Recently went on a lifestyle cruise with a group of 22

[njbm 2,901]

We usually couple swap. Not clear that anyone else in the group did. We went to one semi-naked party where everyone stared at each other. We had a hot tub encounter with another couple. We attended a party where they were putting whipped cream on women’s boobs and licking it off. We left early, not excited to have entire party lick wife’s boobs. Some guys not her speed.

 

We asked another couple to come to our room to play after massive flirting by their husband. They said yes. Then they did not show up and did not call. We called them and got a stuttering excuse. We presume they flirt, don’t play. Our bad, should’ve vetted better.

 

No one asked us to play. We are reasonably attractive for our age (my wife more so) and we were within the average age of the group.

 

Find it odd. Lots of show, no go. We had a great time anyway.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Sorry it wasn't all that you hoped it would be. After making that sort of time and money investment, I can see how it would be disappointing, but sounds like you managed those expectations well so still had a great time. Good for you!

 

I have to say I'm sort of surprised. We've never been on a swinger cruise, so completely talking from perception and not reality here. But back to the time and money investment thing, I would have thought that people who went on a cruise would be more serious (for lack of a better word) about it. Instead, it sounds more like a club, where it's easy to go and be a looker instead of a doer.

[NC_Seniors 519]

You said that nobody asked you to play, but you also said, "We had a hot tub encounter with another couple." So what exactly was the encounter?

[njbm 2,901]

We were in a hot tub and five of us played spontaneously. I am more of the let’s ask a couple to our room and swap partners type.

[njbm 2,901]

I was surprised. We expected experienced swingers. Except for one peppy couple and a couple of flirty men, it was a very reluctant group. Expect more fireworks on November Bliss.

[Guest]

We had a similar 'lack of exilerance’ experience on a nude cruise. We marked it off to not fully understanding the differences between nudes and swingers that point in time. Had always assumed an actual “swingers” cruise would be better, more like Desires or at least our local couples club. Nice to know, not necessarily so. Thanks for posting.

[njbm 2,901]

There are show horses and race horses. Our group was mostly show horses. Unless everyone else was boinking and didn’t invite us. Which we doubt.

 

After we invited that couple who stood us up, we decided to vet other potential couples first. My wife had a long talk with another wife. She found out that that wife only plays with other bi females while her husband watches. Not our play style, good to know.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

No one asked us to play.

 

Did you ask anyone to play. Sometimes nothing happens because everyone is waiting for the other couple to ask...

[njbm 2,901]

Read paragraph 2 of the original post. We asked a couple to play. They said yes, then no showed and no called. The drama daily double.

 

I am the Chairman of the Ask the other couple to play committee. I much prefer that another couple say no to us than forever wonder what might have been. If another couple has the nerve to ask us to play, we really hate to say no, but of course we will if necessary. But generally we are flattered if asked and will usually give the other couple a shot.