special opinion on the content of swingers between couples,,

[NewSw 37]

Due to the many factors that surround the work swingers from reservations due to some things such as: - Jealousy and shame, which delays the extent of acceptance of one of the companions of a corresponding couple, caution from transmission. Fear that one couple will leave the other because of the admiration of the relationship partners.

* So in my personal opinion that the rational swingers relationship is closer to a soft swap system, start watching porn movies together two pairs or more and then each couple have sex in front of another couple and perhaps through the help of one of the couple (touching or kissing or embrace and suck And lick) and so on. I strongly believe that the basis of the idea of ​​swing is such a start and continued for such a long period of time because of the reservations I mentioned and because this system is also acceptable and leads to the access to the desired pleasure somewhat . If the idea of ​​swinging is presented in this way, we may find more than 50% of people join the swingers . .

Finally, for me, I very much wish to swap the whole room in one room, but there are also many reservations . Finally, I apologize for the poor quality of my English

[cplnuswing 4,713]

There are a lot of different ways to get started swinging, and no one approach is the right one for everyone. As you say though, some form of soft swap is probably the most common. Our first experience was full swap with another couple, and it worked for us

[enhancer 1,586]

There is no one universal way that people swing! For us there is no reservations, no jealousy and no shame. We do who and what we want, because we can. If we are attracted to people and the interest is mutual it is on.

 

As for everyone in a room of swingers playing with everyone else in the room just, because they are also swingers that it just not going to happen with us. If we are not really attracted to someone then we are not going to be playing with them. Being a swinger doesn’t mean you are part of a club where everyone has to play with you just, because you choose the same lifestyle as much as many people seem to think it does.

[JandKinBoise 859]

This post reminds me of high school. The 4 of us started by having sex in our cars, with the cars parked close together. Then we started having sex in her basement, the girls laying next to each other, eventually holding hands and later still, kissing. Eventually, the girls would start us off with heavy making out, fingering and 69. Then the swap, he and I went to the fridge for a beer, when we went back into the bedroom the girls had swapped places in the bed. It was then I found out I was not cool with that aspect yet, and wouldn't be for 30+ more years.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

The rules of swinging are whatever you (all) decide them to be... same room, soft swap, full, whatever. In our experience, if jealousy is an issue, there are other underlying problems that should be addressed before continuing. Set your own rules and boundaries and see where it leads.

[adamgunn 1,461]

We've been swinging for a long time. For us, and the vast majority of our partners - no, let me rephrase this, ALL of our partners - once we've agreed to head into a room and have fun, that's been all the consent we've ever required. If the couple or single has some requirement, such as no kissing, soft-swap only, or condoms required (that's always been our rule,) it's discussed before clothes start coming off. That way, if a person doesn't agree to it, we can choose not to go into a room and no feelings are hurt.

 

If somebody is doing something to someone that isn't comfortable, someone will say, "Stop," or words to that effect. We stop, we figure out what's happening, then we go back to having fun.

 

Swinging is a sport for adults. If you're not one, mentally, don't swing.

[padoc 1,704]

"Swinging is a sport for adults. If you're not one, mentally, don't swing." BRILLIANT!!!

[Numex 2,459]

Swinging has made me much more sensitive to the fact that different partners have different likes and desires. It is very good for my ego when I can satisfy those, even the ones I'm not particularly into. Actually, especially those I'm not particularly into. The satisfaction of having figured her out and got it right.

[NewSw 37]

There is no one universal way that people swing! For us there is no reservations, no jealousy and no shame. We do who and what we want, because we can. If we are attracted to people and the interest is mutual it is on.

 

As for everyone in a room of swingers playing with everyone else in the room just, because they are also swingers that it just not going to happen with us. If we are not really attracted to someone then we are not going to be playing with them. Being a swinger doesn’t mean you are part of a club where everyone has to play with you just, because you choose the same lifestyle as much as many people seem to think it does.

 

Congratulations you are lucky, you have overcome all the difficulties and reservations, this is wonderful

[NewSw 37]

This post reminds me of high school. The 4 of us started by having sex in our cars, with the cars parked close together. Then we started having sex in her basement, the girls laying next to each other, eventually holding hands and later still, kissing. Eventually, the girls would start us off with heavy making out, fingering and 69. Then the swap, he and I went to the fridge for a beer, when we went back into the bedroom the girls had swapped places in the bed. It was then I found out I was not cool with that aspect yet, and wouldn't be for 30+ more years.

 

Then, did you marry the same girl too?

[NewSw 37]

This post reminds me of high school. The 4 of us started by having sex in our cars, with the cars parked close together. Then we started having sex in her basement, the girls laying next to each other, eventually holding hands and later still, kissing. Eventually, the girls would start us off with heavy making out, fingering and 69. Then the swap, he and I went to the fridge for a beer, when we went back into the bedroom the girls had swapped places in the bed. It was then I found out I was not cool with that aspect yet, and wouldn't be for 30+ more years.

 

The rules of swinging are whatever you (all) decide them to be... same room, soft swap, full, whatever. In our experience, if jealousy is an issue, there are other underlying problems that should be addressed before continuing. Set your own rules and boundaries and see where it leads.

 

thank u

[NewSw 37]

This post reminds me of high school. The 4 of us started by having sex in our cars, with the cars parked close together. Then we started having sex in her basement, the girls laying next to each other, eventually holding hands and later still, kissing. Eventually, the girls would start us off with heavy making out, fingering and 69. Then the swap, he and I went to the fridge for a beer, when we went back into the bedroom the girls had swapped places in the bed. It was then I found out I was not cool with that aspect yet, and wouldn't be for 30+ more years.

 

We've been swinging for a long time. For us, and the vast majority of our partners - no, let me rephrase this, ALL of our partners - once we've agreed to head into a room and have fun, that's been all the consent we've ever required. If the couple or single has some requirement, such as no kissing, soft-swap only, or condoms required (that's always been our rule,) it's discussed before clothes start coming off. That way, if a person doesn't agree to it, we can choose not to go into a room and no feelings are hurt.

 

If somebody is doing something to someone that isn't comfortable, someone will say, "Stop," or words to that effect. We stop, we figure out what's happening, then we go back to having fun.

 

Swinging is a sport for adults. If you're not one, mentally, don't swing.

 

thank u

[NewSw 37]

This post reminds me of high school. The 4 of us started by having sex in our cars, with the cars parked close together. Then we started having sex in her basement, the girls laying next to each other, eventually holding hands and later still, kissing. Eventually, the girls would start us off with heavy making out, fingering and 69. Then the swap, he and I went to the fridge for a beer, when we went back into the bedroom the girls had swapped places in the bed. It was then I found out I was not cool with that aspect yet, and wouldn't be for 30+ more years.

 

Swinging has made me much more sensitive to the fact that different partners have different likes and desires. It is very good for my ego when I can satisfy those, even the ones I'm not particularly into. Actually, especially those I'm not particularly into. The satisfaction of having figured her out and got it right.

 

thank u

[NewSw 37]

This post reminds me of high school. The 4 of us started by having sex in our cars, with the cars parked close together. Then we started having sex in her basement, the girls laying next to each other, eventually holding hands and later still, kissing. Eventually, the girls would start us off with heavy making out, fingering and 69. Then the swap, he and I went to the fridge for a beer, when we went back into the bedroom the girls had swapped places in the bed. It was then I found out I was not cool with that aspect yet, and wouldn't be for 30+ more years.

 

There are a lot of different ways to get started swinging, and no one approach is the right one for everyone. As you say though, some form of soft swap is probably the most common. Our first experience was full swap with another couple, and it worked for us

 

yes, this is also what I think, soft swap is more common .

thank u