Surprised me

[Jimmyalan 16]

My wife is the best lover I have ever had. Even though she says her sex life before me is boring and says that I’m far and away her best lover.

She’s excited by literotica or my fantasies as I tell them to her. The past three years our second life has become even better. She has opened up about her turn on’s and kinks. I make sure to incorporate them often. She is shy and quiet and rarely ever talks to strangers And also a thinker always thinking through every scenario while I react when things come my way.

 

So I was highly surprised when she said we need to schedule a trip to Las Vegas, I thought gambling and spa. Man was I wrong. She followed it up with a link to a brothel. FFM threesome and possibly her watching for a bit. All new to us. I asked why and she said she thinks it’s safe. They’re tested and non emotional.

Being with a professional seems odd to me, as I would always rather be with a real person we’re comfortable with.

Is this odd?

We have zero experience in this area which is overwhelming and nobody to run these questions by other than each other.

Any advice or tips?

[ViSexual 1,008]

We never used a pro but I've heard of swingers doing it. And, she's probably correct about Vegas being a safer place for it. And, honestly, finding a non-pro for a FFM isn't easy.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Welcome to the Board. There is a TON of advise on starting swinging here and a great community to help.

If FFM is your goal, a pro will save a ton of time and frustration. We haven't used one but have spoken with several who have. Come to find out, prostitutes are real people!

A high percentage of couples feel ffm is the safest way to start swinging. Single female swingers are called unicorns, due to the rare sightings. Your system is set up to succeed. Congrats on the super cool wife.

[Ozzie+Harriet 84]

You can't do that legally in Las Vegas. You need to plan your "vacation" destination to be one of the counties in which your plans are legal. If you don't care about legality, you might as well stay home and look where you live.

[enhancer 1,585]

We have never and would never use a pro ourselves, because it would be impossible for us to get turned on knowing someone is only fucking us, because we paid them!

 

If that isn’t a problem for you then why not if that is what she wants.

[padoc 1,703]

I can tell you after a number of years undercover in vice and narcotics, the reality of a hooker/escort will NEVER live up to the fantasy unless you're wealthy enough to reach into the "exclusive" category. Generally speaking, you get what you pay for and unless you're willing to spring four figures with a decimal after the last 0, you'd do better in a meat market at home or on a swingers site.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

You can't do that legally in Las Vegas.

 

You can't do that in all of Clark County (which includes Las Vegas). Even though the saying is 'what happens in Vegas...', getting arrested for prostitution will NOT stay in Vegas. If you do go forward with this, make sure you go out of the county...or go to Reno where it is still legal. Maybe check out some episodes of 'Cathouse' which takes place at the Bunny Ranch in the Reno area. Wish you good luck with this and be sure to report back!

[bbarnsworth 2,640]

I concur that prostitution isn't legal in Vegas. In fact, the closest brothel to Vegas is just over an hour away. Certainly reachable, but not in Vegas. Brothels are not legal in Reno, as Reno is in Washoe County and the population is too high. But, legal brothels are just a short drive away from downtown. I also concur you get what you pay for.

 

I strongly, strongly, in the most adamant of terms, encourage you NOT to use illegal prostitutes for this. You stand a decent chance of getting arrested, finding yourself in real trouble, and/or contracting a disease, as something north of 50% of prostitutes have various STIs. Don't do it. It's NOT worth it. If you're willing to travel for this, go somewhere where this is legal. Nevada is a great option. Prostitutes at legal brothels in Nevada are required to get regular STD checks. The brothels are safe environments, where the prostitutes can not be addicted to drugs, alcoholic, etc. and they are taken care of.

 

It's cool that your wife has brought this up. It sounds like your communication is strong. I would encourage you to fully discuss this with your wife so that you understand each other's expectations, limits, etc. Fantasy is one thing; reality is quite another. She might fantasize about you being with another woman, but seeing it is quite another thing.

 

Please absolutely feel free to ask us as many questions as you like. We're a helpful bunch here, and we will tell you our honest opinions based on what you tell us.