Baden, Germany.

The one that I go to most frequently is the Taunus Therme in Bad Homburg vor der Höhe, Germany outside of Frankfurt.  It is 50% nude 100% of the time.

 

Their website is:

https://www.taunus-therme.de/

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18 minutes ago, NC_Seniors said:

Everywhere except directly at the sun!   😂

Remember the Seinfeld episode in which George kept staring at the boss’ daughter’s cleavage? Jerry said you can’t do that, it’s like staring into the sun. You have to sneak a peak. 

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21 hours ago, njbm said:

Remember the Seinfeld episode

Or the joke about the difference between an accountant and an actuary?  An accountant is someone who, when conversing with someone, stares at the other person's shoes.  An actuary stares at his own shoes.

 

 

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Surely one of the great things about being at a nude beach is beach is looking around. Looking here, looking there, looking everywhere. After all it is a open area and we are all naked and enjoying the view...

(Yes don't STARE..) Behave like a reasonable person, not a nude 'Zombie'...

(Also I do often glance at the men to see if match up...)

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