Hubby struggles with couple but great with 3some

[South_ALswing 15]

So we have been hobby swingers for many years...meaning we aren't out there every weekend partaking in the fun. We have had several couple experiences over the years. When we first started it was with our good friends...soft swap only but was always so hot. Hubby was always hard and never any issues.

 

Fast forward to finding other couples to full swap with..we have had a few experiences and all have been positive. It seems like we have noticed a pattern of hubby not being able to maintain his erection when we are in this environment. With one couple that was the case the 1st time we played...the 2nd time we played together it seemed to be better. Since then we have also experienced a couple of MFM scenarios and he was definitely rock solid the entire time. So in talking with each other we have determined that he is definitely all about seeing me be pleasured etc. And while he has been turned on during those other times we think it is the whole "preplanned" feeling and pressure of performance with others around.

 

Just curious if anyone else has been through something similar.

 

I will add that he has Cialis and uses it for these occasions.

[padoc 1,704]

Have you tried separate rooms?? Sometimes meeting expectations or over stimulation in a 4-some is difficult for some guys. Betcha he'd work just fine in a 1 on 1 situation.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

I have not experienced what you describe and I am no kind of medical professional. But based upon the information that is packed with a prescription, I strongly suspect that Cialis is not intended for occasional use. It is effective when used every day -- several days of use are needed for building to a therapeutic level.

 

Viagra is the drug that is meant for occasional use.

[EastInWest 1,524]

I have not experienced what you describe and I am no kind of medical professional. But based upon the information that is packed with a prescription, I strongly suspect that Cialis is not intended for occasional use. It is effective when used every day -- several days of use are needed for building to a therapeutic level.

 

Viagra is the drug that is meant for occasional use.

 

Cialis is definitely intended for occasional use. They used to market it as "the weekend pill" because it has a long half-life, and if you've got the dosage right, it works perfectly for that. Some years later, they started selling 5mg as an approved daily supplement, which is a whole different thing.

 

For recreational use, I've always used 10. If I take it at lunch on Friday it'll be in full effect by dinner and I'll still be dealing with unwanted hard-ons on Monday and Tuesday.

 

OP's situation sounds like a lot of psychological anxiety about being with a woman in front of OP. It's pretty reasonable to initially be afraid of playing with another woman in front of your wife. Maybe more communication that she wants this and is happy with it would be key.