We are brand new-how do I find a "soft" swing club in my area?

[Swingingmaybe 17]

No idea where to start. Thanks in advance.

[lcmim 1,086]

No idea where to start. Thanks in advance.

 

I do not know if there is any such thing as a "soft swing club". I do know that in any group of LS people there are those willing to play soft if that is your need and many who are pleased to shepherd a newbie couple.

 

Find any group or party within your driving range and step on in. Networking opportunities will arise.

 

Be open and honest about your situation and remain within the parameters that you have set.

Stay in constant communication with each other the first time or two , there is less of a chance of something going awry.

[Swingingmaybe 17]

Thank you, we will take your advice!

[Fla-swing99 136]

We would suggest joining an online swing site and creating a profile page indicating you are brand new and what both your comfort levels are to start. Have a pic of the both of you for people to see what you look like from the beginning.

 

There are many couples/sf/sm that welcome soft swap couples even if they themselves are listed as full swap.

 

We don't know of any clubs per se that are "soft swap" clubs. Joining a swinger site you are able to list and indicate what you are looking for and what your swing status is, that way people know exactly what you are comfortable with. Also meet n greets can be very beneficial to meeting new people.

[adamgunn 1,461]

They are all 'soft-swing' clubs. As you are meeting couples at the club, simply let them know you have a limit. (I assume that you mean no PIV, but oral is okay; that's the 'classic' definition of soft-swing. If that's not it just tell your prospective partners before you begin engaging.)

 

You may have some couples that say, 'no thanks.' They'd rather wait for full-swap. That's okay, it's their loss, isn't it?

[padoc 1,704]

Adam is right. There are all kinds of swingers at clubs but most are very understanding about other peoples sexual limits. When you meet a couple, state those limits up front, usually about the time the conversation starts to turn sexual and just as hands start to roam. If the other couple wants more than what you're willing to do, that gives them (and you)the opportunity to move on and find what you all want for that evening. We started at clubs and over about a year evolved from watching to touching to soft swap and then eventually just eased into full swap. It was, by the time it happened, an entirely natural culmination of our progression. For you, what you do from here should be about what you and your wife want to experience and what you're willing to share with others. You don't have to take one step more than you want to with anybody. Lots of new couples a wary of swingers clubs because they are concerned about others expectations of them because they are at a club. You owe no one nothing other than adult behavior and the price of admission to the club and civility.

 

On our 2nd or 3rd visit to a club in Maryland, we passed an open door where a nice looking couple was playing with a sybian. Both were naked and aroused. Mrs Doc had wanted to try one and the couple invited us in to share the toy and more. While I were very tempted, I could tell my wife was apprehensive so I thanked them and we moved on to a room just for us. What we had seen in that room and the alternative possibilities fueled a lot of conversation (and good sex) with us for weeks. We saw that couple again about 6 months later. Turned out he flew C-5's from Dover AFB. We soft swapped with them a couple of times and had about decided that they would be our 1st full swap experience. Unfortunately, he was transferred overseas and we lost track of them. 15 years later, we remember them and those early experiences fondly. If you stay within your comfort zone, so will you.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

They are all 'soft-swing' clubs. As you are meeting couples at the club, simply let them know you have a limit.

This is true.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Yes, any swing event is what you make of it. There will be a wide range there of people making of it what they want to, so that means everything from no sex at all, including with each other, all the way up to full swap with multiple partners. Just stay true to what you want and are willing to do and find your niche and you will have fun and along the way probably find others looking for exactly what you are looking for.