Intimidated by length of sex

[ToeDippers 83]

We recently met a couple where we only knew the woman before. She told us that her male friend would be plenty of fun for my wife. We both were thinking he was most likely be big even though she said that want the case. Most of our previous play has centered on two women playing and that led to full swinging.

We met our friend and her male friend for drinks at a bar we go to. Our meeting went very well and we agreed to go play. I always feel strange and never am sure how to initiate things. As in previous meetings the girls started and I and the new friend joined in.

I definitely didn’t finish too fast even if it was well before my wife and her play partner. I watched them go in and on and I got hard again and went for a second time. I thought I went pretty long and then realized my wife never stopped.

I’m figuring they went non-stop for at least two hours.

My wife and our friend finally got him to finish after another half hour of oral sex.

I felt very inferior that night.

[padoc 1,703]

Your wife had a good time. It sounds like you and the other woman had fun too. Isn't that what this hobby is all about? You know, fun times and good sex that we can share with friends. Sounds like you did that so there is no reason to feel inferior.

[njbm 2,870]

Don’t bring a stopwatch to swinging sessions. I often come faster than I would like. Many men my age have difficulty coming. We are focused on trying our best and pleasuring our partner.

[lcmim 1,082]

What does your wife say? There is a good chance that after two hours she was wondering what was wrong that she wasn't getting him off.

[njbm 2,870]

My wife would be looking to sneak out the door if some guy was riding her for two hours. I think she would waive the white flag much earlier.

[TricianMike 772]

Inferior? You went twice, just that takes that feeling away. From what you stated I think your friend knew your wife was in for a long night. Two hours is a marathon and I’m sure I would have called it quits way before that. I know it would have pained me. I rather my partner finish when I orgasm, well maybe after a second orgasm. I would much more prefer a man to go twice over a man who goes that long. Your wife did what I would have done just I would have done it much sooner.

You didn’t say if your wife enjoyed the experience or if she ached after. Some women would be jealous of her, just not me.

[ToeDippers 83]

What does your wife say? There is a good chance that after two hours she was wondering what was wrong that she wasn't getting him off.

 

I asked her and she did at some point think she was doing something wrong. She also was afraid to stop him. We are still learning what is acceptable even if we know that she is always in charge of what is going on. Since I posted this I asked questions about the experience and she said it started great. He was nice to her and her words, he knew what to do. She had several orgasms just a short time after he started. She would have stopped after a few. They changed positions every couple of minutes and she thought that each time they did he would finish, he didn’t. At some point she said it was too much and not pleasant. When she couldn’t anymore she finally stopped.

We have since found out that he is a marathon runner and has run over a dozen marathons. On top of that he can hold back forever and the woman who set this up knew all that.

I don’t know how to hold back that long. I know not all men can go on and on. I feel like a hero if I go ten minutes after entry. I have read 2-10 minutes is average, except for liars who are also 10 inches.

This fellow wasn’t that large but just didn’t stop. When the girls worked together with hands and mouths he did ejaculate. He didn’t have a problem at all.

[couplers 4,638]

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I definitely didn’t finish too fast even if it was well before my wife and her play partner. I watched them go in and on and I got hard again and went for a second time. I thought I went pretty long and then realized my wife never stopped.

I’m figuring they went non-stop for at least two hours...

I felt very inferior that night.

Both of you seem like you did a good job, but I would much rather have a guy that comes about the time that I do, gets hard again, then go a second time with me.

[PSULioness 844]

You should not feel inferior, you’re normal. I am thinking the woman you were with was much luckier than your wife. A session lasting two hours is great if it includes more than just letting a guy go in and on. I would be in pain and I would have quit. I much rather go a few times and rest, even cuddle, between more sex. For me, the first and second time is great. I get diminishing returns after that. 15 minutes then stop, rest, another 10-15 minutes is still great. I can’t imagine two hours non stop.

[enhancer 1,585]

I really don’t think there is anything to feel inferior about as far as how long you go before cumming! Sex isn’t just about the old penis in the vagina. At least I hope it isn’t for most people out there. You have a mouth and hands use them if your wife is still getting hammered by her play partner. I know my missus has no problem with guys that get busy without using their cock.

 

Since I have got older I have become one those guys that goes for what is probably to long for some people out there. It doesn’t seem to be a problem for my lady, because she is used to it and is blessed with unlimited orgasms herself so as long as I keep going she keep cumming. It does cause us to have to take a day off in between here and there though.

 

As far as playing with other people I do my best to gauge how long the other person can handle it and stop when it becomes obvious they have had enough! There has been many times I don’t cum at all when playing with others in the lifestyle. It isn’t because they are doing anything wrong and I make sure they don’t leave feeling they did. I do not need to cum myself to have a great time as long as the person I am playing with is taking care of I am happy.

[padoc 1,703]

As said above, as I get older, orgasms don't come as often or as easily as they did in my 20's. Im happy to still have solid erection on demand and I LOVE playing with a new partner whether I cum or not. Mrs Doc can't take a pounding for hours without ending up with a UTI. She happy with an attentive boink and multiple orgasms. If her partner cums, she's really happy, if he doesn't, she has her limits. If we're playing in the same room, I can tell when she's about done so I'll step in a have the guy tap out. If we're playing in separate rooms, shortly after my partner and I are done, we'll go look in on her quietly because she's hot to watch and to determine if she's had enough. At the end of the night, I don't care either way if there are sloppy seconds but neither of us want her so pounded that she's too sore for reclamation sex.

[Eddiem 139]

Experienced this myself. My wife was with a friend in a 3some and he shocked me by being to to fuck for ever...

We recently met a couple where we only knew the woman before. She told us that her male friend would be plenty of fun for my wife. We both were thinking he was most likely be big even though she said that want the case. Most of our previous play has centered on two women playing and that led to full swinging.

We met our friend and her male friend for drinks at a bar we go to. Our meeting went very well and we agreed to go play. I always feel strange and never am sure how to initiate things. As in previous meetings the girls started and I and the new friend joined in.

I definitely didn’t finish too fast even if it was well before my wife and her play partner. I watched them go in and on and I got hard again and went for a second time. I thought I went pretty long and then realized my wife never stopped.

I’m figuring they went non-stop for at least two hours.

My wife and our friend finally got him to finish after another half hour of oral sex.

I felt very inferior that night.

[Bluespruce1 706]

As always it’s about communication. Sometimes I want to be fucked slowly and over a long period of time with tons of lube. Other times I want it fast and hard. I always want my partner to come and I don’t want him to finish before i’m ready. I talk to my partner and I make sure he knows what I want and I make sure I know what he wants.

[Jane1902 476]

Maybe he took something to keep him going. The sad part is her not feeling comfortable speaking up when it was no longer felt good. I remember my first party with one man when I said it was starting to hurt he kept saying he was about to cum and just suggested changing positions. After two position changes I was done, too sore to even bother to offer to finish him orally. It’s always acceptable to say you are uncomfortable.

[ToeDippers 83]

Jane she did stop when it wasn’t fun, it was me who felt strange that I couldn’t go that long.

We saw him again the other night at the club we go to, not a swing club just a place we go to be with friends. It was a social setting and we got to talk over a beer. He is a good guy, I just never knew him before. I asked him how he goes so long and he came back with a How does she go so long. He was asking how my wife could fuck for two hours and that he was going to collapse if she didn’t stop. He said he does have the ability to hold back and always waits for a woman to give a signal. He said he was unsure if she wanted him to finish in her, no condom was used. He was saying all great things about the night.

[EastInWest 1,524]

It sounds like everyone had fun and nobody is disappointed, right?

 

This happens with me from time to time, even without any kind of pharmaceutical assistance. Especially if I'm working with a morning erection.

 

Communication is key as is self-awareness to make sure everybody's having fun. I've just stopped before when I can tell a partner is satisfied and I'm not going to get there anytime soon, which is a little disappointing but not as disappointing as leaving a partner sore and bored.

[kittyswinger 260]

I also experienced something similar in an mfm where the guy did me for 2 hours or more. My partner froze there watching and can't even jump in to join. He wasn't sure if I'm still comfortable with it but he can't stop the action because he hears me moaning continuosly. I'm multiorgasmic that's why. But after that my whole body sored and felt worn out for days.

 

The guy apologized later and he said he has the ability to hold back for a long time if he sees the woman enjoying. My partner admitted he felt intimidated too, just as you are, but I guess it is perfectly normal. Only very few guys can do that feat. Unfortunately, I lost my phone that week and wasn't able to communicate again for another meetup.

[fwblondon 19]

In our experience everyone enjoys different things. My Wife doesn't usually doesn't like to be fucked for long periods at a time so she loves a guy who cums quick. Can always go another round. As some have said here, with age sometimes it gets harder for a guy to cum.

 

I say enjoy that you can cum multiple times, we think that's awesome!

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I definitely didn’t finish too fast even if it was well before my wife and her play partner. I watched them go in and on and I got hard again and went for a second time. I thought I went pretty long and then realized my wife never stopped.

I’m figuring they went non-stop for at least two hours.

 

Unlike you after watching them for what felt like a very long time I was finally able to take my turn. I was so excited from watching them and she was so wet from his cum that I came after only a few strokes. I was embarrassed. Adding to my embarrassment was that he took another turn.

 

He put her into many different positions and had her in just about every way you can think of. It was fun to watch them but I felt very inferior.

[Havoc_Tia 27]

My wife would be looking to sneak out the door if some guy was riding her for two hours. I think she would waive the white flag much earlier.

 

me too!

[Johnny 10 0]

On 12/1/2019 at 10:50 AM, M1F2KTJ said:

 

Unlike you after watching them for what felt like a very long time I was finally able to take my turn. I was so excited from watching them and she was so wet from his cum that I came after only a few strokes. I was embarrassed. Adding to my embarrassment was that he took another turn.

 

He put her into many different positions and had her in just about every way you can think of. It was fun to watch them but I felt very inferior.

 That's awesome

[Johnny 10 0]

On 11/25/2019 at 11:03 AM, EastInWest said:

It sounds like everyone had fun and nobody is disappointed, right?

 

This happens with me from time to time, even without any kind of pharmaceutical assistance. Especially if I'm working with a morning erection.

 

Communication is key as is self-awareness to make sure everybody's having fun. I've just stopped before when I can tell a partner is satisfied and I'm not going to get there anytime soon, which is a little disappointing but not as disappointing as leaving a partner sore and bored.

 That's awesome

[Johnny 10 0]

That's awesome me and my wife just have treason 1st time